good morning - DS has been wanting to buy a new car to replace the vehicle which got totaled in an accident. they had the check which was a large amount. DS does not have good credit. So he called me up and asked what he should do. I said - cars are on sale- give him your history - disabled yet - getting on your feet. What can you do for me. He was going to the dealer that his dad and I have used to buy our 6 cars over the years. They are a good dealer. We had discussion on his options. We had a very adult conversation. He even hinted about us co-signing. I told him he needs to try to see what kind of a deal he can be make. Then you need to never have a late payment. DS knows how to bargain. That is how he lives - selling stuff. His wife calls me up - we are not going to succeed without your help. In other words, I want an easy way and we want you to co-sign. I tell her to have confidence in her husband b/c he can sell ice to Eskimos. So she told DS she did not want to go b/c you will fail. I knew he had a down payment for half the price of the car. Dealers want to sell cars. DS sends me text they got a car. A 2020 with good interest rate. I do not know all the details. He said they went back and forth 6 times and very long day. They gave him all sorts of discounts - for disable vet, etc. I have always told my kids that you have to try - if you don't you will never know if the answer is yes with success. We were not going to sign for his car. We do not think their marriage will succeed without professional help. Wife is too spoiled and immature. It is their problem- now the wife is saying it is her car and he can't drive it. I told him congrats on new car and let the conversation drop. I am learning. The virus has helped me get a better prospective on my family. Letting go is the only way that I can have peace in my life. About to go on my 3 mile walk, things have been getting much better with DH. He is listening more and seeing my point of view. I am hoping he will actually learns - so we do not have to keeping having the same heated conversations in the future. The virus has been good for us. He has had time to think about his ways. Any way, I am very positive, confident and doing great on my life changing program.
What a great post. I have 2 sons and have been through similar things with both of them. Their generation is a bit different than mine. Glad you stuck to your guns, and so glad they were able to pull of what seems is a great deal. Bravo. 38 days ago
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