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Should have know better

Saturday, July 13, 2019

Okay, I should have known better, but I believed my mother when she professed that she also wanted to eat better and lose some of her weight. Three days ago she asked if I would help her, fix whatever I was eating, help her plan her meals. I told her it would mean giving up her sweets, which she eats daily, and eating more fruits and veggies. She said she was ready.

So I planned some dinners I thought she would like, bought groceries for all of us, bought extra of my snacks, strawberries, sunflower seeds, etc. Spent time making a list of possible breakfast and lunches and snacks (for when I was at work).

Day one: Instead of the turkey sandwich with light mayo.... she fixed bacon, cheese, and tomato with regular mayo. For breakfast rather than the scrambled or boiled eggs she fixed fried and added three pieces of sausage and two pieces of toast. When I asked why the changes and explained how many calories and fat she'd eaten, she said she hadn't understood but would do better.

Day two. She wouldn't tell me what she ate but swore it was healthier. My father shook his head behind her to let me know it wasn't true. I pointed out the list again and she said she'd stick to it.

Day three: I get home for work and she has hit the grocery store while I was gone. She stocked up on all the things we need to avoid if there is any chance of us ever losing weight. Dips, chips, cookies, two pies, and she bought a chocolate cake from Butcherblock (one of the best places in town which makes desserts).

I say, Mom why would you buy this junk when you said you were trying to lose weight. She says, don't be mad. Here I bought your favorite cookies and hands me a package of chocolate covered Oreo cookies. They are my kryptonite. I swear my stomach did a roll and my mouth tingled and I held those cookies in my hand and thought, one wouldn't hurt. I could eat it instead of a snack. Add just one to my lunches each day just so I had a bit of a pick-me-up.



I took the cookies, opened the package, and dumped them into the trash.

Why did you do that? Those aren't cheap! she says.

I take the handle of the broom and proceed to crush, smash, and mix the cookies into the trash because I don't want to give in to the temptation and grab one of the cookies on top. The top ones look fine. I know they will taste better than fine.

I am now hiding in my bedroom but I swear I can still smell the cookies.

I'm going back to planning my own food, fixing my own dinner and if my parents want to eat something different then no biggie. When, and if ever my mother wants to lose weight, then she will have to do it the same way I am. One day at a time. One good decision at a time. I don't think she will. I think her weight is going to kill her and that makes me sad.

I've read that everyone has to run their own race. You can't run it for anyone else. Nor can you carry someone. I'm not strong enough to carry her. Not now. Maybe in the future, I'll try again.


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  • HAPPYDAZ1
    I am so proud of you dumping those cookies in the trash. Sends a great message to your mom that you at least are taking things seriously.

    perhaps iin your mom's case, the big move was a bit too much all at once for her? Sometimes people need to make change in very small steps so they don't even realize anything is changing or the change is just a little and not so drastic. If you attempt again, make sure she is part of the process. Make her get involved in the meal planning...you doing it for her doesn't give her any stake in the game. If she does the plan with a little help from you (maybe more help than she will realize) it will be HER plan and not your plan. Make this be HER change, HER desire, HER thing...not YOURs.

    Food for thought...if at first you don't succeed try try again.
    99 days ago
  • 19TWEETY66
    You are doing an AMAZING job! I agree with the others, your Mom has to WANT to change before it's ever going to happen. Maybe, just maybe you are the inspiration she needs. Hopefully, she will notice the great changes in you and decide that she really needs to do the same. Praying for you and her! Keep up the good work!

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    Blessings,
    Julie


    100 days ago
  • LINDA7677
    Mom needs to come to her own convictions. You do what you need to do. I know you will still be available for support and advice when she is ready .
    100 days ago
  • LORIEGIRL213
    Great job! Your mom will have to do it herself. You cant do it for her. She needs to make the change. Good luck on your journey.
    100 days ago
  • DLDMIL
    Yes, you can not force her to change. She has to really want it, before she will make the changes. Keep up the great work that you started for you. YOU are the most important right now.
    Prayers for you.
    100 days ago
  • EMORRETI
    I'm really glad you stayed strong when it wasn't easy. I know it's so much harder to eat healthy when people around aren't interested in doing so themselves. You are awesome!
    100 days ago
  • ROBBIEY
    Keep on pushing
    100 days ago
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