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Not Really a Good Thanksgiving This Year

Sunday, December 01, 2019

I believe I am going to start going away for Holidays each year. A couple years ago when I got out of the hospital from my Sepsis journey while I was in the early part of recuperation my younger son died suddenly. I have still never gotten over that loss.

This year our church had Thanksgiving last weekend so we could all be together. You may remember that John (Hubby) did that service because he also preaches and takes over for BIL often.

Now, just 4 days later Sister in Law was home and going about her work and daily things, Her husband had gone to Northern Michigan to deer hunt. While they were gone, Janette, (SIL), was shopping at a pharmacy and she had a massive stroke at the register and is gone today. She is only 68 two years younger than John an I. The call came at 3am and I don't think I have stopped crying all day. Everyone has been calling here and it has been a mad house. And memories galore. I will be glad when it is all over. And SIL's hubby is as broken up as I would be if it were John that left this earth.

I hope you are all well and had better days than I have.

Be safe on the roads and take care....Life is FRAGILE. I don't like losing loved ones.

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    Oh no! How awful for your family! I'm so sorry for your loss. The suddenness of it makes it even worse because you have no time to prepare and say goodbye. emoticon emoticon emoticon
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  • PHOENIX1949
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    46 days ago
  • NANCY-
    Hugs and prayers! You have been been through so much. May both you and John find some peace.
    46 days ago
  • PICKIE98
    Oh Gaye… do you want me to come up? I will. I only have one doc appointment in MIdland on Friday morning. I will do anything you want me to do.
    I will send you my shone number again.. in your sparkmail
    47 days ago
    I am so very sorry for your loss. All the more difficult because unexpected. Wishing you some comfort in the days ahead.
    47 days ago
    Oh Gaye, I'm so so sorry for the losses of first your son a couple of years ago and now the loss of your Sister-in-Law.
    Nothing I can say can take away your grief. You're in my thoughts and prayers daily, my dear friend. May God's Love Bless you with the courage to remember that they both are in His Arms in His Kingdom. May these thoughts bring some peace to your days.
    47 days ago
  • KR7770
    Those who leave this earth who have accepted God's precious gift of salvation are rejoicing, yet those of us who are left behind battle grief.

    Gaye, you and your family are in my prayers! emoticon
    You have suffered so much these past few years, yet we know all things are working together for our good (Romans 8:28).
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  • DESIREE672
    I’m so sorry. The two losses are quite close together. Going away might be a very good thing to do.
    48 days ago
    Oh Gaye, my heart goes out to you. I am so sorry to hear of your loss, and I certainly can understand why you feel the way you do. Life is short and so unpredictable. May God's peace and love embrace you.
    48 days ago
  • JUNEAU2010
    My heart breaks for you! I so understand! A car accident on Thanksgiving Day robbed my family of four young boys. The car went off the highway into a pond in a rural part of Kansas and all four boys died. Our family is as devastated as yours is, I am sure!
    48 days ago
    What a deep and profound loss. I’m sure this loss has brought up all the feelings of loss from your son. So sorry to hear that it so is painful right now.
    48 days ago
    Ikkle I am SO very sorry for your loss, can totally understand your need to go away.
    You have my prayers and am sending you a HUGE hug.
    You know where to find me if you need to offload babe.

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    48 days ago
    So sorry Gaye. Our family was having Thanksgiving 11/17 this year. 11/12 DeAnna’s husband’s uncle died, and his wife died Friday. My cousin who had been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer died that Thursday so I went to that funeral on Saturday. Sunday was a somber Thanksgiving. Then Monday 11/18 I had heart cath and found out I had 99.99% blockage which was partially fixed in Douglas and was sent to Jacksonville, FL for 3 more stents, finally coming home on that Thursday. Mentally and physically, this has NOT been a good 2 weeks. I think we need to run away for the holidays and not take our phones with us. That way we can be like an ostrich with our head in the sand. lol 😂. It is either laugh cry. emoticon emoticon Dear friend. We will survive this too.
    48 days ago
  • MARTHA324
    My heart goes out to you on these losses. No one should have to go through this and I can only hope that you have loved ones around you to support you and that you can support with love.
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    LIttle emoticons cannot possibly express the depth of feeling required, but my heart goes out to you, Gaye. I so agree about the fragile nature of life, and the old-er we get, it seems the more those around us slip away. Of course that is exaggerated by our individual losses that we feel so keenly. I can't even begin to imagine what it was like for you to lose a child, even an adult child. And a SIL can be as close as a sister (I know I felt this when I lost mine, six years ago or so).

    Many prayers for your comfort and peace in this unexpected turn.
    48 days ago
  • JUDY1676
    Oh Gaye, I’m so sorry to hear of your loss.
    48 days ago
    OH my dear, I am so very sorry. I can understand why you feel like you want to go away.

    Hugs and prayers that you find peace.

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