Monday - baby steps into the land of the living today
Tuesday, July 23, 2019
Today was a day of firsts since surgery. First time I saw my wound and the 20-30 staples running along my leg. First time I was allowed to shower since the surgery - boy did that feel great! First time since I came home I have put on public clothes - not just a comfy nightgown. By the time I did that, I was worn out. . . . BUT, I wasn't done yet!
The next adventure was a drive in the car to go for PT. It was not horrible but it was tiring. I thought PT would be 30 minutes, it actually was 90 minutes. It was long and challenging but also felt great because it included time on the TENS unit, massage, icing, in addition to the exercises.
After PT, I went out to lunch with Ed and my best friend Dottie and her mother Mary who is also a friend. I asked for an extra chair to rest my leg on while we ate. It was fun, but by the time I was home, I was exhausted and it was almost 4:00 p.m.
Ed went off to the County Fair, where he was working in the kitchen all evening. He enjoyed himself was he was tired out - made and sold about 500 country ham
While he was out, I napped and was awakened by a call from my stepbrother who I haven't spoken to in ages since he moved away 5 years ago. Ed and I had been helping him, visiting and running errands while he was going through his first serious bout with colon cancer. He was relying on us to do much that he couldn't do for himself. Then suddenly, he left and moved across the country without even telling us goodbye. It was very weird and while we had no animosity towards him, we were a bit hurt and confused by his actions. I mean Ed was driving him to doctors appointments a couple of times a week that meant an hour's drive to pick him up, an hour and a half drive to the appointments and then an hour wait before the 2 and a half hour return trip. Ed asked nothing of him and while about once a week he got $10 for gas, he was spending far more than that each time he helped him out, yet he couldn't even say goodbye when he left. Well he called and after 5 years wants Ed to drive an hour each way, clean out his truck, get his tools and stuff and then presumably ship the stuff to him. He'll let Ed have a ten year old tv if he does it. I feel like it is pretty presumptuous to expect this when he hasn't kept in touch for five years, and wasn't even grateful for what we did before he moved away. We bent over backwards for him - not because we were close - but because despite the tenuous relationship connection, that's what family does. He became my stepbrother when his mother and my father got married when we were already in our late 50s, so it wasn't like we were raised together or anything. I didn't even meet him until about six years ago when he moved in with my stepmother. Am I crazy or is this a lot to expect under the circumstances? Maybe I am a bit annoyed because he never even asked how we are before cutting straight to the request for this rather large favor.
Anyhow, I told him that I would talk with Ed but that it would be at least a week before he would have a chance to even think about whether or not he can do it with all the other demands on his time.
Sorry for the venting. It was a long day and I am definitely ready for a good night's rest. I have to start my day tomorrow early with my CPM machine at 5:30 and then leaving the house for PT before 8:00 a.m.
Have a blessed and healthy day!