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1/30/18 2:24 P

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food pushers are always going to be around. Really bad when they come into YOUR home!

You did a great job declining. emoticon

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1/30/18 2:19 P

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Something that took me a long time to learn,

I can't control how people treat me. What they do. Or what they eat in front of me.

I can only control how I respond to said triggers.



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1/30/18 6:14 A

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Well, if that's what she wants to put into her body, that is her choice. Since you and your immediate family are making wiser food choices, I trust you had those available. I know when I go to a gathering, I always bring a vegetable tray and/or fruit like pineapple chunks and clementines.

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1/29/18 11:18 P

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A food pusher. You may have to be a little firm in your No!

Honestly though. They may just be trying to be nice. They really do mean well. It's just they just won't take no for an answer.

Be nice, but firm.

Edited by: MANDIETERRIER1 at: 1/30/2018 (13:08)

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1/29/18 11:15 P

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I think that having to deal with people who eat things you don't. Sharpens your willpower.

Also try not to think of this as a diet. A diet is something you go on and go off. Think of it as something you will do for the rest of your life. Find healthy habits. That you can live with.

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1/29/18 8:46 P

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I guess I should have been more detailed. She did continuously offer me her snacks, even after I said no thank you. And in the past when she’s been dieting she has specifically asked us not to bring sweets or soda into her home when we visit. Good for the goose ya know. Either way, I didn’t eat it, and it was only one night.

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1/29/18 8:08 P

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I'm at the point where everyone knows that I eat healthy. If I encounter a "food pusher", I totally ignore them.

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1/29/18 6:06 P

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This is one of the places where having your eyes on your own paper pays off. You are not a lemming. Just because someone else is doing something you do not have to do the same thing. If your MIL gets up to go to the bathroom do you follow her and start a line? Would you grab wings off of the plate of the table next to you in a restaurant? Same rules apply here. Someone else doing something does not have to change what you are doing.

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1/29/18 5:41 P

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very difficult.

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1/29/18 3:08 P

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I empathize. I honestly never really crave things like fried chicken, but if I'm hungry and I smell it..??? That's quite a challenge! It's almost like it makes whatever I do have to eat that was perfectly fine before I smelled the fried chicken seem a lot less appealing. Did she bring food for everyone?? You said "pile" so that made me think that it wasn't just food for herself. If that's the case, I don't think there is anything wrong with saying "Hey, you are welcome to eat that if you want, but please check with us before bringing food over, since are trying to focus on (insert way to say "healthier" without sounding like a jerk -- maybe "eating more vegetables" or heck, I'd say "Cutting back on fried foods because it makes my IBS flare up.." .. :-D)

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1/29/18 1:53 P

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give it time. I used to be tempted by that type of food, but now just the thought makes me queasy. The smell of fast food...BLEGH!

it's an opportunity to build your 'I don't eat that way any more' muscles emoticon

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1/29/18 1:45 P

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All I could do is sit there and think. Yes that would equal a night of sleeping on the bathroom floor. Watching the ceiling spin because I am so nauseous.

Then I would avoid it at all costs. Since sleeping on the bathroom floor. With a bath mat as a pillow. Thinking my stomach really hurts bad. Am I going to have to call an ambulance? No food is worth that.

I have people eat food that I avoid in front of me all the time. I just ignore what there eating. Even though sometimes you can smell it and ewwww.

I am not their food police. I don't feel the need to scream at them at all. I just try to be a silent example. How I eat and how I feel so much better

Edited by: MANDIETERRIER1 at: 1/29/2018 (13:49)

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1/29/18 1:13 P

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People are entitled to eat what they want. Learning to deal with them and their food choices is part of this journey.
Good luck!

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1/29/18 12:46 P

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My mother in law came over Saturday for the night. She’s one who is always in some yo yo diet, but this weekend apparently she wasn’t dieting. She shows up with chips, fried chicken, jack in the box, and a pile of other stuff we are trying to avoid. I’ll tell ya, it was all I could do to not scream sitting across the table from her watching her eat this stuff.

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