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Delayed Gratification -- my phrase for today

Saturday, July 06, 2019

Sometimes it helps me to have mental conversations with my inner-self, because I think my problems with food and eating are all in my head and that if I can sort it all out I'll be able to make sense of why I keep messing up and stop getting the same negative results. This is one of these times, so it might not make sense to others. This blog may just be for me.

A local psychotherapist that I follow pointed me to a site called Sixty+Me. sixtyandme.com/start/

I checked out some of the articles and one that caught my attention talked about delayed gratification. This means, putting in the effort now, and not getting rewarded for it until later. This is kind of a no-brainer concept, but very hard to do, at least for me. When you need to lose about 100 pounds it is just so overwhelming and it's so far to go! I get discouraged long before I even make a dent in that number and then eat my way back up to where I was and then some.

I think it is very difficult to think about what I can do TODAY that will make a positive difference in the future. Is eating that cookie in front of me really going to make a difference in the long-run? Maybe not.

But I can see that so much of SparkPeople supports this concept, especially for those of us with a long bumpy ride ahead. For example, breaking big goals down into smaller more reasonable ones that may actually be achievable, say 10 pounds at a time and celebrating each milestone. These efforts accumulate over time and can help us stay the course over the long haul.

The bottom-line, though, is that there has to be commitment, and maybe that is where my problem is. I am not sure I have made that commitment yet; maybe it was just wishful thinking, or maybe I've been in denial about how hard it would actually be. I have come and gone from this site for years, get very motivated and then it gradually fades away. I get very inspired by other people's successes, especially those who have been working at it a long time, but it also makes me feel bad that I haven't yet found the "spark" that others have. Maybe I've been using the "fake it til you make it" approach for too long.

This may sounds pretty negative, but I think it is helpful to get a reality check. It just means I need to keep trying to find out what will work for me.

Anyway, that's the end of my mental exercise.

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    I have a similar experience in that I get motivated to change but then the old habits creep back in when I'm not consciously making an effort to keep it all under control. And it can be such a long slog if you have a fair bit to lose, so it's easy to lose momentum isn't it? I'll tell you what seems to be working for me this time, in case it helps you. I worked out what my maintenance level of calories is. I add my exercise calories to that. On a bad day I allow myself to eat up to that total. But on a good day I eat under that level and those uneaten calories go towards my weight loss. It seems to be working quite well so far. Good luck with finding whatever works for you too!

    Oh by the way, I follow Margaret from Sixty and Me too! She's on Youtube and she has a great newsletter.
    668 days ago
    I had a reality check when I retired. I want to travel and getting in that freakishly small airplane seat did it. I have "ONLY" lost 23 lbs since then but this year that plane seat was better. I have about 45 yet to lose for a total of 70. I made the decision in January 2018 to not leave here ever again, it just spell weight gain. LOL

    emoticon Hope you find that mojo!
    676 days ago
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