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Tuesday, June 09, 2020

Insight from reading the 4 Day Win book.

People like me who had 2 alcoholic parents, have many emotional eating tendencies. I grew up believing I deserved my parents neglect. When my Wild Child overate or refused to exercise, I’d feel like I finally got the comfort that I deserved and that I’d finally triumphed over my parents. Diet strategies often backfired when I came to see the diet rules as too restrictive and I’d feel deprived.

I need to create a flexible plan that doesn’t feel too restrictive so I don’t feel deprived otherwise my journey support system could be seen as another authority figure just like my parents. I might become angry at my journey, just as I was angry at my parents. That would set me up to be angry and violate the journey rules suggested by my support system. Then I would quit.

Wow. This is so true for me.

The why really explained my behavior and the inner thoughts behind it. Why I got angry. Why I felt so restricted and deprived. Why I quit. How I could recognize those thoughts and find a way to continue my journey. And just like Beth said, how I could prevent feeling restricted and deprived.
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  • PHOENIX1949
    366 days ago
    WHen I saw a dietitian she told me never to deprive myself if I wanted a certain food. But to control portion size. If it was something high in calories, limit myself to a few bites enough to satisfy. It has worked for me. emoticon
    367 days ago
    There is a program called ACOA: Adult Children of Alcoholics. It's a 12 step program. Members aren't alcoholics (AA) or living with alcoholics (AlAnon), but those who live with the long term damage of growing up with alcoholics. It's a wonderful program for people whose pain is otherwise invisible.
    367 days ago
    That's how I quit smoking 28 years ago. I knew if I threw out the cigarettes, I'd never be able to quit. So, I bought a carton, open it, and placed the package in a kitchen drawer. Anytime I had the urge to smoke, which was often and strong, I would tell myself that I had smokes in the drawer, so I could go without a bit longer. It was over a year of being smoke free that I finally had the courage to toss them. Control and trust issues enter into the issues, too. It's been a very long journey.

    Stay safe. Be well. emoticon
    367 days ago
    367 days ago
    Great insight. Growing up with alcoholic parents really does affect a person's perspectives!
    367 days ago
    Excellent insight shard! Thank you.

    Restriction and deprivation do not support me at all! So with you in that regard. Probably why I never got onboard any diet plan. My journey has been one of learning. Learning to support and nourish my body and tend to its needs with love.

    367 days ago
    Now that you know the why, try to focus on healing and creating new healthy habits! You've got this💗
    367 days ago
    Learning/recognizing why we do the things we do...
    good advise.

    367 days ago

    Comment edited on: 6/9/2020 4:12:11 PM
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