Day 3 … still feeling yucky. Massive headache is still hangin’ on. Yet I am staying the course. I didn’t finish supper last night coz I got … full. My tummy spoke up!!!
Remember I gave my BFF of 30+ years a quilting cutting mat while on my month-long vacation. Well … she didn’t like it.
Sometimes you just don’t meet a person’s likes and wants. She knew I bought it for her. She researched it before I bought it at the Denver Mart. We had breakfast at the beginning of our month-long vacation so I could give it to her. Then we spent time together again at the end of our Texas holiday.
So, she didn’t like it. That’s really, really OK with me. Really.
But … I’m not happy. Huh???
What’s not OK is … she didn’t speak up for herself.
She didn’t say anything until much, much later … like a month later and only after I point blank asked if she had used it? What did she think about it?
Why didn’t she say anything???
Coz she was afraid of hurting my feelings.
So … she didn’t say … anything. Didn’t bring it up or bring it to me so I could return it here in the Rockies and get my $$$ money back. All coz she didn’t want to hurt my feelings. So … what did she really accomplish???
It does NOT hurt my feelings that she doesn’t like it … it hurts my soul that she didn’t say anything so that we could correct it and get her something she does like.
How many kajillion times have we not spoken up for ourselves???
Not gotten what we needed??? Wanted??? Deserved???
Suffered in silence??? Not said … anything???
I spoke up in a blog recently that I was looking for a group that is … walkin’ the talk; is taking steps towards their goals; making progress even though life can throw … “challenges” at us.
I have a fantastic group of Sparkers that have reached their goals … maintaining while still learning. I have learned tons and tons from them … and they are very, very supportive. Thank you, thank you. Love ya tons.
I need a group that is still on their journey, who is committed to walking down the bumpy road to health, holds each other accountable, friends that are not “mean” but don’t allow friends to drive food “intoxicated”.
BFF now has a quilt cutting mat that she doesn't like taking up room in her craft room coz she didn’t speak up. Hmmm???
I’m speakin’ up for myself.
Change your mind … and the rest WILL follow.