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Accept the Apology You Never Got & La Conner Weight Loss Plan

Saturday, June 22, 2019

A few years ago a close friend had an outrageous tantrum at me in reaction to a discussion I was having with someone else. I was shocked by the outburst, no one has every talked to me that way. But I didn't react to it, like I would not react to a small child's tantrum. The friendship continued but I have been a little guarded. Tonight I was shocked when she apologized and said she has been wanting to do this for a long time, and she is sorry she didn't apologize sooner. I was quick to accept her apology. Maybe you have to live long enough to get all the apologies owed to you. But I have something better, accept the apology you never got so you can heal and move on, which is what I did a long time ago.

My update on getting ready for my summer guests. I did one hour of decluttering a guest room (the repository of my indecision). A little morning reading motivated me. "The greatest step towards a life of simplicity is to learn to let go".... Steve Maraboli (from NANASUEH's blog). I stopped thinking about what will happen to 'this' when I get rid of it. Stop! If I don't need, I need to part with it now, and not let these thoughts slow me down. I have got a great start on the room.

Today we went to a brew pub for lunch. I ate a Marie Callender turkey dinner, 280 calories before I went. When I joined the others at the pub, I had only had one obligatory beer, and no food. Saved on calories!

Only 15 days to achieve a weight loss target before the 5% Summer Challenge starts. My goal is small but it will get me into onederland. I will be 199.9 or less by July 6!

We are going to La Conner WA for an 11 days RV vacation with friends we are meeting there. My plan is to have shakes for breakfast, no evening eating, bike daily - even 5 minutes is good, daily walk - even 20 minutes is good. I can do it!

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    I am doing forced decluttering now that I am in the midst of moving. It is really a good thing, and I am glad I am doing it and not my sons, who would be forced to do it later. I still have too much stuff, but it is a start.
    I had a friend go ballistic on me because of a difference in political opinion. Although she has never apologized, we are still friends. Now I never discuss politics around her, but otherwise we have resumed our friendship. Long-time friends cannot be replaced. We share so many memories, and I cherish her friendship. If everyone had the same opinions and hot buttons, we would just be clones. I can accept an occasional insult even though I personally would never lose it like that over an opinion. An opinion is just an opinion. It has only the worth that you give it.
    Thank you for taking your time to be our summer leader. You will be giving so much of yourself, and I want you to know that it is appreciated.

    23 days ago
    Great blog with good advice.
    I often think, Take the High Road. It helps me when I'm tempted to do otherwise. You feel better after too.
    26 days ago
    I love La Conner

    I have three closets and two drawers that are the “repository of my indecision “. Perfect description
    28 days ago
    The apology you never got... I'm a library aide in an elementary school. The teachers have a meeting in the library every Tuesday and they often leave things behind (coffee cups, papers, etc.) and I end up cleaning up after them. I found myself getting angry and wondering if I should say something.

    Then I decided "do it with a happy heart." Changing my outlook -- changed so much. No more anger or resentment.

    Your blog reminded me of this! emoticon
    28 days ago
    Great planning for your RV trip! emoticon
    29 days ago
  • _CYNDY55_
    That's great! You got the apology. emoticon And accepted it!
    emoticon on decluttering! I feel great when I declutter.
    29 days ago
    I'm so glad that friend apologized to you. I had a friend that lied to me about something big and, instead of apologizing and trying to move on, she just stopped talking to me. A 35 year friendship down the drain.

    I hope you enjoy your RV trip. It sounds like you've got a great plan to stay on track and get exercise!
    29 days ago
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    Great planning!
    29 days ago
    An acquaintance who was never pleased it seemed with anyone wasn't with me either. But, it didn't phase me, as said she wasn't with anyone. It was during my worse of the depression, but I slowly had been improving. One day a bunch of us were together when she said she wanted to talk to me. I ADMIT I CRINGED!!

    So off we went. She got quiet (A RARITY!) and than said "I am so sorry. Don't interrupt. I judge you so wrongly. I thought you weren't trying. I am so sorry. I didn't understand." Tears from her (I was in SHOCK!) "I do now. I am depressed and didn't know what it was like. I was wrong. I am sorry Diane.'

    Of course I forgave her. NOT much unnerves me, but that did!!

    Often when someone does an apology it's for us, but it clears them too of a deep burden. I am glad we were both able to let it go. We remain acquaintances.

    I've been cleaning out a friend's place. She's the Aunt of a BFF as kids, but though I am not friends with that former BFF I remained with her aunt all these decades.

    If we love our family/friends as we age we WILL declutter and get rid of unneeded "stuff" we have no current use of. GOOD JOB Lynn!!

    ENJOY the vaca!!
    30 days ago
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    Good job on the decluttering. I used to think like that, but I realized that if I'm not using something, why do I hold onto it when someone else could get some good use out of it.
    30 days ago
    Glad your friend finally decided to let the incident go. You've been at peace for some time and now your friend is likely at peace too. That's great!

    Enjoy your time in La Conner!
    30 days ago
    30 days ago
    glad you got the apology and you were the better person for it
    30 days ago
    It's so nice that your friend apologized. I had a friend do that to me years ago. She later apologized but I remained guarded around her.

    Good job on the decluttering.
    30 days ago
    To hold on to anger for someone else does not harm them it only harms you. I have had to learn to just let the emotions go or the pounds will add on with the comfort food you crave.
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    30 days ago
    Glad your friend finally decided to be at peace. La Corner is an awesome plan. Have lots of successful fun.
    GO, 5% CHALLENGES!!! THE emoticon
    30 days ago
    It's hard when someone says something unkind. You said it well, we forgive for our own sake. Your friend obviously lived with the regret of her outburst for some time and did not have the same peace until she spoke with you. Good lesson there.
    Decluttering can be a monumental task. Makes me groan. I'm working on it. As recipient of multiple generation of stuff and family history, it's surprising how little it means to the generation coming after me.
    30 days ago
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    30 days ago
  • LYNCHD05
    Have fun in La Connor. Sounds like a nice way to spend time with friends.

    Heartfelt apologies are much better than ones asked for.....
    30 days ago
    I'm inspired by your write up on accepting an apology you never got. in order to move on with the relationship. You definitely took the higher road and you should be proud you were able to do that. It's not easy.

    Have a safe trip as you travel to WA.
    30 days ago
    YES! For sure, that’s a lesson I’ve learned in my life, too. Forgive, accept the apology that you didn’t get, because it is healing for YOU. And I always said to my kids that if an apology is in response to asking for it, doesn’t seem to me that it’s heartfelt. Glad your friend apologized.

    Decluttering is difficult! We let emotions take over. I have had many moves in my life and have learned . . . if the thing doesn't give me joy, serve a purpose for me, it's time to let it go, either by donation (if someone else could use it) or tossing. It helps.

    Have fun on your trip.
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  • LOF7203
    Thanks for sharing
    30 days ago
  • LIS193
    Decluttering becomes easier when it serves a purpose.
    In our case we got rid of most our stuff to be able to move back to Europe after 30 years with only a minimal amount of essentials. So freeing!

    30 days ago
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