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Tuesday, June 30, 2020

Here is a natural bouquet from my garden.
I have said before, I like routine. Change is difficult for me. DH knows he has to give me time to get used to something before it happens. I am not spontaneous or very flexible. I have to say in my defense, I am trying to overcome this. It is not easy.
Several years ago I had my day all planned out. It was packed full of things I love to do. WHen I got a phone call. My niece, who was a few months pregnant, needed me to take her to the hospital for a problem she was experiencing. WIthout thinking, I ran to the car and went to get her. This took the entire day. I did not even give a thought to what I had planned.
This morning I had my day all planned. I had my meals planned. knew what time I would be walking. I knew how long I could spend here on SP. then the phone rang. I saw it was my cousin in Tennessee. I thought, Oh no, this will take a while. What about my walk? What about my SP time?
But people are important. I love my cousin. I get to talk to her about twice a month. Of course I answered the hone. I did not look at the time. I just enjoyed our visit.
My time to walk has been pushed back. I will make it work.
being flexible is hard for me. SOmetimes it means eating something when I am not at home, that may be not on my plan. SOmetimes it means missing a workout to visit with someone. SOmetimes it may mean doing something I was not expecting to do. Learning to go with the flow and to not berate myself is slowly coming together for me.
And, although routine is one of the ways I feel secure, being less rigid is also enjoyable if I allow it to be.
Have a wonderful day.
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    You are doing so well working on helping yourself overcome difficulties that you face. I always find your blogs so uplifting.
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    6 days ago
    Great blog, Ruthie!! Beautiful flower bouquet!!
    6 days ago
    Life is what happens when you make other plans...
    6 days ago
    Yes, I embrace the routine. Biggest quarantine challenge for me is no haircut. I’ve had the same short hairstyle for many many years. Learning to embrace my new look.
    6 days ago
  • READY201811
    It’s great having goals, routines, and making commitments for our own health and sometimes the unplanned things that some up work out better than the planned. It could be though that I am the opposite- I like surprises, spontaneous adventures and not sticking with a plan
    6 days ago
  • SPICY23
    emoticon emoticon Whoo Hoo for going with the flow and truly enjoying your cousin's 'visit'. If you keep building on these flexibilities you will continue to get better at it. Some of us have no choice about learning these skills - seldom do things go 'as planned' in my life. Yes, sometimes I still get stuck, unable to let go of or get past a key step in a plan, but recognizing that this leads to greater waste of time and resources helps me cut my losses (again, sometimes).

    Peace and Care
    6 days ago
    yes i am a big planner the husband not at all once when the kids were two and 5 we went on a car ride with them we ended up 4 states over we found a cool place for lunch on a deserted country road all you could eat shrimp for 5 dollars, they let josh eat free and they warmed saras bottle for me. very nice . then darren wanted to look for somewhere to spend the night lol, I am no bottles for sara no one has pjs or toothbrushes are you out of your mind, so it took us 5 hours to get home as we kept getting lost, still it was one of our trips we talk about the most. so I try to be more flexible but it is so hard. Hugs great pic by the way ,
    6 days ago
    For sure, life seems to be what happens when we're busy planning. Not easy!

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    Thank you for this great blog!
    I hope you will discover that being flexible with your schedule isn't such a bad thing, especially if it is because you are doing something else that you enjoy.

    Have a wonderful day!
    6 days ago
    I think you’re doing well about being flexible,Ruthie. I especially like the way you put spending time with people, or helping others, first.

    I like my routines too, so I understand it can be difficult to change.
    6 days ago
  • KITT52
    I tend to be rigid as well.....I make lists and schedules for everything.... I feel in control... But I don't get to upset when things don't go as planned because I always have a plan B....yet and have at times had a plan C.
    I can drive my hubby a bit crazy at times, but he has learned to kiss me give me a big hug and say... it will all be alright...breathe and whats plan B....and it always is...

    beautiful flowers
    6 days ago
    Love the picture. Enjoy your day.
    6 days ago
    I do know how you feel; I am a bit of a planner too---in fact, most definitely, but with so much going on the past few months, and with my hubby being laid off, had no choice but to adjust. Thankfully, it has been easier than I thought. Again, another beautiful bouquet...……..would love to tour your yard, but then I guess in a way, I am since you share so much beauty!
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    I have no idea what you are growing in your garden, but it is lovely! Have a super day!
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    Have a wonderful day
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