The above article discusses "True Symptoms and Signs of ADD". It is true that all the testing for ADHD/ADD is set up for those ages 6-12 years old with a bias towards males. When I read this, I went, "YES YES YES!!! that is far better way to determine ADD/ADHD."
1. Interest-Based ADHD Nervous System.
I have always been able to hyper-focus on that which interests me, to the point that everything else is completely out of my vision and hearing. I can forget about who is around me, and time when I'm hyper-focused.
This quote from the article is very true for me: “I have never been able to make use of the three things that organize and motivate everyone else: importance, rewards, and consequences.” It is the reason I struggle at work with paperwork. I have to constantly reward myself to keep focused, whether it's going down the hall for coffee or reading something interesting for 5-10 minutes (and yes I time myself).
2. ADHD Emotional Hyperarousal
Most people expect ADHD to create visible hyperactivity. This only occurs in 25% of children and 5% of adults. The rest experience an internal feeling of hyperarousal. When I ask people with ADHD to elaborate on it, they say:
“I’m always tense. I can never relax.”
“I can’t just sit there and watch a TV program with the rest of the family.”
“I can’t turn my brain and body off to go to sleep at night.”
As I shared in an earlier blog, my brain never shuts down, even when meditating. My muscles are never relaxed, I always feel like I'm on edge.
3. 3. Rejection Sensitivity
This is the one which made the Mental Health Therapist I work with laugh - in a good way. It's true though, rejection may not be the reality, it may be the perception and it feels real. My body has always responded to emotional triggers in large ways. I'm constantly working on bringing down the responses. I've also learned to check in with people because I often perceive being rejected, when I'm really not. I have always known since I can recall that I mixed up signals, when it comes to myself and how others perceive me.
On the positive end, I was fortunate to be raised in a home where my quirks were not suppressed - that came later in the school system. I was able to develop deep empathy and connection with others. Because as a child I held no fear and impulse control was not in my radar, I connected up quickly with strangers - often the children in school who were the outcasts or loners. I could walk through a campsite and within minutes, I'd have new friends. I'd run into situations to assist others, where my peers would stand back.
I also spent many a time feeling really sick to my stomach, crying really hard because I thought a friend didn't like me anymore - for simply doing an activity with another friend.
Even though I'm an adult, there are still many times this comes up for me. The difference is, I have developed strategies to move through it.
On that I'll leave you with memes:
...........and this is 100% me, my good friend sent it to me saying, "I'm not laughing at you, I'm laughing with you" because it's so true!!