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Sunday, February 28, 2021

After church today my husband met my step daughter for lunch. When we married we agreed to keep our money separate. If I were to need money he’d give it to me. He asks me if I need money off and on. I got aggravated at lunch today. Tammy his daughter is a bus driver and also mail carrier and her husband has a very good job. They have one child. My husband is paying for their cell phone plan and last year paid for Tammy a house keeper because she simply doesn’t clean. My husband stopped paying in December and Tammy rehired her last week. Rick ask her today if she came and she said “yes about killed me to pay her” he replied I’ll pay next time!! I saw red!!!! Tammys husband is gone 30 days home 30 days. That’s the way his job is. It just hit me wrong. I’m still about half mad over this. I’m not going to say anything because it will cause confusion.
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  • VHAYES04
    If it were something they needed I wouldn’t be upset at all. She had just said they went to the casino the night before. He’s retired military and she knows he had money and expects it. She borrows and never pays back.
    73 days ago
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    As a parent of grown kids, I still help out our kids when they need extra help. Times are tuff sometimes and if they appreciate the help it makes it worth while to help out when one can. It sounds like your husband is a very caring and generous man to both you and his daughter. Life is too short and helping others is such an easy thing to do especially when it comes to the ones you love.
    73 days ago
    Sorry it upset you - maybe in the past she helped him financially and you dont know.
    73 days ago
    Some families view adult independence differently. If it's his separate money, I guess that's his choice. I think it shows a lack of boundaries, but I don't have grown children. Sorry that it upset you.
    73 days ago
    I see nothing wrong with a father helping out his daughter , my father left and started a whole new family . you should feel homered he takes good care of his children. maybe you should tell him how you feel now before this snowballs. Hugs
    73 days ago
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