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Loosing hope

Tuesday, January 14, 2020

Not a very good place to be as it seems so dark and lifeless. I had so much trust into people I have turned to and trusted over this past year and I feel so let down. I am not giving up as I am going higher than case managers because something has got to change. I am at a point where I don’t even like my daughter because of not even putting forth an effort or even trying. Yes, I realize she is mentally impaired and not capable which makes me even more frustrated because she is not just stuck in her body, but we are stuck as caretakers for life. I cannot believe she was to list all her big dreams and what she wants and then they picked from that list to help her get it. What about anger management, impulse control, consequences to her behavior, to stop rewarding bad behavior, listening to parents heart who cry out for help, giving us support, self defense classes, address the real problems instead of unimportant wants!
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  • RASPBERRY56
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    5 days ago
  • DOVESEYES
    You are a wonderful caring Mother,you will find the the right people I am hoping, that are able to help you.
    5 days ago
  • MILLER-S
    I'm very sorry. Life shouldn't be so hard. I hope so much that you get the help you need. I've said a prayer for you and your family. I wish I could do more.
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    6 days ago
  • TRIMNUP
    This situation is deplorable. It's disheartening.
    The most important thing you said today is: "I am not giving up as I am going higher than case managers because something has got to change." That tells me that you have not given up hope. You have regrouped and put your hope in helping your daughter. Yes, Something has got to CHANGE.

    Using the words that you wrote in this blog, to tell the people who are involved that it is irresponsible of them to encourage your daughter to only write what she wishes for and not consider at all, what she could be doing and learning to improve her weaknesses. That they have failed her and her parents in what the court would call finding "the best interest of the child." She is thinking and wishing like an 8 year old. "I want" is very different from "I need". The things you listed; "What about anger management, impulse control..." are things that are in her best interest because -- reality check case managers-- her parents will not live forever. Who will pay for her 160ith phone after they are gone? Will she go to jail because she hasn't learned to curb her anger and ends up injuring someone?

    I know these things have crossed your mind. I'm a parent of 3 sons and 1 daughter. Before they left home to be on their own: they could wash their own clothes, clean their own bathroom, boil eggs, how to treat others, etc. because I kept telling them, I won't be around to do it for them all their life. I won't always be around to rescue them when they have troubles. I tried to prepare them as best I could, to carry on without me. It's not about me, it's about them! It's not about you, it's about your daughter.

    May God give you the strength and stamina it takes to keep on keeping on! May He also give you the FIRE you need to get reasonable help from someone who is committed (obligated by law, too) to helping your daughter's best interest.
    6 days ago
  • EISSA7
    By all means, go above to the next level of supervision and say exactly what you have said here! Such an awful disservice done to your daughter and yourself!
    6 days ago
  • SLIMMERJESSE
    This makes me so sad. Words fail me. I always keep you in my prayers, but that doesn't help much on a daily basis when you need real-time help. Big hug.
    6 days ago
  • TWIGBISKIT5
    Please have faith in yourself and hope πŸ™. Put all of your stress and worries in God's hands. He will comfort you and care for you πŸ™. Have a blessed day πŸ˜‡πŸ™
    6 days ago
  • BBLESSED32
    Sometimes you have to have a little hope to focus on the other things. Anger normally comes as a result of not having hope or dashed dreams. Don't loose hope yourself. Hang in there. I can't imagine but pray you find a glimmer of hope this day. emoticon
    6 days ago
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