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Using positivity after failure

Thursday, January 24, 2019

It amazes me how for some of us who struggle with chronic weight issues are high achievers who somehow settle for constantly failure at weight management. I started reading some blogs and noticed how many bloggers seem to constantly be looking for that “perfect” day. I’m the same way. I wake up every morning telling myself today will be a “perfect” day. I’m going to fit in 30 minutes of exercise even though I have 4 grad school assignments due (I’m working on my 2nd Master’s), several weeks worth of grading (I’m a middle school teacher), figure out a healthy dinner (was out of town over the weekend so didn’t get a chance to meal prep or make a grocery list and didn’t even get a chance to get groceries for the week). I’m always envious of the people who keep exercise as a non-negotiable. I want that too! So, I will start with a few 7 minute workouts rather than the 30 minute workout I know will not happen. I will focus on all the positive things I can fit into my day rather than wake up planning on the “perfect” day which I know will not happen! I will focus on small positive nuggets throughout the day and evaluate my day at bedtime with joy instead of disappointment.
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    874 days ago
    If my journey has taught me anything, it's that there is nothing wrong with failure, as long as you don't give up. I've been at sparkpeople since 2006. I've lost (and regained) 90 pounds, twice! I'm currently 75 pounds down on go #3, and I've finally accepted that this will be a constant lifelong struggle. In the past I would have beat myself up because I still drink a 44oz diet coke everyday and very little water, and I still get almost no exercise. But now I tell myself that I have my whole life to work on this.
    880 days ago
  • RHOOK20047
    Welcome to SparkPeople. We are all here for the same reason, no matter what our personal story is. We are here to help each other to get to that healthy point we want to be in our lives. It is not going to be easy, but it is attainable. Make small goals and they will lead to big successes. You have to make you #1 and tell yourself that you are worth it. And remember you didn't gain the weight overnight and you won't lose it overnight. It takes time, determination, motivation and support. You can get it all right here! If you don't take care of yourself you can't take care of anyone else. If I can help in anyway, feel free to reach out to me! You can do it! We are here to help! Welcome and get active on this site. emoticon
    880 days ago
    My counselor helped me change the 1st waking thought of the day to a less fearful perspective. For a couple years I ask God for "gentle lessons," which invokes learning and safety. I am no longer so hard on myself, and no longer a victim.
    880 days ago
    I now figure that all my PERFECT days will be in heaven. I am trying to set myself up for just doing my best right NOW. One bite at a time. One step at a time. NOT being perfect is very new for me and very ‘freeing.’
    880 days ago
    I too, want that perfect day. The perfect day to start all of my healthy habits, the perfect day of achieving all my goals. I think i will try what you are doing- setting smaller, more achievable goals. Thanks!
    880 days ago
    Good perspective!
    880 days ago
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