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Watching Your Parents get older really sucks

Friday, June 04, 2021

My dad is 83 and mom is 79, the two people I could always count on were always there, are declining. It is so hard watching the man who could do anything, get weaker and can't any more not because he doesn't want to or because the desire isn't there, but because his body just won't let him any more. I remember feeling so proud when I could figure out something before he did, now it's not so much fun anymore, things he could figure out before he's having a harder time with.

Mom's mental health is going. She refuses to go see a Dr. I'm pretty sure it's Dementia. Started with forgetting little things about 6 years ago, it's progressing much too fast now. I talked to dad the other day to see how he was doing, he said ok, but doesn't know if he can continue looking after mom. He actually admitted maybe its time to move. He said she asked whose house they were living in, our house he told her. They have been living there for 40 years. At night she looks for the kids there are no kids living there. He has agreed to getting help. I've been putting that into place. She needs to be assessed, thankfully they do home visits. Get him some respite. My sisters and I are making sure one if us goes out there every day or most days. We started doing some of this then COVID hit, and stopped....

I was planning on moving to where my grandkids are this summer, but have to put that on hold until I figure stuff out for them. Still will sell my place and move in with them for awhile, dad's been wanting that for awhile now. Just a slight delay...

I can't even imagine how hard this is on them, especially dad watching his life partner get lost. They worked hard all their lives and this is suppose to be time to enjoy life, not this. Who ever said the golden years are golden definately didn't know what they were talking about. The way I see it, they are anything but golden.

Just have to enjoy the years we have left with them and be thankful they are still here. It's so hard watching them go through this.

I'm scared to get older.......

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    23 days ago
    Carol, my heart goes out to you. Mum passed 2 years ago with dementia and Dad two years prior with similar.
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    45 days ago
    45 days ago
    You're in my prayers. I don't know exactly what you're going through but watching cancer take my mom away a little at a time sounds similar if on a different timeline. Still the most painful thing I've gone through. So I understand the fear.

    46 days ago
    Hugs. Sorry that things are so scary right now.
    48 days ago
    Keeping you in prayer my friend
    49 days ago
    OH my gosh. Went through all that with my parents. It is beyond difficult. BUT sounds like you're doing what you can for them. So sorry.
    49 days ago
    I know it really hurts to watch anyone we love go through such devastating things especially when they did nothing to bring it on. In these days we often end up taking care of our parents & our grandchildren, that is a lot of stress. We cannot control some things only love them while you still have them & take the best care of yourself as possible or you won't have the strength to do all the things that you need to. Believe me there is a lot to do especially if you are also moving. Please don't be scared of getting older that is not what life is about but doing our very best for ourselves, family, friends & even enjoying life because we never know when we won't be able to & we need good memories, if at all possible. When my own Dad passed at 58, it brought me closer to everyone I love because I guess I thought he was indestructible which is kind of silly but still that is how I felt. Be willing to bend sweetie or you will break, do all you can for them but also for you.
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    49 days ago
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