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There's no need to Hide and Numb!

Saturday, November 02, 2019

So much time and agony was wasted numbing myself with unhealthy food and trying to avoid confronting obstacles. So much time was wasted crashing from sugar, feeling terrible about myself and gaining weight. Did the obstacles run away while I was in a food coma? No, sometimes they just got bigger! Did I solve any problems while eating some blondie brownies? Nope, I just created more problems. Life is actually harder when I numb and avoid.

It's easier to face these challenges when well-nourished and exercising on a regular basis. Practice helps too. Each obstacle jumped creates a mental map that may need to be altered with each obstacle, but rarely needs to be rewritten completely. Each time an attempt at a solution goes horribly wrong, I learn from it and gain strength.

What am I afraid of? People being angry with me? Been there and I survived. Failing? Done it and it made me stronger. More setbacks? Been there and I still got through. Exhaustion? Had that many times, but somehow kept going. Feeling overwhelmed? Felt that so often, but moved forward.

One of the beautiful things about all the challenges we face is they can bring us closer as we share them with the right people. I never want to be seen as a whiner, but I never want people to think my life is perfect and carefree. When we find others facing similar challenges we sometimes bond and strengthen one another.

No more hiding and numbing. I am for facing and fighting/surviving/thriving. I like to imagine the old nearing-obesity-me crying in a corner and the new leaner, fitter and healthier me carving my way out and jogging forward ready to face things head on.

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    So wise. Thanks for sharing.
    39 days ago
  • SPICY23
    emoticon You are a courageous warrior! Go forth and continue to conquer obstacles!

    Peace and Care
    40 days ago
    What a great blog! Wish I had read it before eating all the leftover Halloween candy but oh well! It is almost gone!
    41 days ago
    I know exactly whereof you speak...we are done with all that time- wasting numbing, indeed!
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    41 days ago
    OH my dear, you have truly learned the lessons – challenges are not going to go away, no matter what. Best to face them. And fearing them? YOU have definitely listed the things that were my ‘excuses’, and your answers – truth! Have survived failures, setbacks, exhaustion overwhelmed feelings. Yet still standing – just as you are – and ever stronger. (Sometimes the thought ‘how much stronger do I need to be!’ crosses my brain, but that’s yet another unnecessary excuse.

    You are DEFINITELY not a whiner! You have shared some pretty dang tough position you’ve been in. That’s factual, not whining! And you have done beautifully navigating those churning waters!

    HUGS to you for finding your healthy! For surviving, for sharing this so others will learn, too!

    41 days ago
  • HEDSTS58
    Beautifully stated. A shared problem cuts it in half, so no numbing .
    42 days ago
    I totally agree with BUTTONPOPPER1. Her eloquent response speaks for me as well.

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    42 days ago
    I have no doubt you are speaking the truth of every single one of us who reads this blog. Beautifully written--honest, realistic, moving, and inspiring! So glad you've made it to where you are!

    42 days ago
    emoticon emoticon so loved your blog Hugs
    42 days ago
    emoticon I too went numb and avoided life. I have had my husband and many friends pass away so I became not wanting to create new friendships because of the fear that I will lose them also. I am working on breaking this cycle. Thank you for your blog today emoticon
    42 days ago
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  • PHOENIX1949
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    42 days ago
    I'm with you - no more hiding and numbing (I've been known to do that more times than I'd like to admit), I'm ready for fighting/surviving/thriving! We are all in this together! Thanks for your positive message! emoticon
    42 days ago
    I commend you for facing those challenges head on--And I do not see you (ever) as a whiner! I like the image you shared at the end of your blog! Way to go and we are all here to support and encourage one another!
    42 days ago
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