Why do we blog?
Sunday, September 06, 2020
A couple of months ago I was going through a rough time dealing with the limitations imposed by Covid-19. Peter and I are 80 and 76 years old. One of the things that attracted us when we met 20 years ago was our love of travel, and the many places we wanted to visit. As teachers, Peter and his first wife spent two months every summer travelling, so he had seen a lot more of the world than I had, but he wanted to see more. I was afraid that Covid-19 might put an end to our travels, and especially to cruising, which we both love.
At the same time, I was feeling guilty that this was bothering me so much. No one I knew had contracted Covid, let alone died. No one in my immediate family was a healthcare worker, dealing with very ill patients every day. I had a home, a loving family, a garden when I wanted to go outside, and enough food in the fridge, freezer and cupboards to keep us going for a long time. We even had a supply of paper towels and toilet paper.
Then I came across a SP article called “Good Grief”, which gave me permission to own my feelings. I was grieving the loss of the life we planned so carefully for ourselves. Neither Peter nor I had high paying jobs during our work life, but we lived within our means and when we married, we both had mortgage-free homes. We sold them, built a new house, and continued to live frugally. When I retired, I sold my car. Yes, it would have been nice to keep it, but travelling was more important. Our pensions allowed us to take one “nice” trip each year. We hoped to do this for another 5 years.
I didn’t blog about this at the time, perhaps because I was afraid of the criticism I might get. I’m blogging about it today, though, because I need to say that when I blog it isn’t because I want you to solve my problems. Please just allow me to own my feelings. If I want help, I will ask for it.
Yesterday one of my Spark Friends took her page offline because of the responses she received to a very personal blog that she wrote. She hadn’t asked readers to solve her problems. She just needed to write it out.
So please be kind when you comment on someone’s blog. And remember what Thumper’s mother said, “if you can’t say something good about something, don’t say nothing at all”.
Thanks for reading.