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What's your definition of success?

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Sunday, July 07, 2019

In this weight loss game we are playing, I mean. Is it just setting a number, and when a number smaller than that number appears on the scale, you win, and the game is over?

Or are there legitimate wins along the way to a final destination?

Or is just being a little bit better than you were before, whether that before was yesterday, last week, last month, etc just fantastic in your book, and may all those little better thans add up to a grand conjuration of success on that scale?

I find myself not sure what my answer is. I'm down about 25 pounds from March 2018, I think I can safely say that. But I'm still 6-7 pounds higher than when I first visited Spark People, back in September of 2011. And I'm nearly 40 pounds higher than when I reached my lowest subsequent weight in March of 2013.

That said, I've been feeling pretty okay about the weight, even though I'm realizing I'm likely not going to meet the set-in-October-2017 goal of getting down to 200 pounds by October 2019. My weight loss is a slow grind, and another ten pounds at this point is a 6 month kind of thing, more so than three months.

But then I went to this potluck/party yesterday, and a friend snapped a picture, as he's always doing, and posted it to facebook, and...well....it might as well be a BEFORE picture, what with that bulging stomach, and that little chin being engulfed by the second chin. That pic is disturbing to me, especially with what I just said about being mostly ok with the weight these days. I have a realistic body image, I know that belly exists, I know the multiple chins are there. But it is possible to be in a state of mind where that doesn't become the end all and be all. And now I'm wondering whether that state of mind has been irrevocably altered. Guess I'll find out over the next few weeks.

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    All good things take time. I've lost 50 lbs. in the last 8 to 9 months and I just set a new goal two weeks ago to loose 15 more lbs. but its taking its time starting. So hang in their AHTRAP it will happen for you.
    1 day ago
    All the best
    5 days ago
    Thank you. I'm also in the weight coming off slowly club. Glad it's going in the down direction now.
    9 days ago
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  • PICKIE98
    Resets are part of reality. Health goes hand-in-hand with the weight loss. Start your engine and go for one pound at a time.. Best of luck.
    11 days ago
    We just keep plodding along! emoticon emoticon emoticon
    11 days ago
    I’ve lost a lot of weight but still see the flaws first. It used to get me down but then I remember how much healthier I am and I feel good. My journey is not about how I look, although it’s nice, but rather how I feel. And THAT is awesome.

    Don’t let the picture get you down. I still don’t like taking them but I finally realize, this is ME, warts and all. Those that matter don’t mind and those that mind don’t matter.

    Be proud of how far you have come, don’t look at how far you have to go.
    11 days ago
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    11 days ago
  • JUNETTA2002
    Thanks for sharing.
    12 days ago
    Thanks for sharing this. I understand completely. I have been up and down the scale also, since I started with Spark People back in 2008. I try to avoid pictures and when I do take them I try to have a positive attitude understanding where my body is at. Then I try on clothes and that’s when I tend to get frustrated and have to remind myself that it’s not as easy as I am getting older to lose the weight and the body just doesn’t look the same as it did even 10 years ago. We need to learn to accept ourselves, a healthier self, most definately, for our own mental health. Good luck in your journey❤️❤️❤️
    12 days ago
    I can totally relate to your blog. Sometimes I'm feeling satisfied as well then a picture taken when I'm not posing gives me a whole new perspective of how I look objectively. I think it's good to be OK with where we are, but it's always good to be striving and moving forward as well.
    12 days ago
    Think about how you feel.
    12 days ago
    Pictures can be a wake up call sometimes. Good luck to you.
    12 days ago
    The way you live now is a life style change....not a diet. You are living a healthy life. You are mindful what you eat, & you regularly exercise (pickleball). You are doing great.
    It's a fact of life that as we get older, things will start to loose elasticity...like our chins & our bellies. That trim 6 pack body is only in novels.
    What if you hadn't joined Spark People, would you weigh & feel the same or would you be heavier & not like yourself as much?
    Don't give up. Keep up your good work. Where will you be 6 months from now? 10 lbs lighter or not, that is up to you.
    13 days ago
    There is nothing like an unflattering photo to disturb the peace within!
    Most of the time I am feeling ok, doing my best, and then YUK!
    Who is that chunky lady?
    Treat it like the scale...just one way of looking at things.
    I have noticed that when people look down at their screens, even young the people, their necks look bad.
    13 days ago
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