It's easy to judge from a position of comfort but the truth is, we don't know the story of why someone is forced to panhandle.
Mental health issues can render someone incapable of keeping a job, regardless of how they physically appear. And if two people apply for a job, one of whom is homeless, which one is the store going to hire? And if someone has lost their job a couple of times, it's incredibly difficult to find the next one.
Yes, there certainly are people who find it easier to continue to panhandle than to get a job, but they're not the majority. If that means occasionally giving a buck or two to someone who could be working, I'd rather do that if it means I'm still helping out the rest who do need it.
Social services are available to help those who want to find work get cleaned up, provide a PO box for mail, resume services, etc. But those services are usually overwhelmed and can't handle everyone. And they're not always available in communities where they're needed.
So, in the end, if it costs me an additional $10 a week or so as I walk past someone who is homeless and in need, I am fine that - it's well spent.
Edited by: DAD_AINT_HIP at: 9/4/2019 (11:58)
“It’s okay to live a life others don’t understand.” - Jenna Woginrich
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9/4/19 10:42 A
Years ago...I gave my teenager $10 to pick up a pizza pie. Shortly, he returned home empty handed. A girl approached him outside the pizzeria, and claimed she lost her bus pass, and had no way of getting home.. Of course the girl didn't have change of $10. (We ate a frozen dinner that night)
Edited by: BARBZUMBA at: 9/5/2019 (10:58)
Housework can't kill you, but why take a chance?.....Phyllis Diller
To be honest, not anymore. I had a begger come up to me and offer to wash the windows on my car (he had a cleaning spray, and newspapers) for a few bucks. I said sure and gave him $5, but had to leave to go somewhere (I was leaving my car parked in a parking lot). When I came back hours later, my windows were not washed. And the man was nowhere to be found. I put my trust in him and gave him $5 and the benefit of the doubt, but he destroyed my trust in random homeless people or people begging for money, etc. So no, I don't do that anymore.
"One may walk over the highest mountain one step at a time." - Barbara Walters
I know I answered before. I feel like answering again.
I still believe in giving people money. If someone asks. I like to give them a couple dollars. I do listen to my gut and my gut usually says. You won't miss it. Whatever they do with that money? The ball is in their court.
As many have said there are those who "claim" they are out of gas and ask for a few bucks. And where I live, there are those who set up "post" on a daily basis on the exit ramps of freeways.
While it's difficult to tell whose truly in need, around six months ago I noticed a "newbie" at an exit without the usual accoutrements as I was waiting for the light to change. What struck me was his lack of signage, bucket, pan or hat, and the fact that his clothes were both perfectly clean AND perfectly pressed. He was there over the next few days and then I realized something - the proximity of this exit to the casino! Though impossible to know for certain, putting two and two together it definitely seemed (to me) he was panhandling to gamble...SMH!
Having been duped too many times, I now only give food.
We are our brother's keeper
Edited by: LIVEANDLAUGH at: 8/26/2019 (20:45)
Olivia "I am seeking, I am striving, I am in it with all my heart." Vincent Van Gogh
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3/25/19 10:45 A
I have paid for restaurant meals anonymously when I see a needy person asking for "anything to eat" from the hosts. I give regularly to charity organizations, one which serves the homeless only. I don't give the persons holding up signs begging for money, as I have heard that they make more than most working people do. Those person are outlawed on corners where I live.
Thank you. I was once one of those unfortunates, and yes, I used the money for things I shouldn't have- but- we are *all* part of an immense tapestry of humanity, and I am now a productive member of society. So again, I say, THANK YOU.
Love the Lord, love life!
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263 3/18/19 2:28 P
I've recently moved to a seaside town where there are a lot of homeless people (and, unfortunately others who pretend to be homeless.) There are too many for one person to help, so I often have to say no - and I sometimes say yes. I never give money but will sometimes buy them a hot drink or something to eat.
I am certain that God, who began the good work within you, will continue his work until it is finally finished on the day when Christ Jesus returns. Philippians 1:6
To the people who claim they need gas money - no. Pot is legal here and many use that scheme to get money for their habit. Hubby actually had extra gas in a gas can and the person snorted and walked away.
However, at Walmart, I was approached on 2 different occasions by people wanting food. One was a young man asking if we had anything to spare. Had bought a loaf of fresh baked french bread and asked if that was ok. He nodded and held it up to his friend, sitting near the entrance, who then jumped up and motioned him over. He thanked me and ran to his buddy.
The other time, a very much older man came over to take my cart after I finished loading groceries. I said I got it, thinking he's about to ask for money. He said he doesn't ask for money but rather food as that is more important for him. I had bought a lot of frozen food but happened to have a bag of tangerines. I said that's the only thing I could offer and his eyes lit up. He said that was like getting gold. He put the bag into his backpack and thanked me saying the others would be so happy to have the tangerines. He took off, leaving the parking lot.
So, for people really needing food - yes. To the lady with the same story about needing gas money to get to Colorado City (30 miles away), that I see every 3 months (going on 2 years)- no.
Tracy Never Give up, Never Surrender!
(nerd quote from Galaxy Quest but goes with anything!)
It depends on the country. But I usually only give to older people... or people with disabilities. I also always give to people who are at least... "trying". I mean, like... I don't know about other countries but in Mexico, there are lots of people who aren't technically beggars but they do small, useless things for you and expect money in exchange. For example, in every single grocery store parking lot, there are guys who "help" you reverse out of your parking spot. But like, literally all they do is stand behind your car and they're like "keep going, keep going, yea, keep going". Totally useless but well, they could be stealing or doing something illegal instead, so I don't know. I always give them money, more than I probably should.
When I was in Greece, I was told not to give money to any of the women holding a baby asking for money for the baby or offering a rose for sale. There were lots of women doing just that in front of all the popular tourist spots.
Occasionally, when I'm on the subway, someone will get up and make a speech about how they were down on their luck and looking for help.
And yes, you have to wonder does that person really need help or are they looking for drug money.
Which is why I do prefer to give to charities that help those in genuine need.
Edited by: ARCHIMEDESII at: 2/25/2019 (14:20)
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2/25/19 2:16 P
While I was working in New York City, I would see a lot of folks begging. I've witnessed a lot of people in real need, but you never know if someone is begging for money to buy drugs or alcohol. IMO, Better to support the organizations for the homeless. Unfortunately, sometimes even they can't handle the numbers of people in need.
Like others, I give to charities that help those truly in need.
And it is true, there are "beggars" who make a lot of money begging at intersections or in front of Starbucks. that's why I'm a little wary of giving money.
However, to my neighbors who are living rough (on the streets), I've provided them with toothpaste, toiletries, soap, socks, mittens, etc. I've also given out fresh fruit like bananas or oranges. I've donated clothing in good shape to a local church to be distributed to homeless neighbors.
EOWYN, if you want to really help those in need, why don't you volunteer your time at your church ? I'm sure they must have programs to help those people who really are homeless. If you want to help, donate your time or maybe some clothing.
If you have pairs of shorts, pants or skirts that don't fit, give them to someone in need.
Don't you donate clothing ? That's what I do with clothes I wont wear anymore. I give them to the Salvation Army, Goodwill or church drive.
from time to time i will ask if someone is hungry/thirsty and go purchase food/drink for them. in india i can't help but give to the children sometimes, even though many of them are being exploited by these networks/gangs. otherwise i give to organizations to help address issues i hold dear to my heart.
Healthy choices and actions have positive impacts, even if the scale doesn't move!
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32,855 2/21/19 7:35 A
The way I see it is what's in your heart? Is your heart judging that person or is it one of compassion? Do you find other ways to help them? Do you treat them with the kindness and respect they deserve as human beings? Or do you judge them for begging allegedly for a syndicate?
I typically don't give directly to beggars but I do give money to other organizations I know help.