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I HAVE A VOICE

Thursday, October 10, 2019


I remember how nervous Mom would get whenever I would bring up the president and national affairs. You see, politics were never discussed in our home. Ever. She would tell me; “Please stop! Nice people don’t discuss such things.” I’ve never known a nicer person that my mother, and she let me know with great certainty that discussing politics can create contention.
I respected my parent’s wishes and left politics alone for the most part. As a young adult, I didn’t understand the difference between Democrats and Republicans or what happened to Nixon or what the word impeachment meant. Once I figured it out, I learned about the issues that mattered to me.
My maternal grandma Harriet Bullard, voted in local elections before women had the right to vote nationally. Maybe political involvement skipped a generation in my family. She also headed up the Republican Party in the New Salem, Mass area for a while. Mom is a staunch, life-long Republican but I never knew why. I became a Republican because somehow I was taught that true Christians are always Republicans. The liberals were labeled anti-christ, and their words would poison my mind if I listened to them. That was another ploy to keep me from listening to people with other opinions.
When I went through the divorce, a lot of things in my life changed. Divorce broke me, and I realized that I did not have all the answers that I thought that I had. I thought that divorce did not happen to people who were honoring God. Divorce would not happen to me because I was a praying loving wife and mother. I learned that I had to learn to forgive myself, my ex-husband, and learn from my mistakes. I needed to learn to listen. Divorce hurt like hell, but I became a better, kinder and less judgmental person through the process. God bless the broken road that led me to the truth.
One day I gave up on being nice and got involved in discussions, and then I changed from Republican to Democrat. I was mocked and ridiculed for my stand on climate change, immigration and Democratic Presidential candidates, especially Barack Obama. The greater the contention, the more I read and studied. I made up my own mind on what was right. I gained friends and lost a few along the way. I have a voice, and I'm not afraid to use it respectfully.
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  • LKWQUILTER
    Glad you found your voice even though I don’t agree with it. That is your choice and I respect it for you. Yes, we do need to make up our own minds. ((HUGS))
    3 days ago
  • MORTICIAADDAMS
    My parents made their fair share of mistakes but both were the kind of people who would listen to the viewpoints of others and were respectful to others. They made informed choices. I try to live my life where I follow concepts that are important to me. Things like the Golden Rule and the Ten Commandments and the Serenity Prayer. I'm a middle of the road kind of person. I know that God is not owned by one political party. I know that no political party is right all the time. I know that we should be electing moral leaders and some of them are definitely not. I know the reason that some people don't want me to express my opinions is because they know that they are wrong and they don't want to have to defend the bad decisions they have made. They can't defend the indefensible. Actions speak louder than words. It's not enough to talk the talk, you have to walk the walk. You either stand up for what is right or you hide in the shadows like a thief. People are watching what we do, including children. What is the message we are sending?
    3 days ago
  • SPICY23
    As an 'Independent' I am told my vote is 'wasted'. How? Only in the primaries. I research both sides of the issues and vote what makes the most sense (to me). I truly wish more voters would do this and not just sing party lines without even knowing all the consequences that will follow.

    If one is upright, moral, and ethical how can one abide lies, obstruction and corruption that is proven over and over? "That's Entertainment" ... not.

    Peace and Care
    3 days ago
  • JSTETSER
    Thank you for your comment on my blog!
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  • JANIEWWJD
    All I can say is that I am praying for our nation!!! emoticon God bless the USA!!!! emoticon
    4 days ago
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  • REDROBIN47
    I agree that everyone should have a voice. But I have also learned that there is a time and a place to use it. I try not to talk about politics very often because I don't like to get into heated arguments with others. Also, I am not republican or democratic. I decided to vote for the person and not for the party. I can not vote for a person who supports practices that go against my religious beliefs.
    4 days ago
  • SUNNYBEACHGIRL
    Finding your own voice takes a lot of courage
    4 days ago
  • _CYNDY55_
    Very emoticon emoticon
    4 days ago
  • JAMER123
    I do believe just what Jan (2BDynamic) has said. We all have a voice but there are times that I know there are time to back off when someone is in a battle whether it be religion or politics. We have a country to heal as it's the most devisive I have ever seen. I pray God leads us in the path He has chosen for us.
    Thanks for a very active and thought provoking blog.
    4 days ago
  • DOVESEYES
    I'm with 2BDYNAMIC :)
    4 days ago
  • CAROLJ35
    Very nicely said! We learned to vote for the person, not the party.
    4 days ago
  • ALEXSGIRL1
    yes stand up for your beliefs in a respectable manner
    4 days ago
  • GRAMMYEAC
    What a powerful blog, Jackie!

    I also grew up in a house where politics was rarely spoken, but was staunchly practiced. As I came of age, during the Viet Nam era, I started to think and question. It made for some interesting discussions on the home front. But I learned that my parents were not iconoclasts; we listened to each other, sometimes changing our minds in one direction or the other, sometimes we agreed to disagree. But it was always respectful.
    4 days ago
  • RCLYKE
    We all have a right to our opinions and the right to express them Here in Canada we will be expressing our opinion on October 21 when we vote in the Federal Election.
    4 days ago
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  • LIVINHEALTHY9
    Good for you for standing up for your beliefs.

    It isn't easy having a different opinion than someone else anymore because it just seems get heated and nasty.
    What happened to civility? I hate the either you are with us or you are against us mentality and unfortunately, I have seen way too much of that lately.
    So I bite my tongue for the most part unless I know I am not going to be berated for my input, especially when it's on sites like Facebook, etc.
    It's really sad it's come to this.







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  • MEADSBAY
    Thank you for sharing your journey to finding your own true voice.
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  • SHERYE
    Awesome thank you emoticon
    4 days ago
  • KOHINOOR2
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  • 2BDYNAMIC
    I have come to the place to not engage where I know there is going to be a bonfire of words. For instance, as a youngster, my family was of a certain partisan belief, as well as thinking the church we attended was the "ONLY" church. As children, we did as we were told, OR else! Children are impressionable and tend to think Mommy and Daddy know best. Until we start actually using the brain God gave each of us. I veered as far as I could from the religiosity of the church we were raised in, and since 1978 formed a lasting wonderful personal relationship with my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. I found he was not full of rules and regulations, nor did he scare me to death, thinking that if I did "anything' wrong, I would burn in hell. (real stuff back then)......... As for political preferences, my older brother and I seldom call each other, just mostly on birthdays ........BUT last time we were on the phone, he started prodding (and prying) to find out my beliefs. To think you would even consider changing from the party of our parents' choice was sacrilegious to his thinking ....... (or my parents when alive) ...... SO he point blank asked what I thought about such and such ........ and I USED the voice that I have and said, "Look--we came to visit you when your son died two years ago, and it was obvious then that we were not on the same page. So, let's not head down a path that could likely severe the brother-sister-relationship and NOT go there."
    Of course that gave it away, which I do not care, and do not owe him an explanation. I guess the point is, it is a slippery slope and I would rather use my voice to pray 1st Timothy chapter 2---vs 1-6 ... humbling myself to pray for this country, so God can heal our land, as He said he would in His word. That is where I use my voice and do it regularly, but I like to keep my relationships light. I guess when it's all said and done: to each his/ her own works for me.
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    Comment edited on: 10/10/2019 12:53:53 PM
  • L*I*T*A*
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  • BIRBKITTEN1234
    You are a strong woman!
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  • NASFKAB
    All the best.
    5 days ago
  • FAYFITZ
    My mom too! Only, I never found out what direction she leaned in ( she died when I was 20), she kept things that private. She said as a public servant she wasn't allowed to advertise party affiliation. I kind of carried that over to work and was shocked when coworkers at a new mid-west company would talk politics, especially managers. All my coworker friends are Republicans and we rarely talk about politics during our get-togethers, but I speak up when they do. Thanks for sharing!
    5 days ago
  • GEHUGHES
    The key is educating oneself by reading a variety of sources from both sides of issues and then making decisions for yourself.

    Yes, you do have a voice! Thanks for sharing!
    5 days ago
  • GARDENCHRIS
    being respectful is the answer
    5 days ago
  • POINDEXTRA
    All of the bigger parties here, Democratic, Republican, and Libertarian have things I agree AND disagree with. That's why I won't declare a particular party affiliation. As you said, it's very important to listen to multiple viewpoints, discuss respectfully, and then make informed decisions. Brava to you for making your voice heard.
    5 days ago
  • GODS-PRINCESS
    good for you!
    having a voice is so important!
    5 days ago
  • IOEINC
    What a great blog!! My father was a Quaker who despite his beliefs enlisted during World War II. He was a lifelong Democrat but taught my brothers and me the value of looking at both sides of an argument, educating ourselves and then finding our own voice based on a variety of factors. That was the greatest gift he could have ever given us. But the one thing he always stressed that no matter how passionate we felt about something, it was to always respect the other person's point of view, even if we disagreed with it. Sadly civility, not just in politics, seems to be vanishing and we all need to remember that kindness and respect goes a long way to try to bring it back!!
    5 days ago
  • SNOOPYLINKOS
    Politics definitely weird subject! My folks always talked about what was going on and the key players, but I didn't realize there were different political parties! I thought you just voted for the people who would keep our country safe and strong and proud. Wow surprise, apparently that isn't it at all. I'm so disappointed, I'm still going to vote for those who make me proud to be an US American.
    5 days ago
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  • DONNA_VT
    Rspectful dicussion is not a bad thing. I like to think of myself as an independent . . . not a fan of either bog party or the alliegences that their members seem to require.
    5 days ago
  • 1CRAZYDOG
    Proud of you that you found your voice. I am grateful that my parents always encouraged debate. I think no matter what our opinions are, the most important ingredient is presenting them w/respect. AND for the listener to return that respect. Doesn't mean you and the listener have to agree, but just respect the opinions expressed.
    5 days ago
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  • ARNETTELEE
    You go girl....you make your own decisions and stick with it. I am not into politics but I am a democrat.
    5 days ago
  • TWIGBISKIT5
    Voice and rejoice but remember to listen to the greatest voice of all, God's voice . His makes everything right and pure. Have a blessed day 🙏 😇
    5 days ago
  • NELLJONES
    I was also taught that religion and politics were forbidden subjects, but only in public. At home we were free to talk.
    5 days ago
  • SIXPACKEDDD
    Great to have a voice. Even greater to realize the most important voice [GOD]. Simplifies everything. “I and my Father are one 🤞” nuff said.
    5 days ago
  • AOKDIET21
    Civil voices and having different beliefs in USA accepted
    5 days ago
  • MARYJOANNA
    It is important to stand up for your beliefs!
    5 days ago
  • LESLIELENORE
    Thank you for speaking up. I believe that people can agree to disagree, but it needs to be done respectfully. I am so glad that you found your voice!
    5 days ago
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