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I Want To Scream With Frustration!

Sunday, May 26, 2019

After weeks of waiting and preparing, I am ready for my surgery. Five weeks is a pretty long time to wait. Shopping is done. Conflicting appointments have been rescheduled. Pain medication prescriptions have been filled and post operative appointments have been made. Chores have been completed. I have had my intake conference with the surgery center and received a confirmation call to give me the time to arrive for surgery and actual time of surgery.

Yesterday, a friend got married. Right before we were ready to walk out the front door, I got a call from the surgery center. My surgery has been cancelled. Gaahh! Why? The nurse explained that the doctor had a death in the family. Supposedly, it was in his immediate family. If it's really true, then my heart goes out to him and his family. It is out of my control and there is nothing I can do. But...... forgive me if I sound skeptical. It's a holiday weekend and the surgery was schedule for the day following a holiday weekend. Yes, many deaths do occur over holidays. There was just something in the nurses tone that made me pause. I told her to convey my deepest sympathies to the doctor and his family. She had a very brisk response telling me she would. Then we had a conversation about the fact that I had already waited 5 weeks for the surgery. When would I be rescheduled? Could she give me an alternate date?
There was a long pause.......well, we can have someone call you on Tuesday and you can discuss that. She told me that she would write my concerns in my chart. When someone contacts me, we will discuss specifics of the rescheduled surgery.

That whole conversation seemed a bit off to me. Perhaps the doctor took some time off from his practice, maybe due to a death. Maybe something happened to the doctor himself. If that is the case, I feel for all the people involved. Death of a loved one can be devastating.

Then another thought occurred to me. Maybe the doctor just wanted to take a longer weekend
and couldn't do surgery if he partied the night before. (There are lots of rules about alcohol and doing surgery.) Who knows what the real story will be.

Right now, although I feel sympathy for the doctor and his family, I'm dealing with my own issues. Hubby and I have rescheduled all kinds of things around my need for surgery. What do I do now? Obviously, I will need to wait until Tuesday to discuss my options for surgery. I have already decided that if the doctor pushes my surgery back towards August, I will find another doctor. I've been playing with this hand issue since February 9th. That's way too long. I find myself wanting to scream with frustration but I'm conflicted because of the possible pain that others are experiencing.

I will just let out my frustration quietly at home and hope that things just happen to work out for the best.
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    Hey,, if you need someone to listen to you scream, I'm here. I could come there. If you need someone to scream with you, I am there! I can scream for you and me, too!
    276 days ago
  • L*I*T*A*
    hoping and praying things will work themselves out quickly for you........

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    276 days ago
    That does sound frustrating. I hope they reschedule quickly.
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    277 days ago
    I truly am sorry for what you are going through. I have had 6 joint surgeries and I know all to well the anticipation you go through pre op. I will pray for you peace and understanding. God bless 🙏
    277 days ago
    Oh no! How sad that the Dr had a death in his immediate family - assuming that occurred. But I feel awful for you that your surgery had to be cancelled. I hope that you get it resolved when you call on Tuesday and they are able to reschedule it quickly! Best wishes!
    277 days ago
  • GABY1948
    I am SO sorry to see this, Cyndi. Just tell yourself it is what it is and try to not think of it until they call again!

    Once it is over (finally) you will be so relieved that this will just be a distant memory!!

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    277 days ago
    So sorry you're going thru this! Definitely if the surgery is postponed till august, I'd be looking for another surgeon . . . and think I'd let that Dr. know, too.
    277 days ago
    How frustrating! Hopefully this will be one of those "silver lining" situations where the result will be better than the original plan.
    277 days ago
    Sometimes it makes you wonder. I would be skeptical too. Too bad the nurse couldn't bring herself to at least sound sincere and empathetic to your situation. Maybe you were on her list of calls to make and she was worn out from others who are equally upset.
    If there was truely a reason for the reschedule then of course we would understand and be sympathetic but having been in a similar situation I too would be skeptical. Hope this gets resolved very soon.
    277 days ago
    I absolutely hear you loud and clear and understand your frustrations and disappointment--having waited so long and planned your whole life around this. It is not easy when the apple-cart gets upset like this one did. I do hope all works out in the long-run for you, and if necessary, perhaps seeking professional help outside this office may be necessary.
    277 days ago
    Hang in there, and sad there isn‘t another surgeon for you!
    277 days ago
    I hear your frustration, waiting TIL the phone call tues seems like a good decision. Good that you have a back up plan and you are right the whole thing seems “off” best of luck to you
    277 days ago
    I hope it works out for you soon
    277 days ago
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