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6/20/18 10:42 P

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No point in subjecting yourself to this kind of behavior. Find a different class.



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6/20/18 9:54 P

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I am not partial to the "Drill Instructor" style of leadership, so my first choice would be to not go to spin class on days he was the instructor. Poor attendance in his classes is something that management would take notice of.

Depending on my mood and the actual instructor I would have a talk with him, not right after a class that you attend, but on a day you are not attending his class and won't be for another day or two. Option one would be to confront him about how you feel about what he is saying. This sometimes isn't the most effective with people who think they are giving you much needed tough love. Option two would be to bring up your limitations and ask him his advice on what modifications might work for you. There is a chance he might have some additional options that work for you and this puts you on the enlisting his help while letting him lead the class side of things rather than the disruption side.

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6/19/18 5:00 P

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URBANREDNEK ~

He got off his bike and came back to back row where i was and confronted me during class and that was the 2nd time it happen.But other girls have the same issue w him that what he did to me he did to them!

I tried what u have suggested but its not working at all so im going to email management about it .
I don't think they could banned me from that class or could they???

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6/19/18 2:57 P

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First of all - take a step back and honestly assess whether the comments from the instructor are meant to be instructional (as in - pointing out errors in form that could be harmful), if they are meant to be motivational (as in - "tough love" style of pushing for more effort), or if they are just pure insults from an instructor who feels that those who are less fit aren't worthy of even basic courtesy.

If you feel that it is either of the first two, then I would recommend first of all having a meeting with the instructor and explaining that you are finding their approach and wording to be more rude and insulting than helpful, and suggest how they could correct their approach in order to improve safety and performance without being offensive. If the instructor cares at all about their students and their job, then they should be receptive to this kind of constructive criticism.

If this doesn't help or if you honestly feel that this instructor has no good intentions in their approach, then a meeting with management is in order, with a written listing of specific incidents with dates / times / people addressed. A vague "he was rude and insulting" is not something that management can act upon, while "he yelled at me for not keeping up with this specific move at this specific time in this class --- which made me feel that he wanted to force me and everyone listening to disregard their own knowledge of what is safe for their body and level of fitness" gives them something that they can check on and address. Be able to explain why it took you almost a year to report the first incident, and chat with other students for examples from them.

Whether you speak directly with the instructor, or go to management, or speak with both together, make sure that you have the specifics listed and can clearly articulate what you want them to do in order to correct the situation. Be prepared to demand a refund and walk if necessary.

Oh - and personally, I would have equally loudly and publicly responded to the first comment (likely along the lines of "I'm busy taking care of my safety back here - since the instructor obviously isn't interested in that"), and followed that up with a private discussion with the instructor to explain that I found their approach to be unacceptable and potentially harmful, and made it quite clear that I was expecting all instructors to support the values and approach which had made me choose to invest the funds for this gym in the first place. If changes hadn't happened right away, then I would have taken my business elsewhere. Hiding in the back and feeling frightened of someone who I am paying --- nope, not gonna happen.

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6/19/18 2:18 P

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So ive tried everything i could think about to resolve this myself. Even getting some bluetooth earbuds listening to music to block out the rude comments / jokes about ppl even me! BUT i still follow what everyone is doing tho or at least try to - to my best ability. He has embarrassed me in front of the class during the class and this isn't the 1st time ( july 25 2017 ever since then i was afraid to go to his class in fear that it would repeat and be worse than the first time) hes done this to me last night was the 2nd time and the last straw cause he comes up to me and 1st of all has an attitude / bullish then acting like a dang high school teacher that has the power to kick ppl out of his class that isn't following or doing what he wants. I am going to email management about his behavior. Btw im always in the very back not disrupting anyone or inspiring anyone to do what i am doing. But keep in mind tho all the instructors there has one motto - you are the best coach for you cause u know your body better then us and if u can't do something then do it in a way u are able to. Well that motto doesn't fall in line w this instructor!!! So i forgot to tell yall that my gym is like a resort style gym and it aint cheap either but i am blessed to be able to afford it. So with that been said i don't expect that type of behavior from the instructors. Anyways i found that spin is the one thing i can do to lose weight and burn the most calories since im limited on what i can do cause of my knee surgeries so heres my question if you were me would u continue to go to the class sit in the way back and just ignore hes rude comments???

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