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Thursday, June 06, 2019

How to stop conversation quickest:
Someone says ," Have you lost weight?"
Yes, a few pounds.
How did you do that? How long did it take?

By eating more vegetables and cutting down on concentrated carb foods, like breads. It took about 3 months to lose (whatever ) number of pounds.

3 months! Forget it. I need to lose quicker than that!

Quick end to the conversation.

People aren't interested if ...your way was to change habits and choose more healthy foods. They want 10 lbs in 2 weeks--or forget it!

What this does to me is --well--the end of that topic abruptly, bothers me. I feel like I am "nothing" and my thoughts are not important.

I am very sensitive to people getting "turned off" to my own thoughts on a subject. Like I don't count.

Yet, of course, they will be the same weight in a couple of months, not "down" anything.

Call me frustrated. emoticon

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    I usually just tell them I am making small changes for long term results.
    136 days ago
    Instant results do NOT happen.
    138 days ago
    emoticon Everyone wants a quick fix emoticon
    138 days ago
    It does hurt when people denigrate your wisdom. The weight didn't magically appear in 10 days, so why do they think it should disappear in that amount of time? Maybe bring that point up next time someone says they want/need to lose X lbs in 10 days - ask them if that's all the time it took them to put it on.
    Your/our way - slow and steady - is the way to get it off, but more importantly, to keep it off.
    138 days ago
  • DEE107
    hugs and the truth
    138 days ago
    It is hard not to feel disappointed as you want to help them. Like someone else said you can't help someone if they don't want to be helped.
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    138 days ago
    Truth. You can’t fix what doesn’t want to be fixed in the time necessary to make it so. Maybe respond “a bandaid doesn’t fix a broken leg.” And say no more.
    138 days ago
  • LINDA!
    Losing weight for many of us, including me, is a long struggle. But I am not the type to give up. I am afraid too many people do give up when things don't happen overnight.
    138 days ago
    Posted before this comment was finished. Can't find a delete button.
    138 days ago

    Comment edited on: 6/6/2019 8:13:53 PM
    People already know the answer: eat sensibly, cut out junk and processed food, and move more. They are looking for instant results. Not gonna' happin'!
    138 days ago
    138 days ago
    i just love people that ask for your ideas and then say I cant do that well yes you can and its simple just try. Just keep changing the conversation because they wont ever change so sad.
    138 days ago
    No, no! It’s not you that “doesn’t count”. It’s reality. Don’t be frustrated. Maybe cut it off at the pass, so to speak, by answering the question with, “Yes, I’m pretty pleased. What’s going on in your life, or with your children, or did you go to the quilting show.” Get them to talk about themselves and don’t dwell on weight. Most people just do a self comparison anyway. If you get a genuine compliment, say Thank You, and go to quilting! We want people to notice but it’s such a phenomenon that the 110 pound person will say to you, “Oh, I just have to get this blubber off my tummy too”. Then my 24 pound loss with more to go feels different to me. emoticon
    138 days ago
    Unfortunately, I have had many conversations similar to what you've described. It seems that many are looking for a quick fix and when we're unable to provide them with one, they're not interested.

    What?! Change my habits? Change my lifestyle?

    Yeah … I hear you …

    Good news is that you have chosen to support your health and well-being knowing that you matter, your efforts matter, your health matters and you're the better for it.

    Spark on, my friend! emoticon
    138 days ago
    From Jan. 1st to May 31st, I have been working hard and eating healthy, and I have SLOWLY lost 18 pounds. emoticon It is slow and steady, not a quick fix. My latest NSV? Fitting COMFORTABLY back into a size 14 W dress that I had "fatted out of" in 2018! emoticon Do not let others looking only for a quick fix for weight loss derail YOUR lifestyle changes! emoticon emoticon
    138 days ago
    Most people are moving from diet to diet constantly. Whatever the latest fad diet is. People want a diet where they eat cookies, candy, cake, pie, soda, and lose 10 pounds a week. Even if you could do that your organs know when you have eaten right. You shouldn't ever feel bad about eating healthy and losing weight. Stick with healthy eating. No one may be impressed but your body systems and organs will thank you.
    138 days ago
    138 days ago
    OH some people just do not want to do the work that is needed to become healthier. Thank goodness YOU DO and know how to do it. That's what counts. It is disappointing when you take the time to answer the questions, but . . . so many just do not really care, sadly.
    138 days ago
    It is not that you or your experience or your opinion doesn't count, it's that these people want a quick fix. Why would diet plans have commercials for "quick starts" that promise a fantastic loss in a short amount of time. Nevermind that there is flashed on the screen a disclaimer that this is unusual. It's in small print and only there for a moment. Something else more appealing and distracting is being shown on the other part of the screen, so the disclaimer isn't noticed.
    Keep doing what you're doing that provides results, not empty promises.
    138 days ago
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