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7/23/17 11:20 P

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There is nothing wrong with your husband's routine. It works for him, so it is fine.

If you can't do that, that's okay too. Explore the foods you do enjoy eating. Find healthy recipes for your favorite foods. Perhaps you could benefit from going to a professional to help you come up with a food plan that will meet your nutritional needs, and make your taste buds happy.

I found that worrying about what others think of me is simply self torture, so I try not to do it. None of us is perfect in our healthy living journey, and that is okay too.


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7/22/17 6:34 P

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SP is the way to go. I tried everything for 30 years...EVERYTHING.

Finally realized I was paying everyone else money to tell me to do what I already knew what to do. I was paying for discipline. Sps plan will do that for free and put all control in your hands.

Your on the right track.



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7/22/17 6:18 P

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So what does appeal to you? It's not salads and you apparently didn't get what you needed from Weight Watchers, so you can rule those two out. So take a look at what you do want. Where does it not meet your calorie needs? So if you must have pizza, what can you do to make pizza work in the calorie range that you need to be in? Could you have a slice or two of bought pizza with a side salad or a vegetable based soup? I know you said salads all day, every day isn't for you, but a side salad is a pretty easy way to get in some vegetables, especially if all you have to do is get a little bit of someone else's salad. Broth based soups are easy to bulk cook, portion out and freeze. You could also do this with a day or two cooked vegetable sides at a time, again, depending on your preferences. If you are willing to make your own, you could try mushroom caps, cauliflower crust, pita/english muffin.wraps as your base and load it up with vegetables.
Basically figure out what you want and then tweak what you want to fit in with your needs. I have a love/hate relationship with boxed pasta mixes. They're fast and I kinda like the taste, even though every time I have one I am reminded of how much more I enjoy my cooking. As I am typing this I am eating a Spanish Rice mix. I started with olive oil in the pan and added a cup of chopped onion. I chop and freeze my onion for just such lazy occasions. Once the onion was cooked I added the mix and water and let it cook. Once it was cooked I heated up some frozen cauliflower and peas and beans and added about 3/4 cup of the rice mix to the vegetables and beans. So I am eating just over two cups of food for dinner, but it's only about 2/3 cup of the actual rice mix. Which means instead of eating the full 240 cals and 620 sodium, I'm getting 158 cals and 409 sodium from the mix, but I have also added a cup of vegetables that now taste like the mix. It's not a starter ratio by any means, but you could probably find 1/8 cup of some vegetable that you like that you could add to a cup of whatever mix until you adjust to it and can increase the portion of vegetables and eventually keep adding more veg and decreasing the portion size of the original. Make changes like that if that's what you need to do.



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7/20/17 5:06 P

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You need to eat what your body needs. Every body out there has slightly different needs, and if you're not fueling properly, that can be just as detrimental to losing weight as eating a bit too much.

I cannot do the same thing day after day either. I can do salads for lunches for a couple/few weeks, but even as just one meal I need to mix it up. If I'm too bored with a food I just won't eat it - and will usually give in to getting something that sounds way better. So I'm MUCH better off providing myself with enjoyable meals that I like and will actually eat rather than binging on crap that was easy to get.

Let him eat his salads, but see if he'd maybe be willing to help you plan and prep some meals for yourself? Maybe he'd like to use some of the ingredients as well (say, if you cook up some chicken for yourself, he may want some for his salads) - just an idea on how to both be engaged in the process.

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7/20/17 4:46 P

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Same. The first 37 came off easily but now........ugh

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LUANN_IN_PA Posts: 26,989
7/6/17 6:14 P

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"he can't change his routine. "
Nor should he have to.

"We cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the hand."
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7/6/17 5:40 P

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Yes, I've sat down and talked to him about it, but he can't change his routine.
I know this is mostly in my head and I should be able to handle it.

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7/6/17 12:34 P

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Me too!



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7/6/17 12:31 P

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"I feel like he is judging me"
So he is really NOT judging you, but you are scared to eat something other than what he is eating???

Have you sat down and talked to him about this?

My husband and I eat different things all the time, as we have varied likes and dislikes. (For example, he dislikes shrimp, and I won't eat blueberries.) It is not an issue.

Edited by: LUANN_IN_PA at: 7/6/2017 (12:32)
"We cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the hand."
~ Randy Pausch

"There's a difference between interest and commitment. When you're interested in doing something, you do it only when circumstance permit. When you're committed to something, you accept no excuses, only results."
~ Art Turock

"We have a saying in Tibet: If a problem can be solved, there is no use worrying about it. If it can't be solved, worrying will do no good."
~ 7 Years in T
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7/6/17 10:54 A

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So I was doing WW and lost 20 lbs which is now mostly back as it seems to happen. My husband lost a lot of weight on his own and he eats salads all day every day. I just can't do that. It doesn't get me excited and it is hard because he doesn't really want anything but the salads for meals.
I need more but I feel guilty when I don't eat a salad and then I just start that vicious cycle because I feel like he is judging me for failing.

Does anyone else have this problem or is it just me?

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