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Thursday, May 16, 2019

It has been a very long time since I have blogged on this site.

First, let me start off by saying that I FINALLY graduated with my bachelor's degree in Accounting this past Saturday! A dream come true for me.

Second, and the reason for this blog, is to ask a question. How do you guys deal with a partner who is an enabler? I ask my husband to help me all the time with my food choices and portion control, and even though he says he will, he never does. His excuse is, he likes to see me happy and he knows food makes me happy. Which is all true and to be fair, I do get cranky when I'm hungry... but still... I need the stern hand of someone to tell me to stop eating that food or don't put some much on my plate. I can't do it myself, no matter how hard I try, because I have zero will power. So what do y'all do in a situation like that? How do you give yourself willpower or change your partner's thinking?
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  • NMUTT71
    A good practice is to use a smaller plate. Instead of using the dinner plate in a dish set for your main meal use a salad plate. We tend to fill up all the empty space on a plate so a smaller plate translates into smaller portion. Eat slowly, chew well and drink water between bites. This will help your stomach signal you brain that you are full before you have had the time to eat more than needed. Another great practice is to not buy the trigger foods in the first place. Easy said then done for sure but you have to decide that you are going to love yourself and be your own cheerleader. My husband won't tell me to stop eating something either because he knows that even though I don't have the willpower to stop myself, if he tries to stop me I will likely get upset because my emotional self will think he is saying I'm not good enough for him. Self defeating but we women are a mixed bag of emotions aren't we.

    You can do this April! I know you can!
    1 day ago
    You're simply going to have to love yourself & this, in turn,
    becomes your willpower. Start with adding a few extra veggies
    to any meal for yourself. Think of simple things to do for you &
    this will bring you joy in yourself, your spouse & food choices.

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    2 days ago
  • 2019ITSTIME
    I agree with MAHEDAGO. We make our own choices. I asked my husband to help me once years back to "scold" me when he thought I was eating out of line and it proved to only make it worse and I was getting frustrated with him for doing what I had asked him to do. It was finally up to me to take control and responsibility for what and how I was eating. You will do whats right. Your already back on Spark!! emoticon
    I almost forgot....Congratulations on your degree!!
    4 days ago

    Comment edited on: 5/16/2019 6:51:32 AM
    It's nice to have someone to blame but I have learnt that weight loss is solely my responsibility. Your husband is wise for not getting involved there. Once he sees that this lifestyle makes you happy I am sure he will be your biggest supporter...
    4 days ago
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