The Strength Must Come From Inside
Thursday, September 05, 2019
I can try to get those around me to support my weightloss and self-care efforts, but in the end the strength to persevere must be from within. There will always be food-pushers. There will always be people who tell me to take care of myself and then try to manipulate to get me to do what they want when they want it. I am a people-pleaser by nature, but have learned to reign it in. I have had to work hard to become a stable tree with firm roots where no matter what winds blow or what storms come, I may lose some branches, but I stand tall and with resolve.
Most importantly, I have needed to become my own advocate and protector and I have had to learn to let go of caring what people think of me. I remember a famous world-traveling chef claiming it was rude to ever reject food from someone because it was like rejecting them or their culture. I respectfully disagree. I feel I have a right to say "It looks delicious, but I am full." In my opinion, if the person gets offended, that is their issue, not mine.
Part of maintaining my weight is keeping boundaries in general. I was tested this past weekend when I spent time with extended family. My own sibling bad-mouthed me taking out of context the times I set limits when it came to helping a parent. I didn't run to junk food. I didn't set the record straight or start a huge fight. I simply maintained my distance from that family member, reminded those who gave me digs that there was a whole context to that story and I reminded myself of all I had done and I was at peace.
The true gems in life are those who allow you to be strong. They don't attempt to chop down your tree and create storms and turmoil. Regardless though, the strength and resolve must be internal. We don't need permission or approval to take care of ourselves. We just need the fortitude.