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Are You a Lurker?

Wednesday, April 07, 2021

Lurker - a person who lurks, in particular a user of an internet message board or chat room who does not participate.
Well, I admit, I do look, check out, and investigate SparkPeople members. BUT, I do try to engage! As a new team leader, I’m trying to find out who is active and who is not. Surprise, or no surprise, some signed up (as far back as 2006) with great intentions - the why, the how and the promise to self. And then nothing. Missing in action. MIA. I was one of those, for years!
Now I am a year in, fully invested, making progress, and connecting with likeminded Sparkies. Success! I understand the privacy piece. Who really wants to post before pictures? Ugh. You don’t have to post your name, email, location, etc. Stay safe!

Sadly, one of my Spark friends had to turn off her page because of not-so-positive comments. That makes me so sad, and angry. She really is being successful and is a Spark motivator.
Don’t be a lurker! Connect, but be encouraging and positive. Connecting is a piece of this successful journey. Leave a message, a goodie, a post or a blog. Your contribution matters.
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    Probably, but always try to leave encouragement when I respond
    14 days ago

    Comment edited on: 4/22/2021 10:52:01 PM
    I have my page set to friends only because honestly, I don't want my stuff out there on the internet for anyone to see outside of spark and everything we post here can be seen by non spark members if something we've posted comes up in a search on google.

    As an introvert though, lurking is safer for my sanity.
    17 days ago
  • MT2021
    I joined in 2006 and was active until 2011. Left SP for 10 years after being cyberstalked. I am returning cautiously and considering making my page online again. Baby steps emoticon
    17 days ago
  • 52BINCE
    I am somewhere in between LOL!
    19 days ago
    I'll admit that I started out as a lurker for the first 4 to 5 years on Sparks. I'm definitely an introvert or have been in the past. I've learned to respond. To be more active in teams. To help out a fellow Sparker if there's a question that I think I can answer. That's what we're here for, right? To share if we can, both the good and the bad so that others can learn from our mistakes and triumphs.
    It does take me longer than usual to change habits. Perhaps because of my age. Who knows? The strategy to keep on trying. Don't give up.
    As for those without respect for other's privacy, or who talk down to others simply because they think they have that right to do so, or who just like to be mean, 2B does have a point. Report them. Let Sparks deal with them in the way they're hopefully trained to do.
    19 days ago
    Although I'm pretty active here on SP it's mostly blogging and commenting on other peoples' blogs and status posts. Not so active in other ways.

    And I see quite a number of "lurkers" who self-identify as introverts have responded . . .

    One of the things I like best about Spark People is the general tolerance of the members for others to participate how they will -- whatever works best for you!! Weight loss is an experiment of one: and maintenance too.
    19 days ago
    I was an introverted lurker for my 1st 3 years on Spark until someone reached out, added me as a friend and invited me to join their team. I get to know people through their blogs and of course by their comments on mine which leads me to their page. I call this "following the breadcrumbs"
    Over 12 years I have never deleted a friend. Even if missing for a long time, I keep hoping they will return. After all, I did and I was so happy to find old friends still here and make new ones, like you.
    25 days ago
    I don't have anything to add, but don't want to be a lurker. You've made some good points.
    26 days ago
    Lurked for awhile myself when I first joined Spark, Left Spark. Returned to Spark and have been as engaged as is healthy for me since.

    Being an introvert and a person quite happy in solitude ... engaging here has been and continues to be way outside my comfort zone.
    28 days ago
    I wonder how many people have died and how would we know?

    28 days ago
    I guess I periodically lurk when someone does something good and I want to see how they've done it or what teams they may be on. Generally click the like or leave a good comment. Other than Pinterest, this is the only "social media" I am on. And then not that much. I've been fortunate enough to not be on the receiving end of not so nice comments. Sometimes my bad day may come through but I try not to do that very often.

    Keep doing what you are doing as you are doing a great job. I am so lucky to have you as one of my SP Friends.

    29 days ago
    Read your blog :)
    29 days ago
    emoticon for bringing to my attention that I am a lurker. I will work on that.
    29 days ago
    29 days ago
    My settings look exactly like yours. Recently I did have a situation though with someone leaving some really mean spirited comments on Two blogs I wrote. ... With those we have 2 choices. Delete or report it to sparks. Turned out that individual was Making mean comments all over the place including the community feed and a particular team. If we don't let sparks know about it the problem will continue so I feel it is up to us as a community to not tolerate such behavior that goes contrary to community guidelines. They know how to deal With negative behavior.
    P.S. I am not a lurker, but contribute as much as my time allows.... emoticon
    29 days ago

    Comment edited on: 4/7/2021 2:27:30 PM
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    29 days ago
    I left SP because of bullying and judgements - some people engage simply to carry over online how they are in life, and usually I can ignore it. However, it became every blog and I have better things to do than argue or be affected by strangers. I understand the reason your SP friend turned off her page. It's something the coaches aren't dealing with, at least in my experience. I'm glad it's working good for you, that's excellent.
    29 days ago
    I do try to engage, although I have a tendency to lurk online.

    However, I hate getting e-mails for everything on Spark, because I do not check my e-mail much. If it just went to the Spark e-mail that would be wonderful!

    29 days ago
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