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My Friend's Misdiagnosis

Saturday, October 17, 2020

Two years ago, my friend was diagnosed with leukemia and I helped find him his beautiful husky, Kaya. She has been his faithful companion and source of so much joy.

Yesterday he told me that they just found out that his cancer is a different kind than they had thought, and is now in stage 4. Had they discovered this sooner, he could have been treated during these past two years.

I'll try to help as much as possible; he starts chemo on the 29th. They told him that it'll be a 7 hour long treatment. No one can be there with him. Additionally, they expect him to drive himself home and no one is to pick him up. Are you kidding me? They said that's the way it is done now. My concern is that he has gotten very thin and does not have a lot of energy. I don't see how he'll drive himself home after 7 hours of chemo.

I can help when he gets home. But he's the type who never asks or admits that he needs help, so it's hard to force yourself on someone and insist. But I will be there as much as I can.

Still waiting for cooler temps to arrive. This hot weather has gone on long enough.

Wishing all a wonderful day.

"Dying is an art, like everything else." Sylvia Plath
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  • FLORIDASUN
    Now you know why I cross myself 3 times and cross over to the other side of the street when it comes to the medical profession! Honestly with this covid pandemic I think our poor medical people are just beside themselves and can't see the forest for the trees.

    If your friend is so frail how could they possibly expect him to drive himself back and forth? If he doesn't have family to advocate for him he is easy to bully and manage. It's so pathetic.

    You KNOW how I feel about the whole traditional medicine protocol...it's the greediest, most calloused big business of all time. I find it so sad that so many people fall prey to it's grasp. I do know that many times it is life saving and many people have had success in certain situations but a misdiagnosis of cancer seems inexcusable since they have been dealing with it for almost 50 years. A cure will NEVER be found...it's just to profitable to 'keep em' sick and keep em' coming back!

    Ugh...I just hate that this poor man is dealing with this. You are a wonderful friend to try and help him as best you can.

    Blessings upon you dear Jess!
    41 days ago
  • BLITZEN44
    Let him know that you would like to drive him if he'll agree to it. Medical facilities do NOT have any jurisdiction over a patient's life the moment that patient steps foot outside of the facility. Don't let them make you think they do...we still live in America here! What they are doing by lying and attempting to bully patients into situations that may likely be very harmful and even possibly deadly to them is sickening! And trust me, if one or more deaths result from their evil bullying, they WILL be reported and recorded as "covid" deaths. This whole thing is beyond disgusting. I'm sorry for your friend and I hope he takes you up on the offer of transportation.
    42 days ago
  • GOANNA2
    I do remember when you got the husky for him. So sad to hear of
    the misdiagnosis. Not fair is it? I would drive him there. I am sure
    he will be glad of your help and to have someone to talk to.
    Sending hugs and prayers. emoticon emoticon
    43 days ago
  • WALLAHALLA
    I'd drive him anyway. How can they stop you?
    43 days ago
  • WATERMELLEN
    So sorry to hear of your friend's misdiagnosis and the apparent lack of support available to him through medical services. You will do all you can . . . but how lonely he must feel. Sad.
    43 days ago
  • LSIG14
    It seems to me that this pandemic is causing medical facilities to make some extremely questionable decisions. In order to keep some patients safe, they are putting other patients at risk by expecting them to drive themselves to and from treatments. It is just beyond understanding.
    43 days ago
  • ALEXSGIRL1
    i see he doesnt want to be a problem for you. or bother you. but you should be able to drive him and pick him up and take him home hugs men are difficult creatures. you are a great friend emoticon
    43 days ago
  • WILDKAT781
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    43 days ago
  • IAMTHEELLIE
    That's so horrible 😔 I hope he'll be able to talk to the doctors to get permission for help if he doesn't have the energy to drive himself!
    43 days ago
  • BROOKLYN_BORN
    A misdiagnosis is everyone's nightmare. I am so sorry it happened to your friend.
    I agree with so many previous posts. Once he leaves the hospital, they have no control over who he meets, who is his driver or where or with whom he goes.

    The reasoning is likely the danger of Covid, but N95 masks for all involved should be sufficient.

    Hoping for a good outcome
    43 days ago
  • ALIHIKES
    I don't think he should drive himself home. A trusted friend should pick him up. When I pick up my friend from medical treatment (or if I ever needed a ride myself) we wear masks in the car, preferably N-95 but any good mask lowers the risk.
    It is so sad he was misdiagnosed and treatment was delayed. But sometimes it is very difficult to distinguish between illnesses. My dad's pancreatic cancer was difficult to locate, and that typically is a cancer that is hard for doctors to find until it has spread.
    43 days ago
  • 7STIGGYMT
    Wow! That seams like asking for an accident to happen. Could you like meet him a block from the hospital and then drive him home?
    43 days ago
  • PEZMOM1
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    43 days ago
  • MEYERMIRACLE1
    Praying!! OMG don't let him drive.I had my eyes dialated and they expected me to drive home I couldn't even find my way out of the parking lot.Thx God I couldn't the traffic was heavy.I can't imagine driving after chemo!!
    43 days ago
  • 1BLAZER282005
    I definitely don't understand this from medical professionals, lifting your friend up in prayer 🙏❣️
    43 days ago
  • WIZARDHOWL
    Oh wow! I can't imagine expecting a chemo patient to drive themselves home after treatment. I know my mom was exhausted after chemo. What a nightmare! I'm glad you will be able to help him as best you can.
    43 days ago
  • GMACAMI
    I would drive him to and from Chemo... they can not tell you how to do his transportation... it is a matter of safety. he could be sick and very weak after his chemo treatments and no one else on the road wants to be a fatality because he is dizzy or vomiting while driving. Bring a good book and go sit in a nearby park and wait for him...get in some good walks... bring a picnic lunch... but be that friend that waits and drives him. How do they know if he has a drivers license or if he is capable of driving... not their call to make.
    43 days ago
  • MORTICIAADDAMS
    Yikes!! I feel a little like that too as the original doctor, his nurse, and BCBS stalled hubby's treatment while he went from a PSA of 19.7 to 27 and from intermediate to high risk and a Gleason score of 8 out of 10. The former nurse forgot all the time to schedule tests, the doctor acted like a comedian all the time, BCBS constantly denied tests. The current doctor said she didn't believe any of the info provided by the former doctor and obviously she was right. We are grateful to have her and the new chemo doctor who both are serious professionals. I know what a good friend you are so I know you will be a huge help for your friend. I will be praying for him. Hugs.
    43 days ago

    Comment edited on: 10/17/2020 1:33:54 PM
  • READY201811
    Wow. Was that an oversight or what? So much is expected these days for normalcy and I would sit with a friend for her 4 hour chemo once a week for 6 weeks and then the procedure was as they told her with chemo brain fog she was not allowed to drive and if someone was not with her she could not have the procedure. 7 hours is even worse. We know someone who has to have 44 rounds and go in every day consistently and his wife drops him off as she sits in the car every day. Take care of you as you care so deeply for others my dear friend
    43 days ago
  • MSMOSTIMPROVED
    This is why people need advocates when receiving medical care. There is a lot of info to take in while you don’t feel well. There has to be a miscommunication somewhere. I don’t care what the rules are, he doesn’t need to be driving a 2500 ton vehicle tired and weak. I’m sure you can advocate or find someone who will. You know you remain in my morning prayer daily. emoticon
    43 days ago
  • RCLYKE
    If you are able I think you should drop him off and pick him up. There must be some way around this stupid rule.
    43 days ago
  • MOLLIEMAC
    Definitely drive him there and back home. Prearrange a pickup spot and time just outside the doors and wear a mask as you help him both coming and going.
    43 days ago
  • RHOOK20047
    My son is going through chemo now, and his wife used to be able to be with him as they have fought this battle for two year side-by-side, and she picks him up and drops him off. I never heard of making them drive themself. I would take him and pick him up if I were you. As long as you are masked they can say nothing about it. That seem so cold.
    43 days ago
  • MEADSBAY
    They cannot control his transportation...I would say he misunderstood something.
    Keep the faith...my son has been living four years now with stage 4.
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    43 days ago
  • 1CRAZYDOG
    All I can say is that just doesn't sound right. I know of NOBODY who has undergone chemo who is able to drive themselves back from a treatment! And many get so weak from it they can't drive themselves there, either! I am so sorry this is happening to your friend.

    I am glad you can help him when he gets home (if it's possible, don't even ask . . . just do. That's what I had to do w/my parents.

    HUGS and prayers . . . many prayers.
    43 days ago
  • SUSANYOUNGER
    That is not ok to expect him to drive home after chemo. Maybe he will be able to do it but maybe not.
    43 days ago
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