We don't like change....

Monday, January 28, 2008

I wrote this on my team page and also wanted to share it on my blog:
When people you love are not supportive, most of the time it has nothing to do with you! It is their own insecurity! Most people do not like change. Think about it, we all say we want to change something about us, get a new job, or enter into some type of process of change; but when it comes down to it we just like the IDEA of change. Deep down inside we truly just want things to remain the same because we do not want to leave our comfort zone. Even if what you are doing right now does not work well, it is familiar. They may be afraid that if you reach your goals, you will change, and they may not like it or be ready for that change. However, change is good and when you change, maybe they will realize you only changed for the better and that may help them to reach their goals! Just try not to internalize it because it will derail you from your goals and we cannot have that! emoticon

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    Stay STRONG Diva, Stay STRONG!!
    4926 days ago
  • QUEEND1969
    You are correct of course. However, we must be our biggest supporter/cheerleader. We’re doing this for us, and we may allow our should be supporters to enjoy the benefits. Weight loss like any other major changes in life will bring out the real friends/family who are for you. Why? Some people may pretend that they want you to be the best you, but then when you’re really going full force ahead, that green evil monster of jealousy sneaks in. Seeing us overweight or struggling in some other area of life was making them feel as if they were better than us.

    So do if for you, and for those who choose to cheer you on, happy. For those who don’t, still be happy, because like you said, they need to deal with their own insecurities. Stay Blessed and focused.

    4929 days ago
  • RENA1965
    I agree with you. Also if we succeed, it forces them to do something about their weaknesses. They sometimes try to sabotage our efforts, so they can say I told you so.... I have a grandma that regularly offers cookies even if she has been told a thousand times they look great, but no thanks I don't want them, or even need them to my coffee and am not hungry because I just eat before leaving home.
    I have had girlfriends loss husbands over this. These men suddenly get a women that is looking hot and can't cope with it. They get jealous at the extra attention she is paid. Which causes friction in the marriage. These women, then met someone new and actually get the support they never did when married. Sometimes change is needed to heal old wounds.
    4930 days ago
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