Well, the computer gremlins were out in full force yesterday!
I had a blog just about ready to post when it went
and all I was left was the title and an image.
I can't remember what I had entitled the blog but I do remember I was trying to explain my issue with the frequently seen, so called motivational image, "if you don't like starting over - stop quitting"
How do you know you are quitting? Do you have it scheduled in your day planner?
As ludicrous as that sounds, don't you think it is time we looked at "quitting" as a process
rather than an actual finality.
Then, and only then, do we have a fighting chance to stop quitting!
For example, if you are heading out on a day trip to go exploring what do you do?
Well, aside for grabbing a coat (in case the weather changes), a snack (in case you get hungry), and a coffee or water for the road. I'm guessing you check the gas level. I generally check the oil and windshield wash (truth be told, I get my husband to do all of that!)
If, while out on your day trip, you encounter road blocks
, you seek a detour to find another way. You don't simply quit and go home! Well, if you do you are a wuss!
Gee, I hope nobody gets offended by that!
Anyway, the same goes for bumps in the road
- you do your best to maneuver around them and continue on your journey. You might strike a few potholes and you might make your passenger scream (or is that only MY driving? -
So why don't we go about our weight-loss journeys the same way? We all start out gung-ho like a fire is lit within us! But slowly but surely our flame seems to fizzles out. We all know the importance of starting out small, building on habits until they become routine, and setting goals
....but , and this is a huge but
do we ever do a routine check up/in with ourselves?
I am participating in one of the BLC teams (
) and as part of our weekly weigh-in, we do have a self-assessment. For example, we are asked what were our successes and what were our struggles. We are also asked to list three positives for the week ahead. I believe this approach works because it takes some of the emphasis off of the number on the scale
and puts the onus on us to look back and see what worked and what didn't.
Of course, each of journeys is unique to us and we all have different "roadblocks" and "detours". Mine is my mental health
and more specifically my struggles with reoccurring depression
When I'm struggling with depressive thoughts it is hard for me to even think about my physical well-being but I am learning that I have to. I have seen how one affects the other.
and I have accepted that improving my overall health is the very best goal there is.
I have never, ever woken up one day and decided "this is the day I am going to be depressed" just as I have never picked a future date as my "quit date". Both go hand in hand yet, if I am honest with myself, I know there are subtle signs that all is not going well. Currently I am seeing a counsellor and that is what I going to ask for help with next. How do I move on from "acknowledging there is something there" to tapping on the brakes instead of screeching to an abrupt halt.
One thing that I have started is to have a confidante
. This could be a teammate, a good friend or a life partner. It was rather embarrassing for me to explain to my husband but I did it. I explained that I was using food as an emotional soother and that while my weight was becoming really embarrassing, I just kept eating junk food. John never understood why I was eating with wild abandon but now I feel I can talk it out rather than stuffing my face.
But I have to say the best thing I have done to keep "quitting" at bay is to schedule regular self-check ins.
How, do you ask? Well, I have gone as far as to schedule my "check ins" on my phone! I have a reminder set for every two weeks and I have it entered in my calendar as "how I'm doing". On those days, I will write in my journal a chart of what is working, what isn't, what I'd like to do next, etc.
Give it a try - it just might work for you!