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12/31/20 Looking Back

Thursday, December 31, 2020

Today I was invited to join an online class to make 2021 Incredible by Mel Robbins. Now I don't agree with her politics, but, I've found that she has a way of speaking and thinking that helps me to think about what I want to accomplish in 2020. You can join too at the link below if you like... the course is FREE! (right in line with my budget). If you join and want a buddy to talk with, just let me know and we'll work it out.


The first lesson is to take a good look back at 2020, and answer 8 questions about the year. I'm going to pose the questions and my answers in this blog so I have a record of it and to see if writing in this format gives me any new insights (I wrote things that I thought of during the video)

With the last 12 months in mind, answer these 8 questions.

1. What were the highlight of this year.
Mel recommends looking at photos you've taken as reminders, but I didn't take any
picutures this year (except of food for my food log in NS).
I celebrated my 20 year work anniversary.
I took the time to play with friends online and in person almost every week this year.
I spent time assessing what I want and where I want to be in the next 5 years.

2. What did you learn about yourself that surprised you?
I need to be learning to be happy.
I need face to face interactions, even if limited to one or two friends/family.
I prefer my spaces to be uncluttered.
I spoke up for what I wanted and got it. (More on this later)

3. What was the hardest aspect of this year.
Being unable to travel.
Not being able to see my MIL when she lost her husband, or at any time this year. The last time I saw her was in September 2019.
Being more isolated, unable to see family/friends for long periods of time.

4. What lesson did you learn that you're going to take into next year?
To stop focusing on what everyone esle needs and make time for what I want/need.

5. What's the one thing you'll commit to not going back to?
People pleasing. I commit to being myself and standing up for what I want need rather then thinking about everyone else first.

6. What's the one thing you started doing thisyaer that you want to keep doing?
I started to build a morning routine, which includes getting to work early. I want to build on this routine to make it even better.
Morning movement (exercise)

7. In what yays are you stronger than you were last year?
What wisdom are you bringing into next year.
I have found the courage to go after what I want.
Leave yesterday in the past, focus on today.

8. What are you most proud of that happened this past year?
I took the time to work on my home, making more space for me.

So what courage did I find? I actually committed to going back to school for my BS in HR Management in fall 2021. I spoke with my boss, as it will impact the office... eventually (and he needed to approve it). I work in a small service center as an admin. I've wanted to get into the HR field for many years now, but never had the courage to actually go for it. This will mean moving when I start actually working in the field.

I work for a very large company that I love, but, the HR offices are not where I live now. I would need to move east (DH would prefer Virginia to be near his mom) to work for the company in this position. Starting a new position at over 60 is daunting, but also exciting.

Oh, did I mention? My company is paying for this education. All I need to do is complete the course work and continue working for the company for 2 years after I complete my degree. I will be 62 or 63 depending on how much of my AA degree (from the 70's) will transfer.

I committed to this yesterday by submitting my application to my manager & HR rep. Now I'm waiting to hear whether I've been accepted. In my mind I know I will, in my gut, well it's not so sure. After all I'll be starting at age 60. My plan is to work until I'm in my 70's, as DH won't be retirning until then.

I am excited, nervous and thinking "what have I done." But that is a natural part of growth and it tells me this is something I should be doing.

Anyway, that's enough food for though for now.
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    Thank you so much for posting about this course! I have signed up, too.

    I really admire your reflections on the year; it sounds like you have made great strides in self-awareness and growth, as well as changes at home and at work. Fantastic!!
    170 days ago
  • LOSINGIT2020
    Good questions to ask. And kudos to you for going after what you want!
    173 days ago
  • no profile photo CD11945874
    emoticon for going back to school for your BS in HR management! That is quite an accomplishment! And I would not give a second thought to "being 60." I still think that is young---and I have seen many in management in their sixties. Also congratulations on your twenty year work anniversary! .. Best wishes for doing all the things in 2021--that make you happy!
    173 days ago
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