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A Reality "Wish List" this year!

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Saturday, November 28, 2020

I used to sing emoticon "All I want for Christmas, is my 2 front teeth"--- emoticon
Now, I had to think long and hard ---
What do I REALLY want for Christmas?---like--realistic things-

#1. WILLPOWER ---but-- I have to work on that--- No -one can give me that!
#2.-- I want more time--- like--- Wouldn't it just be the best thing ever, if Himself told me to stay in bed and he would do all the morning chores--- EVEN for one day--Right now I get up at 5-30 or 6am to get stuff done-
#3.-- Now if the grown kids could phone me--ask how "I" am---even one day a week---They do call, (well some of them) but we are so busy talking about their day--
It would be wonderful to hear, "How are YOU Mom?-"
#4-- This will never happen----but--it would be nice--if --perhaps-the ones in town would ask if I needed anything at the grocery-I do go there--but--the gesture would mean so much to me--
#5.-- It would be wonderful if one of the kids living here in town would offer to take their father for a ride-He doesn't drive anymore so is stuck close to home , most days-
#6.- And , this will never happen--but---- wouldn't it be nice if one of them brought a meal ----Cooking dinner every night is hard-- I'm not even hungry by evening--- but----- it would help the appetite to have someone help us with that meal---

"Time is of the essence"---- Mom used to say that! ----With HImself not as steady on his feet as he used to be, I have become "the gopher--- "Run downstairs and get this please "----
"Walk Tess"---- "Pick up my meds at the Pharmacy"--"Drive the garbage over"-----"Wash the car--- "Get an Oil change"--"Do the banking"---

it seems like there is not enough time in any day--
By the time night comes, lately I fall asleep in the chair--
"Asleep at the switch" , again is what Mom used to tell me--
I used to daydream, even then, you see!

Lord love a Duck! Being a Mom isn't easy as one ages--
My Mom never "clued" me in--- Too bad I never asked her---
I suppose that is why I need to "STAY STRONG"--Exercise--- Eat Healthy Foods--- MOVE-- READ--Dance---Play the piano- Hug my dogs--and SUSHI--Wear that mask-- Pray--Drink Water---
--AND_____ NEVER EVER STOP SPARKING_!~


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  • TOMATOCAFEGAL
    Am using this for the family this year.love you Lynda
    46 days ago
  • TERRIJ7
    It would be nice if your local kids would consider how they might make life easier for you, and I think some of them do from time to time, right? Son #2 at least keeps an eye on you from wherever he is flying and you seem to be able to get help with some things when you ask. But you have boys and they are not famous for being especially nurturing. Too bad your daughter lives in the states. I'll be she would think of some of those things!
    50 days ago
  • CELTIA51
    That's a great list Jean.
    I tried to think of something for the secret Santa list, a thing that can be bought but I could really think of anything that wasn't really expensive.
    Actually thought I might ask for a donation in my name to a local charity.
    I am in regular touch with 2 of my kids mainly by text on "what's app" and the other one never calls, I call her and seldom because it's nothing but complaints about her "terrible" health.
    When I think back to my Mom I know that when I grew up I was the only one who ever came for tea and brought her a treat and cleaned the house for her. My sister only came around if she wanted money or to use the washing machine. My brother lived in Louisiana; a long way from British Columbia so.
    I guess we can only do our best them and now.
    50 days ago
  • JIACOLO
    I can honestly say I have had worse years for my behavior.
    51 days ago
  • POTTS2017
    Your life seems a lot like mine. I am the gopher. I am doing all that you are doing to. It has to get better some day. emoticon emoticon
    51 days ago
  • MAIZIEPAIGE
    I used to ask my mother, and she'd say that she was fine and didn't need anything. Now that she's gone, I wish I had thought to do a lot of the things you mentioned and wish she would have given me her list. I know I did a lot but as I get older, I realize I could have done much more. My brothers and I would have my parents keep a list of things that needed done, and our families would come together for a day to get everything taken care of. We'd also add things if we thought of something. In a day with kids and granddads working together, we painted a room, washed down walls, cleaned the basement, garage, and car, mowed the lawn, trimmed bushes, and took care of any tree branches that needed attention. Those days are fond memories, and I know it was very much appreciated, and we all had so much fun. Sometimes, I think children don't realize how difficult tasks become as we age.
    51 days ago
  • REMEMBER2BME
    I think it would be great if they asked you what you want for Christmas and you could honestly share the list. Could be interesting or keep it for your birthday. emoticon
    51 days ago
  • LGRIF22
    Hmm..I get it. I'm fortunate that I have a daughter in Settle who calls at least once a week. My daughter on a mission in NY calls when she can. I never call her because she is sooo busy and usually cn't talk if she even answers the phone, My local daughter usually waits for me to call her, but we often see each other once a week. That's getting iffy, though because of COVID and cold weather. Most of our kids have teenagers and that is reason enough to not be together. Sons usually wait for us to call them when we need their help with computer or lifting. :) They're all great kids. I feel very blessed. Luclkily my husband can drive and usually does most of the grocery shopping. He's not a fix-it person, though, and easily forgets the things that need to be fixed. If I remind him and help, those things eventually get done. We have several major jobs that we both keep putting off. Sometime it will get done (I hope).
    I love your attitude and outlook on life. It's not easy to get older, and you seem to weather it well!
    52 days ago
  • THINCPL2004
    That is an awesome list!
    52 days ago
  • JVANAM
    WILLPOWER is like a 1,000 piece JigSaw Puzzle.
    All the pieces to your success are right there in front of you. Now TAKE YOUR TIME and figure out which pieces snap together.

    Secondly, With your gang of ALLEGEDLY GROWN KIDS maybe it is there turn to kick in with a $olution. For Christmas what it sounds as though what Dr. and Mrs. Nurse needs is a part-time Home/Health Service worker. And the kids foot the bill.

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    52 days ago
  • JUDYD207
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    52 days ago
  • GRAYGRANNY
    Sending this to your kids may or may not kick-start them.......but there are times I can certainly relate to some of these...(((HUGS))) from afar!
    52 days ago
  • 4EVERDIETER
    Naughty and nice!
    52 days ago
  • MARYGOLD5
    Very well said. As we get older, and the grown children have families of their own, parents and their needs seem to be pushed aside. It would be nice to just get a phone call once a week out of concern for our well being. Well, they will be the older parents some day. I guess they will realize then what they should have done, after it's too late. emoticon emoticon
    52 days ago
  • FLPALM
    You nailed it with your BLOG! No matter how we bring up our "kids" at any age, they will always be our kids, but wouldn't it be nice for them to call us. We know they LOVE US, but actions or lack of, speaks volumes. So yes, when our daughter calls us, and says, "Hi Mom, Hi Dad, How are you doing?" This small sentence would be a gift, one that they do never seem to realize the importance of.

    Stay safe my SPFriend. and remember our children, young and older, do love us, but basically have a difficult time showing it!
    52 days ago
  • JILLIAN0216
    I think my mom would agree with you on the list. I have decided not t0 buy my parents anything for Christmas. Instead, I am making them some homemade meals they can freeze and eat later. I try to make a point of asking mom how they are doing when she calls me. That is something she mentioned no one does for them.
    52 days ago
  • LIVELYGIRL2
    oh you see right here, how indeed you spoke the truth !!!! I do not think many kids think of think of what's on your list, that's for sure... But is there anything wrong with asking spouse or kids , to do even one of these things once in awhile ???

    I do believed I mentioned, that when I was a kid, they had a show called," Queen For a Day", which many women had such things done, but I do not think it was from their family : ))

    The truth is, people people take people for granted, but it sounds as if your children do not completely... we get busy.... and this is a wonderful lesson.

    This reminds me of several movies that often play at Christmas. We saw. The Ultimate Gift which played Of our we know some of the typical holiday favorites, which are great to get these points across.

    The "Courageous " movie and" Fireproof " movies , as well, as " I Can Only Imagine", have powerful restoration stories as well, but are religious.
    52 days ago
  • JPPERSELL
    This is a great blog! I think I would like the same things mostly. I would love it if my husband just told me hey! Let's go for a ride today! I think that would be great! Even though I drive it would be nice to go on a car ride with him or my sons. Speaking of which I just wish that they would call or text me once a week to ask me how I am doing or just to talk. Instead I have to be the one to call. I even call my mom for the most part. She doesn't always answer her phone though. Well I do have to do my morning chores since my husband works he doesn't help out with the housekeeping. He does do the banking though which I find great because there is nothing worse than keeping up with the bills!
    52 days ago
  • SANFORD56
    your list looks a great deal like my list.
    52 days ago
  • ACIMPEGGY
    Send this to your kids! emoticon emoticon
    52 days ago
  • AZMOMXTWO
    great list
    52 days ago
  • DGRIFFITH51
    Wonderful wish list, I hope a few things do happen for you!
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    52 days ago
  • TOMATOCAFEGAL
    Wow. Love the list. Like the reality of it. Writing those words down!
    52 days ago
  • WALNUTT1961
    That is a great list. I pray you get those things
    52 days ago
  • SCDALYNCH
    Your what if list is so emoticon . emoticon

    What if we realized that the important actions in life were those we do for our parents and family. Perhaps more families would be happier. I am going to write my what if list.

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    52 days ago
  • CSEGUIN2
    Very reasonable things to want. Sometimes when it comes to our kids they just need to be told or even asked to do the things we want.
    52 days ago
  • COOKWITHME65
    continued. The phone to ring or you hear a knock at the door. Before long you will be burnt out. Practice self care and do t over do it. By the way, mine don't call either, ony when the are in need of something. 😑
    52 days ago
  • COOKWITHME65
    I think this list is just perfect and I think you should send everyone one of your children an early xmass card this week with this printed copy enclosed then sit in that chair with your loving Shepards by your side and see how soon it takes the. ..
    52 days ago
  • WATERMELLEN
    Your list is a very reasonable one. But as you say, you never asked YOUR mum what help she could have needed and she never clued YOU in either. Do you suppose letting your kids see your list would result in a change . . . not only for this generation but for the next? Your grandkids would then see their parents calling the grandparents and asking what they need: and they'd get familiar with the concept so that they in turn would ask THEIR parents in due course.

    Just a thought.

    We give so much help.

    But: we are so reluctant to ask for help, even when it would be so very welcome.
    52 days ago
  • no profile photo CD25161562
    Love your 'what if' list of things the 'kids' could do for you - I hear of many having kids that do just that but it would be nice if more did. Mine think of some things but one lives with us (she is special needs), one lives in town with her husband and 2 boys and doesnt always ask or think what we might want/need re help with and the other 2 live out of town and just dont see the 'need' of doing little things for us. But the day will come when they get to be our age and will ask the same questions so what goes around comes around

    Stay safe, practice social distancing and wear masks when you are out and about
    52 days ago
  • no profile photo RACHNACH
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    52 days ago
  • ANNIEMAROO
    I use the term "go for" instead of gopher - but it's the same thing, going for something for some one else...
    Maybe send your wish list to your kids so they know what you want???
    Being a mind reader is not easy, and they might like the idea of bringing you dinner!
    Hope you get your wishes!!!
    52 days ago
  • JUSTJ2014
    Those phone calls from your children, yes it is always about them emoticon
    52 days ago
  • ONEKIDSMOM
    Hang in there, Lynda! It's hard being the one everyone else relies on. It's nice that they think you are super woman, but it would also be nice if those closest to you would realize even super woman needs a break now and then. And not just at Christmas. emoticon emoticon
    52 days ago
  • BARBARAJ73
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    52 days ago
  • no profile photo YESITWORKED
    Thank you for this blog. I am going to do a few of these chores for my daughter who is home schooling three kids. Talk about not enough time. emoticon
    52 days ago
  • COOKIE_AT_51
    Sounds a little familiar when it comes to my children, I do remind them that it is nice to hear from them emoticon

    Hugs to you, Cookie
    52 days ago
  • DONNALEE-53
    emoticon Blog. Ann how true.
    Hope some of your wishes come true for you. Maybe in 2021.
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    52 days ago
  • AKA_TROUBLE
    I think a lot of moms with grown kids would have a similar wish list.
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    52 days ago
  • JERICHO1991
    Sounds like a "Grown Up Christmas List" to me.
    52 days ago
  • MCJULIEO
    Someday.... SOMEDAY those loved ones may get a clue..... the double edged sword is that you project the image of being just SO COMPETENT!
    52 days ago
  • JLAMING263
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    52 days ago
  • BONIFIANT
    I hope that you are able to get a least of your wish list.

    Have a super Sunday and keep Sparking.
    52 days ago
  • NJ_BEACHCOMBERS
    I want a dog...that's all... emoticon
    52 days ago
  • CARD512002
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    Have a great Sunday

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    52 days ago
  • SUSANYOUNGER
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    52 days ago
  • GETAGRIPNAN
    You’ve written down most of my wishes.
    I don’t have offspring to do things for me but it would be so nice if they siblings and their kids could take mum out of my equation now and again
    52 days ago
  • RHOOK20047
    I know only too well what you speak of. We went across state to visit our son with cancer, as he had chemo on Wednesday and couldn't travel. We left one favor for our son who stayed home with the 4 legged kids (3) and he calls us before we came home to say he didn't have time to do the two loads of laundry that is very hard for me to do since I have bad knees and the laundry is in the basement. I was livid. Took 300 miles to calm down somewhat. But still fries me. So after traveling, I have 4 loads of laundry to do today. I was supposed to work, but since it was volunteer hours, I will opt to get the house caught up. It would really be nice if our kids would practice some of the traits we tried to instill in them. I guess when they reach our age they will realize they could have done better.
    52 days ago
  • SNOOPYLINKOS
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    52 days ago
  • NAVYWIFESKI
    It’s the small things that mean so much from adult children. Seems as though no one slows down enough to think of others. It’s not the pandemic, it’s the generation I think. Stay strong and have a great day!:) 🤗
    52 days ago
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