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Online Dating

Wednesday, December 04, 2019

I cancelled my membership. I didn't care for the way it caused me to feel while dealing with the website. I felt unwanted, unneeded, and kind of like a horse being sold where the buyer wants to check out the horse head to hoof, including the teeth.

I share a lot of things with Spark People, some of it y'all may not want to read. But I feel completely free to pour out my life before your eyes. So here comes some more information about me. I have decided to try online dating. My husband died 6 1/2 years ago. I have not been on one date in all that time. Part of the problem is that I was out of the country for 4 1/2 years. The other part of the problem is that I just do not have a lot of contact with men outside of church. There are two widowers in my church but neither one of them has any interest in me. Since I'm a member of a small church, I will have to find a gentleman elsewhere.
I have thought about this for awhile and decided that I will give it 6 months. If after that time, I still have not dated, then I will resolve to be the fifth wheel whenever I attend a family or social event. When I attend family events I seem to be the only one who doesn't have a date.
I don't know if I would like being married again, but I sure would like a fella for a companion. Someone I mesh with who would be willing to stand in as my date when I have social events, and I would be willing to go with him for the same reasons.
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    With God and your humbleness to trust His care you can be blessed.
    362 days ago
    I have never done online dating. However, my best friend met her husband online. They just celebrated 12 years of marriage. Be careful & pray about your choices.
    362 days ago
    I cancelled my membership already. I just do not feel it's right for me. I know my sister met her husband online and he is a nice guy.
    362 days ago
    This is a reasonable avenue. You have a lot of life experiences to share. Just ask God to block getting together with any man who would not be right for you.
    363 days ago
    Be careful and think and check him out begote you meet
    363 days ago
    Dear PYNETREE, I appreciate your concern but "no worries about me just settling for a profile;" I will not settle for less than God wants for me. I just do not want to waste a bunch of time, effort and money into an endeavor that may not be something for me. So I signed up for a 6 month subscription. Win, lose, or draw, that's all the time I will give it. Men are great, but God might have other plans for me.
    363 days ago
    I applaud your action. Online Dating is an accepted way to meet people today. But, I don't know about putting a 6mo. time limit on it. It might cause you to just settle for a profile - to try fitting it in your 6 mo. Window. Good Luck! ♡
    363 days ago
    Nothing like trying your hand at online dating! I think 6 months is a fair amount of time. Best wishes in your

    363 days ago
  • VHAYES04
    I totally understand; I’ve been widowed for 2 1/2 yr. I don’t want to remarry; just some to spend time with.....
    363 days ago
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