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Monday, January 20, 2020

I was hoping 2020 would ring in with the idiom "everything is coming up roses" which became popular after the musical 'Gypsy', but things are not ideal or turning out well at present.

Just before Christmas I took over the care of 2 family members who can no longer take care of themselves or make logical decisions.

I will not share the details for their privacy, but honestly I did not know how difficult this would be not only for the extra time taken out of my day and the extra chores, but because their mental attitudes are so different from mine.

It is so stressful being around people on a daily basis who do not share a positive mindset not only about their health, but basically how they see life in general.

My blood pressure which was going down is now going back up and my resting heart rate which was very low for my age is 10 points higher. I'm trying not to lose focus on my needs for I must come first. You can't help others if you need help yourself. Adjustments need to be made and I am working on this.

However, spiritually this has been such a learning experience and a refining process. I have always found ways of cutting unpleasant situations & people out of my life that I did not want to deal with so that I could be happy, but what fruitfulness is there if you can only be calm, happy & peaceful in idyllic situations or alone?

God shows us our blessings if we listen. Is there stress - yes, but my inner peace, joy and love has not vanished because of my adverse external conditions.

I wanted to share this for those who feel oppressed, depressed, or who think their life isn't running smoothly right now and perhaps have little hope. Just because adversity comes in many forms doesn't mean a blessing isn't attached to it.

The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly. John 10:10 KJV

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    Love that positive attitude! Your perspective is spot on!
    392 days ago
    Good perspective
    395 days ago
    Thank you for this.. I feel overwhelmed much of the time..I am learning to be healthy and let go and let God
    396 days ago
    You cannot pour from an empty cup! Take care of yourself physically, before your health declines! This actually happened to a cousin of mine. She was caregiving both her parents, still working part time, had no outside help, and was unwilling to put them in a nursing home. She herself had strokes in her hands, lost the use of them, and all 3 had to go into nursing homes. She passed away before her mom did. Sad story. Please do not let something like that happen to you. Stay strong in faith, lean on the Lord. Get help with your caregiving. I'm one of 8 children, and we struggle to take care of our mom 24/7 right now, as she recovers from a 4th cancer surgery. I have had to set limits on how many nights a week I can stay with her, as I tend to want to do it all by myself, and was ending up too tired to do anything when I got back home. You are not alone. emoticon
    400 days ago
  • ELSCO55
    emoticon I understand your situation. I have a similar one. In addition, I am battling Breast Cancer. OUr God is an awesome God and I am letting him lead me each day. Adding you to my prayer list.
    401 days ago

    This was so beautiful, and so worthy to be a featured blog!
    405 days ago
    I also deal with "attitude" taking care of my loved one. Some days are harder than others! It is hard being out of the house for 12 hours a day and then coming home to cook and clean and do what other things that are needed. I am lucky that my loved one can still take care of herself during the day but sometimes the attitude gets on my last nerve.

    I hope that you have someone else to lean on and at least talk to, I am very grateful to have some very good friends that truly care about me.

    I pray that you can find a way to handle your situation and that your own health does not deteriorate.
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  • GRAMMY065
    You’ve got the right idea-you’re not good to anyone if you’re not taking care of yourself! Spend time in the sun and as much as you can with God. Sometimes you just need to say, “Help God!” He always answers and brings His peace.
    406 days ago

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    Hugs to you! Please take care of yourself too.
    406 days ago
    Please take care if yourself.
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    406 days ago
    Taking on the care of two older people is enormous. I do hope you are able to get others involved in their care too. A rise in blood pressure is a red flag, and one you don't want to ignore.
    406 days ago
    Get your exercise as medicine to keep your sanity!

    Good days ahead! Get help. When I took care of my mom Medicare paid for nurse, physical therapy, bathing, I only took her to doc when nurse couldn’t handle things. Have a friend visit for you too have a break.

    406 days ago
    Beautiful blog, my prayers go out to you. Please try to find people to "spell" for you, even for a couple of hours several times a week... whether it be family, friends, visiting nurses, aides, etc. Having just a little peaceful me-time can really rejuvenate the positive energy. Sending emoticon your way,
    407 days ago
  • LOIS_1950
    I know up close and personal from which you speak. Being a caregiver for my conjunction with other elderly family members it IS physically, emotionally and psychologically draining......BUT, now when I look back on it. That time was oh, so rewarding! Best take some time for yourself and don't feel guilty about it.
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    407 days ago
  • CAT125
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    407 days ago
    You will be richly rewarding for your willingness to provide care to others who can't do it for themselves.

    Bless you....
    407 days ago
  • no profile photo CD17741451
    In the UK, we have an expression "character building", from the same line as "a bit fresh" is 20 degrees below, "a little damp" is torrential rain and "does sting a bit" for major injuries. Caring is hard work at the best of times but, as you say, it is made harder when you're not all of a mind. You're an angel for stepping up to the role and hopefully your positivity will start to rub off. emoticon emoticon emoticon
    407 days ago
  • GAYLEP1957
    emoticon I hope life gets easier for you soon!
    407 days ago
    Blessings for you. emoticon emoticon emoticon
    407 days ago
    Sending up prayers for you and your situation. It is easy to think that everything should be easy and comfortable with no stress. I too believe that leaning on God will help you get through this season. I know you will find the blessing somehow in this situation. emoticon
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  • BARBIE176
    Being a caregiver is incredibly difficult and to take on two at once is undoubtedly doubly difficult. I pray that things will become less stressful for you as you adjust to their attitudes. I do hope and pray that you remember to take care of yourself as well as them. emoticon emoticon
    407 days ago
    I can so relate to what you're going through. I took care of my dad before he passed away and then my dear hubby. It's very draining to say the least and you're right about taking care of yourself. If not, you can't take care of them. You really have a great attitude about it all.
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    408 days ago
    I've been a caregiver for my grandchildren and for my mom and dad, may he rest in peace. Nothing has proven to be harder than caring for the elderly with dementia. emoticon emoticon emoticon
    408 days ago
    Sending prayers and hugs your way. I kinda understand what you are going through. I was there 5 years ago and instead of taking care of myself I put myself on the back burner. Slowly I am learning to make myself a priority. Take care of yourself every day and know you’re never alone.
    408 days ago
    emoticon Praying for you and the whole situation if you need to chat I am here for you. God is so good and even through the rough patches HE still keeps HIS eyes on the sparrows. May the Lord give you a hug and the warmth that only HE can give. I am sending you a virtual hug.
    408 days ago
    You are not alone
    You will make it through this
    Your kindness will reap you many rewards
    You are admired for your thoughtfulness
    Thank you for posting!

    408 days ago
    WOW Gracie!! Hon this NEEDS to go viral!!

    Indeed and remember in 1 Corinthians 10:13 No temptation has come upon you except what is common to men. But God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear, but along with the temptation he will also make the way out so that you may be able to endure it.

    The way out of it doesn't mean life becomes perfect, easy instead the very end of that scripture "So that may be able to endure it." And clearly Gracie you are!!

    What a wonderful thought to share!!

    408 days ago
    Thank the Lord for inner peace.
    Blessings to you
    408 days ago
    Being a caregiver is incredibly hard. I hope you have someone who can fill in for you sometimes so you can get a break.
    408 days ago
  • JUNETTA2002
    Praying for you and yours
    408 days ago
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