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1/29/18 6:00 P

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You can't want it for them and make it work. They have to want it and want it enough to follow through with what they need to do. You can offer to have them join you, but that is about it. You have heard the expression that you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make the horse drink? Same idea here. You can put everything in front of someone, but it doesn't matter unless they want to follow through.

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1/29/18 3:54 P

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Yep, motivation come from within, so you canNOT make someone be motivated. T They have to want it.

"We cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the hand."
~ Randy Pausch

"There's a difference between interest and commitment. When you're interested in doing something, you do it only when circumstance permit. When you're committed to something, you accept no excuses, only results."
~ Art Turock

"We have a saying in Tibet: If a problem can be solved, there is no use worrying about it. If it can't be solved, worrying will do no good."
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1/29/18 3:41 P

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Sorry, but you can't motivated someone who isn't interested. The best you can do is lead by example. Hopefully once they seen the success you and your friend are achieving by making lifestyle changes, they will join you. But until then, there's nothing you can do. In fact, if you continue to "nag" this person about making changes that they apparently aren't ready to make, you will likely alienate them even more. My best advise is to leave them alone to make their own lifestyle decisions.

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1/29/18 3:25 P

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Long story short, 3 of us are going through this healthy lifestyle change together. 2 out of the 3 are motivated, try sharing inspirational stories with each other, remind one another to weigh-in and utilize the site and fellow Spark Peeps for guidance. The third, unfortunately, is like pulling teeth and has passionately stated they have no interest in being motivated, hate that they're doing it but are begrudgingly doing it for the weight loss. This worries me because it's been a recipe for disaster in the past and around the holiday they started slipping back into 'old way'.

Any suggestions in how to motivate someone who only sees this as a diet and not a lifestyle change...I'm desperate here.

"If you want to know what a man’s like, take a good look at how he treats his inferiors, not his equals."

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