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Saturday, December 08, 2018

Yesterday morning DH had a health problem and I asked him to report it to the dialysis clinic. I went to work to do some prep, and the clinic called me back. The impression I got from them was worse than I later found to be the real situation. Perhaps they wanted to make sure I would come back and take him to outpatients. We ended up in the ER, because outpatients was closed, with a very unpleasant young doctor who insisted he be hospitalized. DH flat refused and I didn’t yet know that the problem was smaller than the clinic had said. According to Dr. Google, it’s a problem which many people over 40 have without it causing trouble, though if it does, it can be serious. The doctor at the dialysis clinic said his muscular strength is down since his recent long hospital stay. It seems to me that what he doesn’t need is another hospital stay but some work on building his muscles back up.


Today we had lunch in a hotel and I thoroughly enjoyed it. I noticed that with yesterday’s alarm, I completely forgot about our landlord problems. It feels so clear that it’s our thinking about problems that makes them problems - well sometimes anyway. Not exactly a super original insight but very freeing. The landlord problem is just a minor thorn in the side. It would be very troublesome to move but doable. Whether we move or not, there are advantages and disadvantages and we are free to make our choice, something I worked out while thinking over ideas that WATERMELLEN gave me. If DH’s problem reappears, we can deal with it when it does. Because one problem eclipsed the other, and even that one seems manageable, it seemed like one (problem) plus one equals zero. I lightened up my thinking about both.
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  • WATERMELLEN
    What an uplifting blog . . . not to minimize your difficulties but to congratulate you on the very strong and matter-of-fact manner with which you're addressing them.

    I can't control what happens to me, but a lot of the time I can choose how to think about it.

    And: that lunch looks delish!!
    12 hours ago
  • 1CRAZYDOG
    Glad things worked out. That's the bottom line.

    Glad you and DH were able to enjoy your meal @ the hotel.


    13 hours ago
  • BESSHAILE
    Yes. I'm amazed at how I've manged to breeze through Real Problems while suffering so over minor pinpricks. You're a wise gal - and you've got use to vent to when needed. Gazillion hugs to you and a little more muscle strength for DH!
    16 hours ago
  • MICKEYH
    Sorry to hear about your DH’s health problem. But glad to hear he said firmly no to another hospital stay.
    Muscle build may take some times. Is he getting any physical therapy program at home? Sending prayers. Best wishes for everything especially, for your landlord problem.
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    18 hours ago
  • KENDRACARROLL
    Sometimes the mind goes in circles and we project, which, of course, doesn't make things better.
    Glad both your problems turned out to be less overwhelming than initially thought.
    Best wishes to your DH; let's build some muscle.
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    19 hours ago
  • BILLTHOMSON
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  • BUTTONPOPPER1
    What a positive, original approach to problems! A new problem just sort of knocked an old one out of your mind--that makes me smile! It's hard to focus on more than one thing at a time, isn't it? So time away from your first problem made you come back to it with less anxiety, and then both your problems seemed diminished down to nothing--I'm charmed by your creative math, Margaret! Loved reading this! And I hope your problems stay in the corner a little out of view!

    The hospital experience sounds tough. I've encountered some arrogant doctors here who abhor being questioned, not to mention disagreed with. It's so unpleasant when that happens. I'm glad Shiro's condition was less serious than you'd been led to believe, that you seem to have stood up for yourselves, and that he is resting comfortably at home.
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  • IMLOCOLINDA
    Yes! The beauty of it is that you get to choose how to react! Glad to hear you're feeling better! Lunch looks great!
    1 day ago
  • NEW-CAZ
    Great attitude to adopt when the world is throwing lemons at you.
    I hope DH is okay..............you get great doctors with wonderful listening skills and bedside manner that you trust them with your life- literally.
    Then you get berks like you saw.
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    oh and by the way work on the garden has stopped because of weather - but DH is beavering away making a gate using two panels that were delivered slightly damaged. They say things happen for a reason and he confessed he would have paid out for a new gate! Money saved as we got compensation for the damaged panels AND the delay in delivery in the first place + 2 new "perfect panels".
    1 day ago
  • JOANN25
    I hope your husband is better by now. Sometimes, it just takes getting the right doctor to diagnose the problems correctly.

    Like your positive thinking about the problem. It may not make the problem go away but it can lighten the load for both of you.


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