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Looking back with fresh eyes

Monday, October 07, 2019

In a fit of nostalgia, I was wandering around the Internet one day and came across the website of the Old Girls’ association of my school, 1962 - 1969. I asked to join it and was asked to confirm my request. Actually, my overall memories of school were kind of “meh” and I didn’t bother to confirm, but a few days later, I was made a member anyway.

Looking at the site and reading, I found that the members had many happy memories of school and close relationships with the teachers. They remembered all sorts of tiny details and I thought, “How on earth could they (bother to) remember all that?” They celebrated the 100th anniversary of the school recently, and there were only two years unrepresented, mine and one other. I wondered if the atmosphere may not have been good in my year. I remember girls saying they hated everything about the school, which even then I thought was unreasonable.

I reconnected with a girl I was slightly friendly with. I’d often wondered about her over the years because she was kind of angelic. I’d overheard teachers saying she’d had a very hard time but I didn’t know the details. She filled me in. She certainly was very strong. She wants to stay in touch and it would be nice to meet again.

I know my school gave me a good education and some of my best memories are of music - the orchestra and the choir. I posted a photo of the orchestra and it started a stream of chat. I was reminded by their remarks that I liked two of the teachers in the photo very much. I’m remembering all the good things about the school now. My "meh" memories may have been affected by the general atmosphere of my year, girl cliquiness, and probably by my becoming an introverted teenager after being an extroverted primary school kid.

It’s nice to look back on those seven years and think about the good things though. The lesson I take from this experience is to look back more kindly on the past. It may have been better than I thought.
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    It's so interesting that our memories can "change" (and for the better!!) with positive input. Love it, so well worth remembering!!
    99 days ago
    Just today I finished writing my memoir that I began the first of this year. It amazed me all the things that happened--flooding my memory bank even down to minute detail. Some good--some not so good, kind of life.
    99 days ago
    Truthfully I don't remember much from my school days - good or bad.
    I'm in touch with only a handful of school friends - mostly through Facebook.
    Nice that you were able to reconnect with an old friend.

    103 days ago
    I felt pretty "meh" about school too. Not that I didn't have fun or friends or even some dark times - but it was just that I was so anxious to be in charge of my own life - and that meant I had to be "grown up" and school was sort of the fiery ring I had to jump through to get to ... my own apartment. LOL!

    Anyway - I think it's cool you connected with folk from your childhood, especially if you're going to take a trip back next year.

    And mega congratulations on the new grandson! weeeeee. Isn't being a grandmother wonderful?
    103 days ago
    I tend to remember mostly the negative things, too. Actually, I think our brains are wired that way (maybe something about avoiding danger), so it takes a leap toward higher humanity to look back and see things anew. We can rewrite our stories, and I'm glad it happened to you, Margaret, and that your reaching out will likely result in increased happiness, peace, and renewed friendships.

    103 days ago
    I always loved school! I didn't care much for high school and have never been to one of the reunions because we moved from a big school to a very small town school and it was very different and hard to be accepted. But I always cared more about the lessons and learning than the stuff/fluff surrounding school.
    105 days ago
    I think it’s worth to find out if joining the group to find out about your school time back then. It might gives you different views. Good luck.
    105 days ago
    I never have looked back at my school days, hated every single moment I was there.
    105 days ago
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    I love staying in contact with old friends from the high school dsys. And Fall makes me so nostalgic. Homecoming, pep rallys, bonfires.....
    105 days ago
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