Feel.... Think of a positive word to put behind the word feel and go for it. If you can't come up with a positive, time to change some stuff in your life. I left my husband in 1998 after 27 years of marriage, divorced in 2002. It wasn't a good marriage so there's that. However, when I left I was so lost, I didn't know me at all. 49 years old and so lost. I was over weight from stress eating. I started Jenny Craig which help jump start weight loss, eventually I gave up JC because it isn't cheap and now a single person, I had to rethink finances. Jump to yesterday, 20 years have past....wait a minute TWENTY YEARS!!! I just shocked myself.
Saturday I took my g. daughter to the movies, so much fun! However, on way to the show, my car started making a weird noises that got worse when I accelerated. PANIC!!! 20 years and I have learned to care for my car...not that the ex did it back in the day. The oil light had come on the day before during a little road trip and I added oil to get through. So, I scheduled an appointment...online (again, one of those amazement things). Long story short, $300 and the car is all fixed up and rolling like a Queen. I even washed and cleaned every inch of her, including the engine bay. While the car was in the shop I trekked to the gym and put in a good time. I am so proud of taking care of the car and myself! Before, I was always tired and haggard, despite a free gym at work I never went there.
For 20 years I have been forced, sometimes screaming and crying, to recognize who I am and develop my own life and path, one that I am proud of. It's not perfect and it continues to evolve, we all must continue to evolve, or lie down and die (figuratively).
I am not advocating that anyone should dump their husband, but at the end of the day...today, have something to look back on and be proud of. Even a small action. Maybe you need to exercise. 10 minutes, walk around the block, do a few chair exercises. Maybe you need to rekindle your love for crafts or reading a good book. First steps are worthy of being proud.
I advocate waking up every day with renewed enthusiasm to feel happy, feel proud, feel strong, feel positive feelings for who we are. EVERYDAY!