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Sunday, November 10, 2019

If someone asks you to help them be accountable, understand there's a difference in holding someone accountable and being critical of them.
When I began this journey I asked a friend to help me be accountable. It's been 3 weeks, I have lost 7 pounds, I've really made some major changes, like quitting soda all together and drinking my daily water. Talking to my friend this weekend, she went on and on about the deli meat I had bought from the grocery store. How bad deli meat is for people. Now granted, I did not realize that all deli meat is processed. I did think if I were buying sliced turkey meat, that's just what I'm getting. However, I have done some research on this. I found an article that was just written this past August at Consumer Reports.

www.consumerrepo
rts.org/deli-meats/danger-
at-the-deli-cold-cuts-incr
eased-risk-cancer-heart-disease/


I understand my friend was trying to help, in her way. But berating me 3 separate times in our phone conversation and talking about all the poison and bad stuff, on and on and on. I have $7 worth of crap in my fridge that I just bought and now will be paranoid every time I put it in my mouth.
Of course, she has educated me. Actually, grossed me out. But educating one and chastising them on their choices is 2 different things.
Be Kind. Be a source of information. Be supportive and lift others in their journey. Do give advice to people but ask yourself before you speak it...am I being supportive or trying to put this person in their place. What is my agenda? Have you taken on a personal journey to whip your friend in shape? Did your friend ask for that? Sometimes people are so fragile where they are in their journey that the things you say to them, no matter how well-meaning, can be damaging to their progress. I would think it could make someone quit all together.
That would be a shame.
Be a light in someone's life, not a light snuffer!

Spark On!

~B~
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  • LIVINHEALTHY9
    I would let her know you appreciate her support but maybe she could be a little more encouraging and less critical. Yes, she informed you but in a way that wasn't helpful.

    Don't let her or anyone else derail your progress. It's your journey!

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    33 days ago
  • RO2BENT
    Thanks for sharing. Did you explain your feelings to your friend
    33 days ago
  • HOLLYM48
    Great advice.
    33 days ago
  • NEPTUNE1939
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  • HMBROWN1
    Great insight! And yes, I do agree, I never buy deli meat! I like to buy a roast or a chicken on sale, cook extra and slice up my own meat. WTG on the weight loss - you rock!
    33 days ago
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