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8/12/18 12:46 P

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One other thing: it doesn't matter if she "meant" to kick the cat, or if the cat just ran in front of her.
She needs to know actions have consequences, and to THINK BEFORE you act. Someone COULD get hurt.

If she's driving a car soon, and someone cuts her off, do you want her to act first & think later? Especially if she's got a tendency to act immaturely & hotheadedly, she could get herself into big trouble.

If this were my kid, I wouldn't even have to ask.

Please don't dismiss this. Most people abusers start out w/ animals.

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8/12/18 12:37 P

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ABSOLUTELY! Without a DOUBT!
If she doesn't know a better way to deal w/ frustration NOW, how do think it will be when she's older and life REALLY gives her more frustrations?

What if she has a kid that won't stop crying?

She needs to know you don't pick on those more vulnerable than you. Venting frustration by physical violence on living things is NEVER acceptable. You need to deal with this NOW.

My mom used to say: Little kids, little problems. Big kids, bigger problems.



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7/27/18 8:57 P

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Most definitely, with a long talk.



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7/27/18 8:40 P

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Personally, I would be concerned if any of my children did this. I feel if they thought they could do this to an animal is a person next?

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7/21/18 4:20 P

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7/16/18 11:17 A

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Of course I would!
Did you not punish your daughter?

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7/16/18 10:02 A

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7/16/18 9:51 A

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kicking a defenseless animal is WRONG - my mom definitely would have punished us

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7/16/18 5:39 A

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Yes, absolutely, she would be grounded for quite a while but I am strict! Abuse should never be tolerated under any circumstances!

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7/14/18 11:50 A

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That is animal abuse and if a person does it to an animal, she may do it to another person or herself. Yes, I would punish her because she needs to learn a lesson that this is not acceptable to you or anyone. The Bible say to instill discipline so kids won't be spoiled. I would take away as many privileges as you think you should ~loss of car driving privileges, loss of phone privileges or take away her cell phone ~even for a day ~it will drive kids crazy, loss of time with friends and tell her she needs to take that time to think about what she did ~TALK to her ~WHY did she kick the cat? Did the cat do something ~vomit,defacate,urinate on her property? Does she hate cats? Asking her WHY is SO important PLUS taking away the privileges to STOP her from doing it again. And I agree with MANDIETERRIER1, venting anger needs to be done in a safe way,not at animals.
If she does it again, after all you have done, then , you need to remove the cat as YOU will be held responsible for animal abuse if a neighbor reports it as your daughter is a minor and it is against the law in every state to abuse any animal.

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7/14/18 11:18 A

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I agree with livintoday. Talk to her. Maybe it was an accident? She started to kick at the air, but the cat ran in front of her?

Tell her at times that while we all feel anger. We need to vent our anger in a method that is safe for everyone. Man and beast.





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7/14/18 8:42 A

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My children are grown. Our feeling about our home though is it is safe for all, animal or human who live in it or are invited to it. Therefore any intimidation or physical abuse is absolutely forbidden.

What your daughter did is abuse, even it it was not a hard kick and the cat is fine. The fact is that your daughter is nearly an adult and she has to accept that frustration is part of life and that striking out at another living thing has consequences.

I would certainly talk with her about it and perhaps ground her for a weekend or ask her to choose an appropriate punishment. Part of determining whether punishment is necessary is her attitude about her actions. Is this a cat she loves? Was she remorseful? If so, she may have hurt herself as well as the cat and harsher punishment may not be necessary.

Edited by: LIVINTODAY at: 7/14/2018 (08:43)
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7/14/18 8:34 A

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kicked your cat out of frustration?



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