Thursday, August 23, 2007
My daughter Aubrey was married to her fiance Mike on August 19th at 6pm, on the cliffs of Rancho Palos Verdes above the Pacific Ocean, on a beautiful sunny day with great ocean breezes, and a gorgeous sunset during the evening.
Although the last two days were hectic, the wedding went off very smoothly, and everyone had a really good time. The ceremony, flowers, decorations, tables, food, staff, cake, music, gowns, setting, you name it, were just beautiful and yummy and perfect!!!
Aubrey looked absolutely amazing, words cannot describe how beautiful. Mike and all the guys in tuxedos (including my DH) added special class to the evening. The bridesmaids all looked beautiful too; what great friends, and a lot of help to the bride those last hours!
Everyone was congratulating me - I'm not sure if it's because I married off a daughter or gained a son! (I'm going with the latter.) Just count me as the very proud MOB - Mom of the Bride!
As a picture is definitely worth a thousand words, I've added several photos to my SP Photo Gallery - please check them out!
Some of you know how difficult this day could have been, with my abusive ex-husband and estranged ex-step-children attending. Aubrey has been terribly nervous for months about whether one of them would say or do something cruel to me - as it has happened in the past.
I also had been nervous, mostly about how it would feel to see them for the first time in several years, and especially with my weight gain since my spinal injury; but with the chaos of our living situation/ crazy landlady/ forced move, I didn't have time lately to think about it.
Of course, the first person I saw when I arrived was my ex, more than an hour early and waiting in the parking lot. At first, it kinda shook me up, but then I just forgot about him (and his kids), and enjoyed MY family and the wonderful events of the day.
Several times throughout the evening, I realized I was laughing, talking, completely relaxed, blissfully happy and having a terrific time, loving every minute of it, and I hadn't thought about him at all!
My ex-husband/Aubrey's bio father was invited as just a normal guest, although he and the rest of his side of the family did get an entire "family" table right next to the head table (my son sat with the groom's family, and Bob and I sat further back with his family).
We thought it was generous of Aubrey, and quite ironic, given that when her father married for the fourth time recently, his children from his first marriage sat right up front at Table #2, but Aubrey and Mike were seated at Table #12, with the bride's distant cousins!
When Aubrey called her father to get his "RSVP" (he didn't mail it back), he promised her that, although he knew he had screwed up countless times in her life, this was the ONE time he wouldn't break his promise: he would make sure his family didn't cause any problems on her special day.
Actually, all of us were pretty amazed at how well he himself behaved, staying quiet, not forcing himself into the proceedings, taking a lot of photos (which he sent to Aubs by email), and keeping to the background.
While he did have a turn as "father" in a few of the family photos taken after the ceremony, he got to watch as her older brother Scott (my son) walked her down the aisle.
Her stepfather (my husband) got the first part of the "father-daughter" dance to "He Didn't Have To Be" by Brad Paisley; my son's part of the dance was to "I Loved Her First," very fitting as he had been more of a father to her than anyone when she was young.
When Aubrey finished with them and turned to me, motioning to me to come on the dance floor to the music of "In My Daughter's Eyes", I felt like every anxious and heart-breaking moment over the years was well worth it. This special day was truly one of the highlights of my life!