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7/19/18 9:39 A

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Prema, I thought that you would be heading down under in the middle of winter and I'm surprised that you would be going then. You need some sort of garment that breaks the wind from getting to your core. Many layers can help too. Also, most important are to cover the feet, hands and head. I would love to see a picture of you in your winter clothes.
I have at least a week left in the boot. That's when I go back to the doctor. He will do x-rays at that appointment.



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Hi Pat. It's the southern hemisphere so it's winter in Melbourne and I am soooooo not looking forward to it. I have my thermals and my winter stuff - but no matter how I cover myself up, the wind seems to blow right through my bones!
Promised myself that this will be my last winter trip to any country and hereafter, I will only travel in late spring, summer and early autumn.....many options still available for me!!

Dhivia has given me a list of stuff to get for her. And it feels like she has pushed the matter between her father and me completely out of her mind. Which is good in some ways but not so good if she comes back for a holiday and is not prepared for the changes that she will be experiencing. Anyway, I will cross that bridge when I get to it.

How's the foot, my kawan? Any chance the boot has been given the permanent boot? emoticon

Beeeeeeg Hugs to all of you, Prema

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Prema, enjoy your trip to Australia. Is this time of year when they experience cooler days? I'm wondering how Dhivia will react to you regarding the divorce. Her brother must have told her by now how her father behaved during the move out.
Wishing everyone a lovely Wednesday.



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I had to laugh at your description. Pitchforks and torches!!! That was funny.....

I am leaving for Melbourne on the night of 25th July and I return on 30th night. My friends in Melbourne (including common friends with DeMon) want to see me and I could only allocate time on Thursday and Friday in the day time when Dhivia is at work. Friday evening, Saturday and Sunday will all be allocated to Dhivia.

Hi Kathy. Happy belated birthday, my kawan. I saw the pictures of you on Facebook celebrating your big day with your pals. That smile was so fetching....
I am so glad that you were out there celebrating your big day.

Hi Ei. Any prognosis to report back?

Have a great hump day, lovely ladies. Beeeeeeg Hugs, Prema

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Prema, my driver's license picture would scare babies and cause the locals to grab pitchforks and torches! I think document pictures were meant to be awful and that there is a little devilthat takes your picture and Photoshops it before it comes out. I think 99% of the population would agree with me. When are you headed to Australia?



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Hi Pat. I felt the hug. I did! Big time!!! Thank you, my kawan.

Why do passports present our worst face ever!!!
The 6 months validity on my passport expires on the day I leave for Australia and I had only one page left, so I decided to renew my passport this morning. It was pretty decent timing because they had a separate queue for senior citizens (60 years and above) and there's no forms to fill up any more. All good. Until I had to take the picture and there's no way you could give them one of your own on the basis of it being a much better shot than the one they would be taking!!!
So, they took the shot twice for me. And I look frightful! I looked worse in the second shot than I did in the first, and since the first had been deleted, we had no choice but to use the second shot. I know I am vain....but you would have felt the same way had you been there!!! emoticon

I just love the fact that I am now a senior citizen and get 50% off the charges on my passport. Yeah! Yeah!!

Have a good one today, Kathy, Pat and Ei. From the one and only vain pot in the group!!!!

Beeeeeeg Hugs, Prema

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Prema, it's good to hear that you are on your way to feeling comfortable with your new surroundings. You are going to defeat DeMon! No doubt about it. You are strong and determined and can make it through all f this. I hope you can feel this heartfelt hug I am sending you. 😉



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Hi Pat. I am so glad to see that the boot has not diminished your infectious sense of humour. I laughed out loud at your "I gave the boot the boot"....so glad that you had some time out from the house.

On Sunday, I went to the Lake Gardens on my own in the morning. It was safe. It was beautiful and there were quite a number of people enjoying the morning with some form of exercise or other. My new place is really conducive for a lot of things - gym, running, swimming and just plain relaxing. I am really glad that I moved to this place and I am feeling optimistic that I have the energy and strength to fight DeMon all the way....and win!
And I think life will just be getting better and better....for all of us.....

Have a lovely day, Pat, Kathy and Ei. Hope the rest of the week pans out well for all of us.

Beeeeeeg Hugs, Prema

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Melanie took me to the pool today for about an hour. I gave the boot the boot and went in the water. Not crowded at all and we got a table close to the handicap ramp with rails and a ranp. Woohoo for some time out of the house.



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Prema, with no driving, I am limited to what is already here. I'm hoping after the two weeks are up that I will be able to get back behind the wheel. I'll see if Melanie wants to stop by with the kids this afternoon.



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Hi Pat.
We have to come up with a plan for you. Hey, ladies of the Granny Petrol, you are all needed now to come up with suggestions for Pat.
According to my boss - and what does he know, anyway - if it was left to me to come up with suggestions to fill up time to kill boredom, the end result would be that I would end up getting killed!! Apparently, all my suggestions end up making the other person's boredom look like a day out in the sun and surf!
Let me tell you that I disagree with his completely. Let me also tell you that I am the only one who disagrees with him!!! emoticon .....everyone else apparently agree with him.....

Pat, time to catch up with movies and books and..........

Lovely ladies, have a great Sunday and BEEEEEEG hugs...



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Prema, now you made me laugh but to be honest with you, I've done things similar to that like looking in my purse for my wristlet only to find it on my wrist. I am so bored with DH at work, no pool, no driving and Donovan and family just left for a week long vacation. 😵



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Hi Ei. With everything that's going on with you, I have no idea how you can still think of all of us and send me prayers as often as you do. Thank you, my kawan.
I echo all that Pat said - you have done a quick job of getting your life back to normal and I hope all of you have a good time with your brother's visit. I just like the way everyone in the family has pitched in to make sure that it's all done well!!

Hi Pat. Thanks for the picture. It really will immobilize you completely. I looked at the picture and I marveled at how much it would have taken away from you to sit still and not do anything for 2 weeks. Had that happened to me.....even my dog would have run away from home from my whining!
By the way, I pictured you in that electric cart having an expression like Lucille Ball, trying to zoom around in your usual efficient manner....only to find a turtle overtaking you easily! Had to laugh....sorry for the betrayal....just had to laugh!!

Hi Kathy. Did you watch the turtle race against Pat when she was grocery shopping?

Anyway, I did the dumbest thing today. I was holding my mobile against my ear and told my friend that it was missing!!! I am not going to tell you what transpired after that! I am a confirmed idiot!!!!!

Have a great Saturday, my kawan-kawan.

Beeeeeeeg Hugs, Prema

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EI, thanks for the well wishes. I'm glad your appointment went well. It sounds like life is getting back to normal. Enjoy your brother's visit. Sounds like you have it well planned out.
Today I went grocery shopping with DH. I used one of those electic carts which I think I would have lost a race with a turtle . It wasn't fully charged but the next time I know what to look for.



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Pat,
So sorry you have a bone chip and need to wear a boot and cannot drive, use pool and possibly other things. emoticon Hope it heals soon for you. Horrible that some THIEF stole your patio chairs. What is wrong with people? Hate it that this world is changing so much and so many evil people and we need to not trust very much. Almost have to lock all things up. Sad.....I guess I am lucky in some ways. My patio outside my dining room window has a lock (hook) on the enclosed patio. Keeps anyone from coming in that way. Hope the police catch the guy that did this to you. UGH!!

Prema,
I understand your son wanting to live on his own. Will he move out of his dad's then? Might be good to just do that. Hope you are holding up through all this turmoil you are dealing with. Prayers daily for you and hugs. emoticon

My appointment went well. I can do most thing now. I had a list of 6 questions for the ortho dr....I can slowly ease into putting my arm behind me and sleep as tolerated on that side, and some other things, using 5# weight and bands now instead of 1# which will be good at the gym. When I go to the dentist I need to take antibiotics hour before and then 6 hrs after. This was a BIG surprise to me. They are concerned of infection. So will do what they say. I go back in 3 months to see how it is doing then.
Today picking my brother up at airport and bringing him to my sis. He will use one of their cars while he is in town. He will sleep at my oldest dd's since it is much cooler in her rec room. My upstairs loft (nice in winter) is too warm in Summer up there for him to sleep. So he takes us all to early dinner and visit before we both head back to Westlake.
My oldest dd + family will be home tomorrow night from S.Carolina, Kyiawah island. So checking her house again today and mail should be there now, so will bring it in.

Kathy, Hope all is well with you. Stay warm and hydrated..... emoticon emoticon emoticon

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Prema, the boot is to imobilize the foot and ankle. Yesterday the doctor just felt the foot and ankle and did not x-ray. No new diagnosis, just going by what I said were the results from urgent care, a bone chip. We'll know better in 2 weeks.

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Hi Pat. You told us that the doctor put you in a boot, and that you have to return after 2 weeks for a follow up....but you did not tell us what the problem is. Unless everyone understands that a boot is only for specific problems - and it's just me that doesn't get it! That could be the case.
So what exactly is the problem, kawan?

What a wicked fellow to steal your patio chairs! On the other hand, I am just so relived that he wasn't one of those fellows with a knife in his hand threatening you for money and stuff. That would have been extremely extremely difficult for you and for all of us. Thank you God for looking out for Pat.

Hi Ei. I actually have a very large room with an attached bathroom in my new place for my son. But at 26, he is finding it quite challenging to manage this new situation altogether and he will find it even more challenging if the dad and the dad's family find out that he's with me. They will make him feel that he's taking sides or betraying his father, etc etc. In other words, create a drama. And as intelligent as our children are, I believe they are nowhere close to us when it comes to emotional intelligence....and that's why I suggested that he stay on his own for a while.
Please keep us posted about your doctor's visit.

Hi Kathy. Hope everything is well with you and that there's no doctor's visit for you any time soon.

Have a great Friday, lovely ladies. Beeeeeeeg Hugs, Prema




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Update: the doctor has me in a boot. I have to go back in 2 weeks for a check up and X-rays. I can’t drive with the boot on and I can’t go to the pool either. I don’t have to wear it to bed.
This afternoon a man rang my doorbell and I just opened the window to see what he wanted. He asked if s “Terry” lived here. That is a common tactic used by theives to see if someone is home. He had a black car parked in front. 45 minutes the bell rang again and this time it was the kid next door saying that someone in a black car just stole our patio chairs and they threw them in his trunk and sped. I called you he Columbus non emergency line and the officer did a report. This happened st 3:00 pm. Broad daylight.



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Kathy, I am hitting myself on my head. Apologies for my mistake and sorry for making you run to the calendar. Good news about Tony. Is it the Keytruda that is making the difference? I'm sure Clarksburg is closer to me than to you. It's beautiful scenery there but rough winter's. Good luck to them.
EI, good luck to you today. I hope you get good news.
Prema, it's amazing how any man survives on his own. That's probably why married men live longer than single ones. They have someone else doing the stressful things for them. What a pitiful excuse for a man. Continued prayers coming your way.
Did you ladies hear that there are already plans in the making to turn the Thai soccer team that was trapped in the cave into a movie? Anything to turn a buck.



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Kathy,
Wonderful news about the tumor in Tony's lungs decreasing in size. Prayers do help I believe. Hope his shoulder will get some relief from the injection. At first they thought my shoulder was arthritis and or bursitis. When the injection did not help they did the MRI and found the Torn RC and Bone on Bone........then I had to get my surgery. I sure HOPE he gets relief and it is not the case for him.
Hope Justin and Rob will be living closer to you. I am not sure what state you live in, come to think of it.?? Have a blessed day and stay cool if possible. Been very humid and hot here too and some days the pool is the only relief or AC.....

Prema,
Yes Pat and I have dr. appointments today. Kathy so far does not. Thank goodness. Hope maybe your son can move in with you or find a place on his own soon so he does not have to deal with Anger or Negative actions from his dad. Sooner the better. Hope you have a good day with your exercises and Mosquito and this may relieve some stress from all that is happening too. Remember you are important and too bad you have to call him back. Maybe his attorney can give him his answers if possible. Talking to him just makes the day uncomfortable I am sure. Take care and hugs coming your way each day. God bless.

Pat,
Good luck today with your foot appointment. Hope he can help you and you can
get some relief. You are doing a lot of walking in the pool. Surprised it does not hurt when you walk that long. I have been water walking abut 30 minutes when I go in with the kids and then some other exercises in the water to help my knees and it does feel good. Let us know what your dr says today.

Enjoy the day all. Will let you know how I make out too with my appointment.
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Hi Pat. I think the appointment was Ei and her doctor and not Kathy. Am I right?
I had one set of fingers and toes crossed for you and the other set for Ei. I had no spare parts left to cross for Kathy.....or did I miss something here??
A podiatrist handles feet-related issues and you're right....this is very important. Please keep us posted kawan.

Kathy, both Pat and you are right about DeMon. This morning, my phone rang when I was in the gym on the treadmill and I knew it was not my team from the office or my kids. When I completed my exercise, I saw it was DeMon and when I called back, it was over issues related to plumbing, the fish pond, an electricity surge etc....and I cut the whole conversation short and referred him to the telephone numbers listed for the various people. Welcome to all that I have been doing in the past whilst keeping a full-time job!! Thank you for all the prayers - you have no idea just how much these have strengthened me!

Kathy, is Clarksburg closer to you? Does this mean that you will be able to see Rob and Justin more often now? Sorry, my American history knowledge is much better than my knowledge of the nation's geography!
By the way, the prayers for Tony have been pretty strong too, if the tumours in the lungs can actually decrease in size. That's pretty unusual....at least for the cases in Malaysia that I know of....that's pretty fabulous news!

Have a good one today, Kathy, Pat and Ei.

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Time had a way of getting away from me. My apologies to you faithful ladies!!

Rob and Justin will be moving to Clarksburg, W. Va. Justin has a new job there...not sure of the starting date yet.

Pat, I'm not sure what appointment you're referring to, but your comment had me scooting off to my calendar to see what I was missing.

Tony's last scan showed his tumors in his lungs are decreasing in size. They saw an orthopedist about his shoulder. The other doctor told them it was arthritis, but the orthopedist said it was bursitis and gave him an injection.

Still not much relief from the heat.

Prema, that's a pretty brazen move on the part of your substandard leech of a husband. I'm sorry this is dragging out so much. Here, if you're a no-show for a hearing, it speeds things up rather than slowing them down. Continued prayers for you.

Pat, that's a lot of walking even in water.

Peace and love too all.
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Kathy, I hope your appointment tomorrow goes well. I got my referral today and have an appointment tomorrow too. It is with a podiatrist. Although I am feeling better, all is not well and I want to avoid any permanent damage.
Prema, good advice for Vishal, is there room for him at your apartment? DeMon has a lot of nerve asking you for money giving that he thinks he has been the biggest contributor to the family expenses. He will probably claim that you drained his finances and that spousal support is necessary. And speaking of deplorable men, your good daughters husband is a loser too. Too bad she did not learn a valuable lesson from you about what type of man to avoid. I will be doing another day of water walking today, making it three days in a row.



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Hi Pat. If the buoyancy of the water is helping you to get 1.5 hours of walking minus any pain, then this fact is maybe important to share with the doctor. I have always believed that doctors get to the issue at hand by a process of elimination rather than direct solving of the problem. This means that each and every fact is important to an experienced specialist who will then eliminate irrelevant causes very quickly.
That means less tests and for me, less irritation!!! But you are far, far more patient than I ever will be. emoticon so may be you don't mind. What a kind lady you are....

As for my grandson, I believe the father's short-sighted behaviour is going to ensure that the kid does not get the total intervention that he needs. And to think the man is a training to be a pediatric surgeon! What a twit....zero empathy and awareness about his son's needs!

Hi Ei. I am keeping my fingers crossed about your visit to the ortho on Thursday. One set of fingers and toes crossed for Pat. And the other for you.

The prayers from across the miles have given me more strength than you can all imagine. It's been wonderful.
My son told me this morning that DeMon asked him to convey to me that he was running out of money and would I give him a little to help him get by.
I told Vishal to help me get it straight : "your father is refusing my divorce and suing me in the process for which I have spent about US$50,000, rather than come to the table for a discussion and an equal closure on the property....and he wants me to give him some money out of compassion"
I told Vishal what he should say to the dad and advised my son to leave the house immediately and stay on his own for his own sake!!

Hi Kathy. Hope all is good with you!!

Have a good Hump Day. Beeeeeeeeeg Hugs, my kawan-kawan.....Prema

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Hi Pat,
Sorry your foot is causing such discomfort. Hope the dr will give you some idea on how to heal the pain and what else to do. My shoulder is doing pretty well, thanks.
I go to the Ortho dr thursday morning and he will let me know what he thinks and how soon I can continue to use it the normal way. Right now not allowed to put the arm behind me, so dressing, washing, bathroom,etc. and some things I cannot do yet. I did go to Silver sneakers today and was nice to see everyone. Some things Told the instructor I am unable to do yet. Had a nice welcome back to class.

Prema,
I had no idea that the divorce was not final.So sorry DeMon is suing you and there is a possibility of two years before the divorce will be final. He is such a evil man and I am praying for peace for you soon. this is so hard to go through with all his nasty actions and holding up things. He must be very unhappy and wants everyone to feel like he does. His day will come. they say "What goes around, comes around." hugs to you and hang in there dear friends. Our prayers will help you at his time as you face all this terrible anxiety with his actions.

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Hope all is well with you and your grandkids are spending some time with you for the Summer. Take care.

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Prema, not much on the foot front. I'm being referred to a specialist and like all specialists, you have to wait for them to call you. I did walk for 1.5 hours in the pool yesterday and I'm starting to notice a change for the better. I'll do it again today, weather permitting.
I'm sorry to hear about all the trouble you have to go through regarding the divorce. It would be so much easier to on you if he would cooperate even a little.
Do you thing your grandson will be getting the help he needs to help him with his autism? I feel for the boy and the life he will have if his dad doesn't allow for the help to be provided.



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Hi Pat. What's the feedback about the foot?

Hi Kathy. All good with you?

Hi Ei. Caught up with "life at home and back to good old routine" again?

Have a lovely Tuesday, my kawan-kawan.

Beeeeeeeg Hugs, Prema

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Hi Pat. Yes, the divorce dragging on for 2 more years is not pleasant news at all. Unfortunately, in Malaysia, single file petitions for divorce can be very time-consuming, expensive and energy-sapping. And dealing with an individual like DeMon is 10 times worse!!
I have contributed financially more to the marriage, but he feels otherwise, so.....

You did well walking in the pool in order to stay active. Keeping my fingers and toes crossed and repeating all my mantras so that you get a complete diagnosis from the doctor tomorrow.

Have a great start to the week, lovely ladies. Beeeeeeeg Hugs, Prema

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Prema, the divorce dragging on for 2 more years, yikes! That is so crazy. I would be willing to believe that you have being contributing as much, if not more to the marriage as DeMon. Prayers that this does not happen.
Yesterday I walked for an hour and fifteen minutes in the pool and that is the extent of my exercising. I'll try that again today but as the weather improves, so does the number of people at the pool. I'll keep you posted on my appointment tomorrow.



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Hi Ei. Good to hear from you again. It sounds like you had a wonderful time with all your visits. And I hear you loud and clear about getting everything done after coming back from the many trips you have had.
Thank you for your very comforting words. DeMon has decided to sue me for cheating him of his money and the property we jointly own. We follow English law in our country and so, the case management comes up for hearing on 31st July. The lawyers will handle it and so, I do not have to be present.
The divorce is a separate matter. DeMon did not turn up for the 1st hearing and thereafter, there will be 2 more hearings....and if he does not turn up, the tribunal gets cancelled and I might end up waiting 2 more years before I get my divorce.

And Pat is right - it seems that your shoulder has been behaving itself. emoticon emoticon

Hi Pat. Your foot is another matter. 17 days of discomfort and pain is a pretty long time, my kawan...especially when the grandkids take up a lot of your daily time. Please keep us posted about the outcome tomorrow.

My god-daughter, her husband and my grandson came over today and had lunch with me in the new place. I just don't see him pulling his weight and I am not sure that he understands that he needs to compromise on the issue of his wife and son staying close to therapists who can help him with his autism. Sigh! We just have to wait and see. It's their lives and their baby.....I can only tell them so much before he starts feeling resentful.

Hi Kathy. hope all is well with you.

Have a great Sunday, my kawan-kawan.

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EI, how nice to hear from you. Welcome back. I know what you mean about all that needs to be done when getting back from vacation. It sounds like you had a good time and since you didn't mention your shoulder I'm guessing it's back to normal.
I'm going to my doctor Monday since my foot is still bruised and walking is difficult. Hopefully this can be taken care of quickly, it's been 17 days so far.



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Good Saturday morning ladies! emoticon
Have missed you and thanks for missing me. Was in Bolder, CO for 6 days visiting my brother. My sis, my niece and I had a great time.
However glad to get home this past Tues. night. Always nice to get back home.
Was so much to do after being gone. Washing clothes, grocery store trip, and also paying some bills. Lots of mail to catch up on.

Prema,
Glad you having Moskito run with you in the early mornings to be safe in your new location.MUCH Happiness in your new apartment. Telling your friends of the divorce was good idea too . Those who really want to continue friendship will always be there for you. I know how that goes and those that do not bother are not worth the worry of it. Hope you have much Peace and Comfort now with your new routine and Rosa helping you. I am sorry to hear how DeMon acted with his anger and verbal and physical actions to you and your son. Such a childish man and I am so glad you do not have to deal with him anymore. Thank God our prayers were answered for you and you are out of the home and do not have to see him anymore. Was the home sold or did he buy you out in order to live there?
Just wondered. Lots of HUGS, Peace, Love and happiness to you and so glad you are in a new life now and thing will be wonderful for you. emoticon emoticon
Pat,
Sounds like you fell and hurt your head and your foot? emoticon I am so sorry to hear this and hope you heal soon without any problems. Glad you had fun at he fireworks on the 4th and the kids enjoyed it too. this is the first year I did not go the see them outside the home. I spent the day on the 4th, finishing up wash. Then picked up my sis and niece to go visit my uncle in the N. Home. They had a
musical program and the residents loved it. A gal came in with some musical recordings, for her background. She sang many patriot songs and many joined in with her. My uncle loved it and we stayed with him for the program. It was so nicely done. Many of the residents same along with many of the familiar songs.
I was invited to dinner with my sis's family and got home late in the day. So was nice to enjoy time with them. Watched the Macy fireworks show on TV and it was lovely. emoticon emoticon Fireworks with pretty songs was so beautiful and the faces on the people was pure happiness. Hope you and your dh and the kids are enjoying Summer.
Was 97 first two days in CO then it cooled down after that. Take care and get well soon. HUG, prayers for speedy recovery and love, Ei emoticon

Kathy,
Stella looks so grown up and I love her apron. She has learned to sew from you which is so nice. emoticon I am so sorry for the loss of your bible friend. Never easy to accept this. emoticon I also got a message while I was away and good friends dad had passed away. I was unable to go since I had just got home and missed the wake.
I did send a pretty card to her. Loss is hard and she had just lost her son 3 months ago so she is really going through so much right now.Hope all else is well with you and you are still walking and doing so well. I did feel good that while I was away I lost 3# with all our walking and activity each day. take care, God bless, hugs + love to you. Ei emoticon

My youngest dd and Peter came to see me yesterday. We played Monopoly, had some lunch and went to our pool. Was so nice to see them.
My oldest dd and her family are on vacation and so I am checking their house and watering their plants. They held their mail since they are gone for awhile.
My brother is coming to town for about a week on the 13th, since he has a seminar to attend. So we will spend some time with him again. He has a nice dog, golden lab. He calls her Cassidy. She loved us and loved us petting her all the time. Fun trip.
Well, got to get some house chores done and wanted to say HI and keep in touch.
I had no access with internet at my brothers home, since he is in the mountains.
Missed that, but had my phone when we went down to the city during the day.
He lives up in the mountains.
Love, hugs, and lots of smiles dear friends, Enjoy the weekend. emoticon
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Prema, good luck on your first run in your neighborhood. Hoping for level surfaces and smiling faces. I bow to you too, right back at it after making a big change.



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Hi Pat. Since we are in a new area, and I am not sure about the overall safety of the surrounding area for running, Moskito has volunteered to make himself available at 630am to join me for a morning run. Gave him no less than 3,758,496 warnings to not try and get me to run faster or more than I wanted to run!! I might lose out on that....getting mentally prepared for this to happen!!
Thank you for the reminder about seniors having limited vision....no witnesses to ensure that I get 25 years to life!!! emoticon

You are still exercising and you cannot see this....but I am bowing low before you. You are truly amazing!!!

Hi Kathy. Hi Ei.

Have a great Saturday, everybody. Beeeeeeeeg Hugs, Prema

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Prema, lucky Moskito, having his life spared because of potential witnesses. Remember this for the next time, most seniors have limited vision so if in the moment you feel the need to strangle the boy, you may not have to worry about doing 25 years to life.
I took it really easy yesterday and today is going to be much cooler so I may do a few of those limited mobility exercises on Sparks. Enjoy your new toaster.



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Hi Pat. Glad you enjoyed the fireworks and glad for DH that you also knew the shortcuts. Who needs Waze any more....you have an-built device that does even better!! And thank you God for the grass surface for my kawan, Pat.
Thank you for the toaster. I picked it up yesterday from Harvey Norman near my office... emoticon .

Have yourselves a great Friday, Pat, Kathy and Ei. I will be leaving the office soon to nurse a sore bottom and stone-laden thighs!! Moskito went a little berserk today, too. I whispered, under my breath to him this morning, about how lucky he was that there were 3 other senior citizens in the gym at the same time as us, so he was spared from murder of the worst kind!! emoticon

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Prema, it was a lovely night for fireworks. All four grandkids were there and they all had fun playing with each other. My husband dropped me off close to where we were going to watch from and then parked the car. Unfortunately I had to walk back to the car after because there was no way to get back into the lot after. Walking on a grass surface was better than a paved surface though. It only took 10 minutes to get back because I knew all the short cuts.
I have an extra toaster if you want it. Just drop by and pick it up. People used to always give toasters in the old days but with wedding registrys theses days the bride and groom are asking for more lavish and expensive gifts. Maybe you should have a house warming party and the guests can bring everything you forgot.
Stay cool all of my kawan kawan.




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Hi Pat.
The weather is getting very hot here, too. But it's expected at this time of the year. But your summer sounds hotter than usual. And we have been reading about the fires in parts of California. Stay safe, Pat.

I just found out from Rosa that we did not bring over our iron, toaster, pressure cooker, etc. So we are making out a list and I bought the first 2 critical items and the rest will follow suit in the coming months. I recalled with a laugh, how all of us had more toasters than we needed at the beginning of or lives and we end up buying a new one at an old age. In Malaysia, when people get married, it's never unusual to find 5 to 6 toasters as wedding gifts which are then given away to those who need it or for another wedding!!!

Meeting a nice couple for dinner tonight and will be finishing my work soon. I have been able to breathe again today after the last 3 days of flurry.

Hi Kathy. Hi Ei - you have been missed, Ei.

Have a good one today, lovely ladies.

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Prema, I'm hoping the fireworks are not well attended so that I don't have to fight the crowds finding a place to park and sit. We are under an excessive heat warning currently and it is so hot, I'm hoping people stay home. I've been freezing a water bottle all day hoping it will last for the few hours we are out.



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Hi Kathy. You are right. I am expecting a lot more to happen in the coming months and am just preparing myself to expect the worst of the worst.
Nolan is so cute. I can just see him, years down the road, telling the judges in a Master Chef show that his grandma was the one who got him started on all this by getting him his first apron.

I forgot about Independence Day. Happy 4th of July, Pat. And you too, Kathy and Ei.
Of course, the holiday has put paid to any further diagnosis from the doctor....but keep us posted after the break, please.
And well....you are right....he still packs food from my house!! He has become more like my adopted son these days....

Have a good holiday and hope the fireworks are on full force tonight....

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Prema, I image you feed the boy too, allowing him to continue to follow you around like a sad puppy. I'm glad you were able to get through your new routine with only one day of your body yelling at you. I was able to get an appointment with the doctor but with the Independence Day holiday tomorrow, I couldn't get in until Monday morning. So far today it doesn't feel too bad.
Kathy, now Nolan has his own apron, if he has some play tools, he can use it as a work apron. All kids want something that the other kids have, at least until you give it to them.
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Prema, I guess it can be difficult for those on the periphery of a divorce, as well if those entrenched within it. I can appreciate conflicted feelings and loyalties, but it was, by far, the hardest part of my divorce because many "friends" just plain disappeared. Some of my family did too, at least for a time.

Pat, clearly I couldn't have sent hot weather to you because it's still here. We're scheduled for a brief reprieve on the weekend, including the possibility of rain. Of course, the rain will make it feel like a sauna.

Nolan wanted an apron. (Of course, he did because Stella has a new one!) So yesterday I made him one. I used the same pattern as Stella's but eliminated the gathered skirt and made one long pocket, stitched down the middle, instead of two smaller pockets. It's endearing that he wants so badly to help.

I plan to mow in back today , but I'll have to get out soon to minimize the heat risk. I have an appointment with the financial planner this afternoon for an annual review.

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Hi Pat. I just re-read Kathy's posting and realised that she had been carrying Nolan. KATHY, MY KAWAN, NO CAN DO....the young man is a tad too heavy for all of us, including me, and I do weights at least 3 times a week.

I am very impressed by the fact that you are disciplined enough to continue water aerobics despite the absence of an instructor. But I am, of course, concerned about that foot. Please keep us posted about the feedback from the doctor.

My new apartment has a very well-equipped and well-maintained gym. So, guess who got excited? Definitely not me!
Moskito went crazy and the end-result is a bum that was sore for a day, thighs that felt like bricks and shoulders that presented muscular pain which defied description. I was planning to kill him tomorrow but the pain has completely disappeared... emoticon ....nothing to complain about tomorrow when we have our next session!!

Have a good one today, Kathy, Pat and Ei.

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Prema, you have a lot of friends and those who chose to stop communicating with you are not your true friends. I wonder how Dhivia is doing now that the move has taken place and how her dad behaved on moving day.
Kathy, I'm to the point where the only grandkids I can pick up is Maya, at 18 months, she's pretty much a lightweight. The boys all have to walk.
I went to water aerobics today but there is no instructor so one of the ladies printed off some exercises for seniors and we did them. You can't complain about the price-free. I'm going to call my orthopedic Dr today to see if he can fit me in this holiday week, the foot isn't progressing the way I want it to.



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Hi Kathy and Pat.

I have informed my close friends (including those who know DeMon or whose husbands know DeMon) about my situation and I have given all of them the choice of either maintaining the friendship or, if they were feeling uncomfortable, to ease off the communication with me.
It seems to me that people, despite the initial shock, are a little happier and relieved after I tell them. It's a little easier to get the truth from the horse's mouth! I don't really offer much explanation on the reasons and it appears that they respect my silence on the reasons for the split.

Have a great start to the week, my kawan-kawan.

Beeeeeeeg Hugs, Prema

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I have Nolan overnight. He's conked out; he's getting heavy for me to carry, and he usually denies he's tired and ready for bed. Nap time is different and he's usually ready to nap.

Prema, I'm really glad to sense the calm in your new world. Hang in there; we're here for you.

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Prema, I am so happy for you. I can feel the relief in your writing. God is good and has been watching over you and keeping you safe. You are right. I did eat at the Amish restaurant last June. The bakery has food to die for. I brought home a small chocolate pie that serves 4 and dh and I enjoyed it for 2 days. So good.



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I.AM.DEFINITELY.HAPPY.AND.RELAXED.

Dear Pat and Kathy. Yesterday, I started my routine together with Rosa. We went to the market and bought meat, fish, vegetables and fruits for ourselves and for my mum. I left after that for a couple of meetings, met a friend for coffee and then both Rosa and I went out for dinner with another friend and her helper.

Today, I woke up, all prepped and ready for a good day and regardless of how the ensuing months turn out, my head and heart are in a good place. I am at peace more now than I ever was for a long time. And it feels good. Very good.

Kathy, I really enjoyed reading about praying for people while picking up trash for them. That was amazing. And you participated, too.
By the way, Stella looks lovely with the apron. What an amazing achievement.

Pat, I had to laugh at your comments about the weather. It seems not too long ago, that we were all complaining that Old Man Winter had overstayed his welcome by far too long....and now, no spring.....straight to summer and the heat is being transferred from one state to another.
Was this Amish restaurant the same one you described some time ago. I remember asking you about the food and you said it was actually very palatable and enjoyable. Glad you had a good day.

Hi Ei. Hope all is well with you.

Much happiness to all and Beeeeeeeg hugs, Prema

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Kathy, you should be so proud. A lovely apron for a lovely girl.



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Stella just finished her apron. She did a great job,and I'm so very proud of her!!

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Kathy, I believe that you have sent the hot temps to Ohio. We have at least 6 days in a row of 90+ temps starting today. It's too bad that Stella can't finish her apron but I'm sure you won't be down for long. Take care in these hot temps outside picking up trash and with all the stops you need to take. Stay hydrated.
Prema, you may now breathe. Finally you can walk around your apartment without having to see and hear from your worst enemy. I hope you have relayed your most recent encounter with your lawyer. DeMon must pay for his actions.
I had dinner in a quaint Amish restaurant last night with some friends from the pool. I had plenty of leftovers for hubby's dinner.



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"Squirrelly" is free for the taking.

Don't really care about Bhaskaran's mother's motives; her advice was critical in the moment. So sorry this is having to take so long. Stay strong.

A couple of weeks ago, we were challenged in church to walk our neighborhoods praying for people as we walked (and also picking up trash in an effort to improve our community). The former is not hard, but I kept forgetting a bag to pick up trash. This morning I spotted some trash and immediately thought, "I forgot a bag again." Then, under the railroad trestle, I spotted a bag. First thought: "I don't know where this bag has been." Next thought: "God's been holding it for you!" It was not hard to fill the bag with trash, and I handed it off to the trash truck in the middle of the street as I returned home.

Have a great day! Mine's off to a good start.

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Hi Pat and Kathy.
I am glad that DeMon's mum gave him sound advice....however, her advice was based solely on ensuring that none of my neighbors were witnesses to all that had transpired in my house. She was more concerned about her sons being called up by the police for disturbance in the neighborhood.
Be that as it may, at least I got our of the house and with most of my stuff. And I am thankful for the start to a new lease of life.
However, the civil suit and the divorce are both still going on...and I hope both of these come to a close as soon as possible but I am not holding my breath on either one of these at all.

Sewing machine acting up and tomorrow is a squirrelly sort of day. Sorry about the former but I like the description of the latter. I have never heard this expression before....and I really like it. So, if there is no patent on this adjective, I plan to use it in the future, Kathy.

Hello to you, too, Ei.

Lovely ladies, thank you once again for the 3S - support, shoulders and strength....amazing Granny Petrol members.....

Beeeeeeeeg Hugs, Prema

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Prema, so glad you're safe and settled. Sometimes peace comes with a big price tag.Nice that Bhaskaran's mother gave him some good advice, a morsel of common sense.

Well, the sewing machine decided to act up today, so Stella didn't get to finish her apron. It may just need some cleaning. I'll post a picture of her in her apron when she finishes it.

Tomorrow's going to be squirrelly. Nails at 10 in far west Wichita, a reception for Mimie's sister's retirement at 11 in east Wichita, then back out west to the doctor's office for my UA.Visitation with Linda's family at the mortuary is at 6, so there will be a break from the craziness for a few hours. The funeral is Saturday afternoon.

Nolan will spend Sunday night with me. It got up to 105 today. Ugh!!

Until later.
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Prema, I just breathed a sigh of relief. Thank God that you are safe and that you are no longer living under the same roof as that worthless excuse of a man. His mom prevailed in getting him to see what is right and for that, I am thankful. Has Dhivia heard about this? Is Visual okay mentally after his dad's lame attempt to try to stop him? This will be a hard adjustment for the two of them not because you left, but because of how DeMon reacted. God bless you and your children.

Kathy, sorry for your loss.



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Dear Kathy and Pat....I am certain that God saw the support you were giving me from afar and made sure I was safe.
DeMon allowed the movers to come in yesterday and get the stuff that was packed for me. As I learnt later on, his mum was the one who told him to let me go and to let me take all that I wanted - after she heard about the fiasco. My helper, Rosa and I unpacked everything yesterday itself and we both got up early to finish the last bit of stuff today and placed all the boxes at the entrance for the movers to remove these this afternoon. I feel a sense of relief at getting out of that house and both Rosa and I are much happier in my condominium. A chapter of my life is finally closed and the closure of all the remaining details starts now....it will be ugly because of DeMon but so be it. He cannot touch me now or hurt me any more. And for the rest of his life, he will have to contend with his actions and be judged by God.
Thank you again, my dear friends, for your amazing support, strength and shoulders....hugs and love over and over again to you.

Kathy, I am so sorry for your loss. I will say a prayer for her today.

Beeeeeeg Hugs, Prema

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Praise God Vishal was with you; it could have been much uglier. Pat's right: this should be a real eye-opener for Dhivia. Thankfully, you have loyal people around you. Make sure to report all of this to your attorney; it will reveal much to the court about Bhaskaran's mental stability. Hopefully, you can obtain an order to keep him off the property while you vacate.

Heat has settled over the area.

My Bible study friend passed away. Her service is Saturday. That's two friends gone in less than 2 months. I guess that's what happens as we age.

Love you, my friends.
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Prema, for some reason, I was feeling uneasy all day yesterday, thinking something would go wrong the move. He can no longer be considered a man and should be shunned by all. If this doesn't change Dhivia's mind about her dad, nothing will. No respected man raises his hand to anyone and throwing things around is just plain childish. I'm glad your boss was able to remove you and Visual out of the house. Is it possible to have him arrested for his assault on Vishal? Even with no visible marks, it's the two of you against him. I am with you spiritually and pray that you can get out quickly and safely. Make sure you take pictures of the damage he caused yesterday, that may come in handy with the divorce proceedings. Hugs, Pat



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Hi Kathy. I am really happy for Rob that he's driving Uber these days. The money is pretty decent and interacting with different people can be such an eye opener.

Hi Pat. Glad to know that you also have good news to add about the swelling in your feet reducing to a non-worrying level.

I could not move yesterday. The movers came when DeMon was out. And he also had a lunch appointment. And Vishal was supposed to stay on for half a day with me until the movers left. However, for some inexplicable reason, he returned and when he found me packing some of my personal effects, he went berserk and the ensuing verbal and physical violence will be forever etched in my mind.
He broke an expensive chair, a crystal tray that was given to me as a present and took a punch at my son when my son told him that he already knew that I was leaving. DeMon was coming for me and Vishal tried to just block him and that jerk punched my son. It does not matter that DeMon hits like a baby....no man should ever hit his son.
My young boss and his wife sent my team to get me and Vishal out of the house immediately.

Anyway, I am out of the house. And I will wait for the day when freedom is totally mine. Have a safe day today, my kawan-kawan.

Beeeeeeeg Hugs, Prema

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Prema, woo-hoo, moving day. I hope everything went well today.. Prayers, Pat



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Prema, prayers that the move goes welł and that there are no obstacles in your way. DeMon is in for a real eye opener when the moving van pulls up and the movers start clearing things out. God be with you.
Today I have been walking more and although my foot is bruised, the swelling has gone down. I think I will be able to drive in a day or two.

Kathy, that's great. I have been hearing about Uber and how it has changed leadership making the service safer for drivers and passengers. I'm glad he likes it.





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Bhaskaran has his head somewhere where the sun doesn't shine. emoticon I guess it won't be real to him until it is...and he'll be surprised.

Pat, Rob is driving Uber and seems to be enjoying it. He started out driving Uber Eats, but with a newer vehicle he's doing well with just Uber.

The family gathered here to eat yesterday. It was good to be together. Nolan will be here a bit later. Storms were gathering as they were leaving.

Prema, prayers for your safe move.

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Hi Kathy, Pat and Ei.

I move tomorrow. Vishal informed DeMon late last night and his response to my son was "she can go and so can the helper". However, the next sentence floored me completely.....he told Vishal that he believed I would not go!! This is not good! I have to prepare a contingency plan for tomorrow.

I will keep you ladies posted. Do have yourselves a great start to the week. Pat, you are remarkable!!!

Beeeeeg Hugs, Prema

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Kathy, welcome back. It sounds like you had a great time. 70 is a lot of people to get together at one time. Enjoy your dinner with Rob and Justin. Do they both have full time jobs yet?

I can finally stand without my walker for a few minutes at a time so I think that after I ice my ankle, I'll try to take a shower. I'll do it while Jim and Donovan are here, just in case.

Wishing everyone a good week.

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Hi Pat. Half the time, I thank God for your ability to recover quickly and the the other half, I am convinced that even God gives up when it comes to your iron will to get better under any circumstance!!
Amazing that you could walk up and down the stairs. I take my hat off to you, Pat.

Hi Kathy. You have been missed, my kawan.
Your family reunion sounds like a resounding success. 70 people in attendance is a very good number. It must have taken up a lot of time and energy....feeling overwhelmed is putting things mildly...
Thanks for your advice on Dhivia. I am actually prepared for her to not speak to me for a prolonged period as she struggles with herself after the dad gets emotional with her. I will stand firm, Kathy. I honestly will.

Hi Ei. Hope all is well with you.

Have a lovely Sunday, my kawan-kawan.

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Home and feeling a bit overwhelmed. Mostly it's just trying to get back on track with everything. Rob and Justin came down this evening, and we'll have a family dinner tomorrow before they have to head back to Kansas city--hopefully missing the severe weather that's predicted.

The family reunion was a success, nearly 70 attending.

Prema, as for your Dhivia, standing firm is the best thing you can do for her. Kids of all ages can try to manipulate, and she's probably pretty good at it. Moms can use guilt to manipulate, but so can kids. Life changes; very few things remain static, and she will (sooner or later) realize that life will be different for all of you but definitely not over!

Pat, taking a dive into the wall could have been so much worse. I'm glad you weren't hurt any worse. Nice to watch family rally around and get things done.

We'll, it's late and I actually went to bed earlier...yet, here I am now. Sweet dreams, my kawan-kawan.

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Prema, today I was able to walk up and down the stairs at home to go to a neighbor's funeral. DH carried my walker out to the car and had it ready for me to get out of the car. Neighbor was only 66 but he was a very heavy smoker. His wife passed away last year from cancer. They are now together for eternity.



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Hi Pat. Have you ever seen anyone with a totally shocked and horrified expression on her face dissolve into laughter within 2 minutes when she was trying to picture you touching your bump and going "OUCHHHH!"

You do have a lovely family. A very supportive one. A daughter who does not take you for granted and a husband who shows his love with actions. Well done, kawan. I am one happy old gran.....very happy about the support you need and you deserve.

Long lunch and loads of laughter and soul searching as well. I really enjoy my Saturdays....

Have a good Saturday, Pat, Kathy and Ei.

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Prema, the bump to the head only hurts when I touch it, so why do I touch it????
The foot feels 20% better today. My daughter, Michelle, had me text her my grocery list and she shopped for me. DH went out and bought me a walker which makes getting around the house easier. He aslo did the laundry and made dinner, with my directions. He now appreciates a task that I do everyday. I'm lucky to have a good family.



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Hi Pat. I believe, my kawan, that you are being constantly watched over like a very precious being, by God, at all times. Slipping and hitting your head against a wall could have ended up being a very serious matter. Especially, since I imagine that the conditions were fairly slippery when the fall took place. One week...only one week....that's really a very short time for getting fighting fit again!!!!
Please, please keep us posted.

Hi Ei. I think Bill would have been more than elated. He would have been very proud of you and the fact that you have chosen to go on the way you did. Even I stand in awe of you.....I even forgot that it's now over a year since your tragic loss.
I think your suggestion for Dhivia to get some counselling sessions is a good one and I believe she was seeing a therapist for some help....however, it sometimes feels like there's a lot of analyses and very little action and the analyses seems to lead to some sort of paralysis as she goes round in circles identifying the reasons for her behaviour. I remember asking her, just once, what steps was she planning to undertake in the short to long-term for herself....and the response was that she had just discovered the reason for the problem and the solution was something to be tackled way into the future.....
Tell Colleen that if she likes Indian food, then I can make many types of vegetarian food and I will reduce the spiciness to her level of acceptance. One fine day, I will fly up there and cook for all my kawan-kawan.
I am not a vegetarian but as with most Hindus, I find it very easy to switch between being a vegetarian and a non-vegetarian simply because there's a lot of variety in Indian cuisine.

Hi Kathy. Hope all is well with you, especially the weather and your health.

Have a great TGIF, lovely ladies.

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EI, the trip down the Hudson River sounds like fun. New York. is such a large state with do much to do. Unfortunately people think that when you say you are going to NY that you are going to NYC.
I am so lucky to have my mom at this age, women on her side of the family live long.



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Good Thursday morning ladies. Little cooler here emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon last few days after 93 + 90 for few days.
Pat,
Michael lives in Beaon, NY, which is upstate. Pretty area and so many lovely views.
It was a Hudson river cruise. We were on the Rip van winkle boat. Beautiful view and the captain narrates the areas as we go along slowly. Takes and hour to go down and an hour to come back up. Was fun time.
Happy birthday to your mom, 90 and such a nice surprise for her when you arrived to see her to celebrate. HB to you aunt also, 100. That is amazing that they are both doing so well. You have had a busy Summer too and lots of trips and special get aways, fabulous.

Prema,
Yes, I am doing much better with my loss of Bill. Miss him all the time but must go on and be happy. He would want me to be. Was a year on May 17 and still hard to believe. He will always be in my heart. My shoulder is doing pretty well thanks. I do go once more to PT on Monday and finish up details. The doctor will see me on July 12 at 9 am to see how I am doing. Getting on with life with friends and family as much as possible. Summer is flying by here with all the trips and events I have on the calendar. Did lots of walking in Beacon where my son live too, which was good for me. Tired when I got home, but a good tired....Michael is so much fun to be with.
I am thinking Dhivia may want to get some counseling sessions too, before or after the divorce. My kids were upset too, but needed to vent to a outside person, not family or friends. It is hard for kids to understand when they love their father too, no matter what he does wrong. Prayers for them to get through this too and hopefully in time understand why you needed go do this.
My youngest dd Colleen is vegetarian and I love to eat with her, since it is all so healthy when I go there or she brings me good soups she makes, etc. Good luck with your move on TUESday, June 26. I will be thinking of you and keeping you in my prayers for a good move, and know you are moving on. Glad you have good movers to take care of the heavy things and help you get settled when you move in to the new location. HUGS, Prayers and happy new home to you. (-: New chapter in your life and new beginnings. When will the final divorce occur or did I miss something? Take good care of your self.

Kathy, Hope all is well with you and your recovery has been good. Sounds like
you have been getting lots of exercise in and keeping up daily. That is wonderful.

Well, take care everyone. better get some chores done and some of my exercises and walk too.
HUGS, Blessing, love and smiles to all of you.
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Prema, we had a safe trip back despite the heavy downpours closer to home. The bad thing happened after getting home. I was going out to pick up some salad and sandwiches and I missed my bottom step. I fell head first into wall, hurting my head, right foot, and my finger on my left hand. Michelle and Jim took me to Urgent Care. The doctor did the concussion protocol and believe it or not, there is nothing wrong with my head. I had X-rays in my foot and ankle and I have a bone chip on my foot. My ankle is wrapped up and I have to stay off my feet for a week. Bummer, no pool for a week.



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Hi Pat. I saw the pictures on Facebook. Your mum looked completely taken aback and so very surprised by the people turning up. And I must say that, for her age (touch wood a gazillion times here!!), she looks amazing!

Have a safe drive back, my kawan. You are a lovely daughter to have given her that surprise!

Hi Kathy. Hi Ei.

Have a lovely Thursday, my kawan-kawan. Beeeeeeg Hugs, Prema

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Prema, we had a lovely visit. My mom was overjoyed and we took her to a casino and she walked out a few hundred dollars richer. We are getting ready to leave for home.



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Hi Pat.

Make sure someone is ready with a phone to capture the moment when she sees all of you and the cake. What a priceless picture that will be....
Keeping you in my thoughts as this event unfolds for you.

Hi Kathy. Hi Ei.

Beeeeeeeg Hugs, Prema

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Good morning. We had a good time lát night catching up with my sister and brother in law. This morning we will meet up with my sister, brother and sister in law to surprise my mom with a cake. I'm looking forward to seeing her face light up. We slept great in the hotel after not sleeping well the night before. My husband has daily back exercises so I'll go to the hotel gym and work out for a bit. Have a lovely day ladies.



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That's amazing, Pat. AT 90 and still living on her own. Wow!

I will be moving on Tuesday, 26th June. That's now cast in stone. I was hoping to do it this week but it's a little inconvenient because Vishal goes off to Bali from 21st to 23rd and I have my tribunal on the 21st.
The plan is to have Vishal inform his dad over this weekend and then I start packing on Monday and I move on Tuesday. Moskito has offered to assist me by getting himself over to the apartment and during the move. Vishal has offered to take half a day off to facilitate the move from my house. I have taken on professional movers who pack, move, unpack and put stuff away as needed. I am looking forward to the change. More than ever.

Have a safe drive, Pat. Hi Kathy. Hi Ei. have a good one today, lovely ladies.

Beeeeeeeeg Hugs.

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Prema, mom turned 90 on Sunday, Jim works on the weekends so we decided to come today and surprise her tomorrow. It’s was an 8 hour drive. I’m meeting my sister for dinner and drinks tonight. We took a nap when we got to school he hotel.



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Hi Pat.
Longevity runs in your family, I guess. 100 years old! So, she was born just as World War 1 ended and she must have gone through 18 presidents! Wow!!!
Witnessed segregation and heard Martin Luther King talk; lived through the sadness of the American presence in Vietnam; seen flower power, Woodstock and hippies.
Amazing to think that she has gone through so much in life....

And mum must be in her nineties, too?

Have a great visit, Pat and do post some pictures.

My wonderful kawan-kawan, have a lovely week ahead. By the way, I move house on 26th June.

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Prema, I don't know any vegetarians personally and I'm not all that into veggies. Fruit I can handle, but not that much. I'm glad you had a great dinner party.
I'm leaving for Syracuse tomorrow and will be surprising my mom on Tuesday morning. Today is is going to visit her 100 year old sister. Should be fun for her.

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Hi Pat, Kathy and Ei.

Yesterday was the second day of the Eid Festival and my neighbor (the one I persuaded to use Moskito for PT once a week) invited us over for dinner. And among the circle of friends, our common friend is a lady who is a vegetarian and my neighbor requested my assistance to cook for this lady.
I cooked extra for everyone else and we all realised that after a day of feasting on meat, meat and more meat, most people seemed to enjoy vegetarian food. We had a lot of fun and all the ladies are very fond of Vishal and he was asked many times whether he had any special girlfriends. All in good fun...

Many of my American friends are also vegetarians and vegans and many of them enjoy Indian vegetarian food. Having said that, they have been living in Asia for many years. Is vegetarianism popular among your friends? I suppose it's a challenge to get through spicy Indian food for many people.

Hope your Sunday is an enjoyable one, lovely ladies.

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Prema, I agree that he may fall apart without you but that is the consequences for his actions. I think my husband would fall apart without me too but I think my daughters would step up and help out.



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Hi Pat.
That was exactly the same fear that was going through my mind. And I wonder, whether by staying as long as I have in this marriage, it has resulted in her thinking and behaving in this fashion. I don't think she even sees the fact that her father has been treating me badly at all....she's more concerned about the fact that he could fall apart after I leave and I have not considered this possibility at all. She believes that since I am stronger than he is, I need to cover my bases and ensure that he is not left high and dry.
And I am not a sympathetic mum at all....

Sorry for the whining. It just got to me. Have a good one today, Pat.

Hi Kathy. Hi Ei. Have a good one today, my kawan-kawan.

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Prema, it’s amazing the hold your husband has on Dhivia and how it may play out in her relationships with men now and in the future. If she thinks it’s okay to have men treat women like second class citizens and berate and belittle them then she may fall into the same kind of relationship. I pray she wakes up and sees that it is not right. God bless her.

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Pat, you are right and I totally agree with you. In the event, and I believe that this could be a high possibility, she decides that she does not want to speak to me at all because of the pain her dad is going through, then I just have to accept it and let her seethe for as long as she needs. And until she decides that enough is enough and everything is not as bad as she thought it would be.

Kathy, thank you for explaining this to me. I have heard of instances where, shortly after knee surgery, the patient has either some kind of relapse or finds herself facing secondary complications.....and I was worried that one of these had befallen you.

Hi Ei. You sound like the old Ei and back to being very busy again. So happy for that. And can I assume that the shoulder is not bothering you too much. Enjoy yourself and all the good food and we can think about exercising and dieting after you return home. JUST.ENJOY.....and if you have an image of Kathy and Pat in front of you, then you will walk and walk. That's what I do now!!
Thank you for the advice on the divorce and the impact on the family. Its sound and really makes sense. I can handle all the emissaries who come by to tell me to give DeMon a chance.....I am sure Vishal can handle the drama....but not my Dhivia...Let's wait and see what happens in the next 2 weeks.

I had a great day with my ex-classmates. The one girl among them who was celebrating Eid at her mum's home invited us for lunch....and we just sprouted roots into the chairs and talked nineteen to the dozen until we saw the time and said goodbye! Almost 3 hours....

Have a great TGIF, my kawan-kawan. Beeeeeeg Hugs, Prema

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Ei, it sounds like you are being very active on your visit with Michael. Enjoy yourself and the great food you have had and will be having. What river are you cruising, the Hudson? I'll be In Central New York next Monday through Wednesday.
Good morning Prema, I hope everything is going well for you.
Kathy, still having fun?



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Arrived in NY and my son met me. We then had lunch at the Grand central station.
BUSY place and boarded the train to Beacon. Interesting how so many travel this way to work and back and forth to the city. It is a long ride but easier than driving in the city. We came to his place and rested then headed out for our evening.
Dinner at a lovely view, restaurant, great meal, then off to the Shakespeare film festival. We saw Taming of the Shrew......
today is brunch with a friend who wanted to see me while in town. Then we are off to our River cruise......lots more to do and Michael will be cooking. He is a amazing cook. Enjoying my time and relaxing too.
Talk to you soon.
Hang in there Prema. My kids were effected by my divorce. decision too, but in time realized that it was the best thing to do. It effects the whole family but we all need to move on from this and we. do heal and find a new life without that marriage.
prayers and hugs.

Kathy, Enjoy your vacation and have fun.

Pat, Glad all is well with you and you are back home enjoying the sun. Hot here In NY. Doing lots of walking and trying to get back in shape.....

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Kathy, I'm glad you arrived safely. it's been really hot here with plenty of pop up storms but today is a lovely 82 degrees with a27% humidity level. Just lovely.



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First internet connection since leaving Wichita.

No, Prema, my knees have been done. It was just the reason I went with the supplemental insurance I did when I went on Medicare-- the copay for a hospital stay is $315/day for the first five days. I didn't want that when I knew was going to have knee surgery.

It's hot here too. I just went out for a short walk...too hot to stay out very long.

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Prema, Dhivia needs to understand that what you are acting very adult-like in your decision and that she needs to handle it like an adult too. I don't understand how she can think that you would be happy living with a man that is so petty and greedy. Hang in there and one day she will come around.
I know that Donovan enjoys his one on one time with me. He was my first and will always hold a special part in my heart.




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Hi Pat.
Would you and Donovan like to come out to my place the next time you both have a date? There's a big swimming pool out here, a games room, a library etc etc. emoticon
I love spending one-to-one time with kids and as his favourite grandmother, I am sure he opens up to you about a lot of stuff. I think you have the ability to make each grandchild feel like they are the most special in your life....and that is such a gift!

I am a little concerned about my conversation with my daughter yesterday. Unlike my son, my Dhivia is a little more self-absorbed and tells me that she's feeling down, again and again, and goes through a lot of reasons as to why she feels that way. It was okay in the beginning but to me, enough is enough and it's time to move on and just stop the self-analyses. I told her that it was time for her to figure out the best way to move forward. She was really upset with me and asked me why I could not be a little more understanding. I was cross; she was cross and we exchanged some words before I said to her that she had to learn to move on before she got into a rut and ended up spinning her wheels in the same place.
And then I added that this situation between her father and me was not the worst that would happen to her. She got even more upset.
I am giving her a couple of days to cool off before I speak to her again. Honestly, I feel it's for her own good for her to stop taking on each and every problem as her own issue as it affects her health and well-being all the time.

I am willing to be corrected in this matter, Pat, Kathy and Ei.

Have a good one today, lovely ladies. Beeeeeeeg Hugs, Prema

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Prema, North Korea has been a problem even before Kim as I hear that his grandfather was also into the destruction of this country. Three generations of Kim's running the country into ruins. This summit was historical and could be what is needed for a better world.
This hell you have been living with will be over with soon and you will be able to move around without being demeaned and belittled. That will be so good for you.
Tuesday I took Donovan out for lunch at the Olive Garden, just the two of us. He is growing up so fast and this was a chance for us to chat and catch up. He has a lacrosse tournament in Michigan this weekend.
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Hi Pat. The meeting between the 2 Presidents was considered to be successful. They did sign an understanding towards doing away with nuclear war....but as always, the wordings in the document are very vague and open to many interpretations.
To be fair, Kim was not the one who led his country to poverty and insecurity. His father did. He just continued with the mess and in this day and time, it seems that he made it worse. The situation between North and South Korea is no different from the past situation between East and West Germany.
The destruction of a wall between the 2 countries eased the transition which, by the way, took very long for Germany....

As for my transition.....I guess I have to do my best and pray that God will do the rest...
Thank you Pat for the encouragement. Means a lot to me.

Hi Kathy. Hi Ei.

Beeeeeeeg Hugs, Prema

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Prema, that is one crazy dictator. I am not surprised though. He must be in fear of his life constantly after killing his brother and many other people in his government. I was surprised at how young he is at only 37. He has led his country into poverty and insecurity.
I pray that your transition to your new apartment goes smoothly and that DeMon finds a distraction to keep him out of your way. Vishal may be just what you need.




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