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Monday, November 11, 2019

My husband died in August 2017; I started talked to Ronnie in August 2018. I didn’t start seeing him til May 2019. Him and his dad own a big farm so I only go to his house on Saturday or Sunday nights. Sometimes not then because he says he’s so busy. Sometimes he will only give me a 2-3 hr notice that somethings has come up. I have went as long as a month and not went down. I’ve only met his dad, brother and son because they’ve come in while I’ve been there. I’ve never been invited to a family function dinner or anything. We’ve never went anywhere. Always stay at his house. This past weekend I was suppose to go down Saturday night he cancelled and said come down Sunday night then cancelled it. We never talk on the phone or text. Always thru messenger. When I’m there and someone calls and ask him what he’s doing he’ll say watching tv or something. Never mentions I’m there. Also never comments on my fb posts! Am I the only one that thinks this is weird? He’s been divorced 3 times; I honestly thinks he has no clue of how to treat a woman as far as communication. He treats me fine other than what I’ve mentioned which is a lot. I’ve begun to think I’m wasting my time. I’ve ask him who he’s told we are seeing each other and he said I think I’ve told dad. We’re both 60. Confused......
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    22 days ago
    Yes, I'm afraid this is not a good sign, especially given three prior marriages that didn't work out. You deserve better! emoticon

    29 days ago
    I hate to say it but yes, that is weird. I think you have to ask yourself what you want from a relationship and is this enough? You are not a priority in his life. Don't settle, you are too sweet and precious to be saddled with someone who doesn't treat you with respect, and honor you as a wonderful woman.

    31 days ago
    Red Flags! Stop wasting your time! I assume you want to be in a relationship that is more two-sided. This is not the way to treat anyone, not even a friend.
    31 days ago
    Too weird...you deserve better. If he's too 'embarrassed' to introduce you or take you out, be done with him. Life is too short to waste your time on someone who won't give you the respect your deserve. Love yourself more and live a life with or without someone to make YOU HAPPY. Make yourself a priority.

    Good luck.
    31 days ago
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    I VERY MUCH agree with the 3 other women! There is A LOT going on here & NOT going on here. Life is too short to wait for someone so unavailable. Love yourself. Protect yourself. Stand up for yourself. You deserve the very best. You are Heavenly Father's best & HE loves you & wants the best for you. (((Hugs)))
    32 days ago
    Doesn’t sound like you feel fulfilled in this relationship. Seek out other companions and activities and if you want to spend some time with him make it on your terms. You deserve someone who enriches you’re life
    32 days ago
    It sounds like you aren't a priority in his life and given the 3 previous marriages this is a pattern. If you stay with him you lose the opportunity to have a relationship with someone who will cherish you.
    32 days ago
    Time to move on! Don’t waste your time on someone who’s so unavailable. Respect yourself and don’t just be a booty call.
    32 days ago
    Sorry, but I'd be out of there lickety-split. Very rude, disrespectful and seems like he's using you. Cancelling at last minute repeatedly is something I don't stand for. And not mentioning me to others? No way.
    32 days ago
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