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Thanksgiving that almost was not.

Sunday, December 01, 2019

I did not want to have Thanksgiving this year and I had almost made up mind to treat the day like any other..I mean why not? I live a life of thanks-giving..My husband with his dementia hardly knows that it is a special day..his days run into each other and they all feel the same. Me with my Fibro and in pain, I did not feel like cooking and with my husband not eating much anymore. I just really did not see the point.

My son who lives close by in a small town, he has depression and bipolar. He had no desire to come by and he tells me ..He does not even like turkey..(after all these years) of having turkey. My daughter who lives in town with her three children was cooking and left an open invitation for us to come by..I knew that we could go and I also knew my husband would go and not eat and would just want to lay did not go..But now what to fix..Hamburgers? I did not have a clue really. I don't have much of an appetite I just sort of let the days pass and not really think about them.. I do love turkey sandwiches though and I knew I would miss that..but cooking a bigh turkey for the two of us..and so sides just seemed like to much effort.

My depression and pain are worse on cold and dreary it is easy to talk myself out of is easy to give in to the feelings and the pain and let them take over...even so looking at my life and the many things i face on a daily basis..I am still very blessed.. I have a warm house..I have a comfy bed..a God that loves me..and great friends..I have learned a lot about myself this year. Came to terms with a lot things in my life and made peace with my past...I have come to learn that life is a journey..each day is a new day with new mercies and new blessings and yes even challenges..and it is in those challenges where I learn to grow as a become a better version of myself..That I can be proud of..not needing anyone else to accept me...God accepts me and I am learning to accept every part of me..the good and the not so good..

Anyway someone brought me a turkey and just said they wanted to bless us..So here I was..with gift from the someone's I decided I would cook the turkey and make a small dinner to go with it...(Healthy sides) and one sweet potato was difficult and we got through with the cooking and the cleaning up...My husband even ate a small plate which was new for him. The most I had seen him eat in a long time..That evening as we sat down in the living room, I looked at him and he seemed to be in a far away place. Where he goes is anyone's guess.. I knew I had made the right choice to fix Thanksgiving one knows how many more years we have together and he may not remember this day but I will...after all..

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    things happen for a reason & you were on someone's mind who wanted to make sure you had a turkey. You are very blessed & are stronger than you know. You rose up & prepared a lovely meal. You are a caregiver, find a good support group. ❤
    63 days ago
  • KR7770
    Your blog today reminds me of the verse that says," And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose" (Romans 8:28). God bless you JAE for being a comfort and blessing to others!
    72 days ago
    I also love the picture and saved it.
    84 days ago
    We were on our own for Thanksgiving too. Both sons we're out of town. My husband does not like turkey or sweet (honeyed ham. I do love turkey.
    We got 2lbs of peppered turkey breast, 2lbs of peppered ham, and 2lbs of peppered brisket. My husband LOVES brisket. I also got a frozen green been casserole with red peppers and onion mixed in with a cheese sauce, and a frozen mashed cauliflower casserole. We also got pecan and pumpkin pies. That gave us enough food for Thanksgiving day and the whole weekend through Monday.
    We thought about all that we were thankful for: the people who enrich our lives, our quiet lives, and all the support that God provides us every day. We have all we need and truly count our blessings.
    84 days ago
    What a wonderful blog. Sometimes we just do the stuff for ourselves.
    One thing I did when I was caregiver for my folks was to simplify the meal. We would not eat a whole turkey so I fixed a turkey breast. We enjoyed it.
    87 days ago
    I am happy for you that you received the gift and cooked the turkey. You made a lovely occasion from the day.
    87 days ago
    Wonderful story as usual. Glad that someone sparked you by the gift of a turkey. It's good to be thankful and giving, especially when
    88 days ago
    Whatta lovely blog!--Yu cooked and it turned out for the best-I am happy for yu-- Hugs--- YU carry a lot but yu deal well with everything---proud of yu--It takes strength!-Lynda
    88 days ago
    That was kind of that person to bring you a turkey!
    Also kind of your daughter-I'm sure she just wanted you 2 there no matter what.
    As far as your son goes, remember he has a illness and who knows if he was being honest or not.
    88 days ago
  • LENORE048
    When life gives you a turkey, make a Thanksgiving!

    I'm so happy you made the turkey. It proves how strong a woman you are!
    88 days ago

    Comment edited on: 12/2/2019 6:17:39 AM
    thank you for sharing this roller coaster of a from the heart blog about your Thanksgiving day is always good whether it is that day or anyday to count our blessings and be thankful for what we have speaks volumns of who youare as a person , a blessing to all who come in contact with you Admire your tenacity and determination to overcome what life has put in your path as you shine brightly and beautiful as always emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    88 days ago
  • LINDA!
    It was such a lovely gesture for the person to bring you the turkey. I am happy that you prepared it. As you say, how many years do we have left with our loved ones.
    88 days ago
    I am glad someone blessed you with that turkey, I agree you were meant to make Thanksgiving dinner. emoticon
    88 days ago
    This is a beautiful post, though the pain comes through with the beauty (not over it.) I do wish, and often pray, that things were different for you, but I am storing up the things you write because any of us can be in a similar spot any day, and you are inspiring in your handling of it. Thank you. I am so glad we came across each other here. emoticon
    88 days ago
    Were we closer geographically, I would have gladly shared our leftovers from our meal today. I would like to lie down and nap, but we have a church sing tonight.
    88 days ago
    Thank you for sharing. Sending you and all your family members thoughts of comfort and hope in a difficult time in your lives.
    88 days ago
    Wow, thank you for sharing your Thanksgiving story with us. I was blessed by your words.
    88 days ago
  • EISSA7
    What a very special gift your Thanksgiving turned into....memories of the that!
    88 days ago
    HUGS and so proud of you that you made that turkey. The fact that someone gifted you w/the turkey .. . just seems like it was meant to be.

    HUGS and blessings. Yes, YOU will remember it.

    I sort of remember having the same feeling when my Mom and Dad lived with us. Mom had Alzheimer's. Out of it. Didn't think it made sense to make a turkey and so on. BUT then my mind went to Dad and my DH and DD (she still lived @ home @ the time). So, went ahead and did it. I am so glad I did! Lots of memories . . . good ones.

    88 days ago
    What a heartfelt, honest, and real post. You have a lot on your proverbial plate and despite it all you made a beautiful meal.
    88 days ago
  • GEORGE815
    You and family are being physically challenged. There are times when finding thanks takes more effort. I speak from my own experiences. Glad you can celebrate it some.
    89 days ago
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