Thursday, December 05, 2019
In so many ways the fat on my body was emotional armor. I ate to stuff feelings and it created a physical layer of protection. That protection actually kept me physically warmer (I now have to wear thermals for my early morning walks!) and it made me invisible to some people, but I was still quite vulnerable emotionally. Now I create emotional armor in healthy ways.
1. Know your safe tried and true friends.
An old friend from childhood wants to become close again. She is a genuinely nice person, but I am figuring out why the friendship faded in childhood. She can be emotionally tone deaf. I give her the benefit of the doubt because my gut tells me her heart is pure. I suspect, it is a struggle with empathy. That said, I now know I need some invisible armor. I will not share where my emotional triggers/buttons are, I will gently test the waters to see if she will truly become a friend again or remain a pleasant acquaintance. I have safe friends and fortunately one of those safe people is my husband. I wear no metaphorical armor with him because he is a tried and true best friend.
2. Work through difficult emotions, don't stuff them.
Thinking, reflecting, exercising, reading self-help articles and writing in my gratitude journal help me work through those emotions I wanted to avoid. I protect myself from letting them destroy me by using healthy coping mechanisms.
3. Fortify the brain and body for life's challenges
Healthy food and exercise strengthen my mind and body so I have the strength for life's battles/obstacles. Blubber from junk just weakened me.
I lost the little I gained from all the pumpkin pie I consumed during and the days after Thanksgiving. No regrets-I look forward to that indulgence each year.
Keeping my armor healthy and knowing when I can safely remove it are so key to this whole process for me.