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Reaching Out for Support and Help

Sunday, November 11, 2018

I have been off Spark for the last 5 weeks due to taking care of my older sister. She lives in a different state. Five weeks ago we were called by one of her good friends telling us that she was in the hospital. My brother and I drove 10 hours to get there and were told by the neurosurgeon the next day that she had a glioblastoma tumor in her brain. (Same as John McCain.) It is impossible to surgically remove all of the tumor as it is one that spreads like roots on a plant. The cyst inside gathers all of the dead cells and continues to enlarge creating pressure in her brain. Right now it is affecting her sight in the occipital lobe and causing a lot of confusion. She has been given 8-15 months to live. We spent the last 5 weeks finding a place for her close to us, clearing out her home for an estate sale and eventual home sale. She has settled in pretty well and we are able to have her in our homes often.

I have done a lot of emotional eating and very little exercise other than the physicality of getting a home cleared. I think I am ready to get back to it since things have settled somewhat. I am going to get a personal trainer for about 12 sessions to keep accountable until I get back into my routine. Now that we are home, I can have more control over what we eat.

I know from reading blogs on this site that many of you have and are experiencing similar situations. I am looking for support and any helpful tips and information that any of you can give.

Thank you for reading this blog even though it is not directly related to much of what is in most blogs on this site. It's a great site and has helped a lot in the past.
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    Oh dear...the worst kind of stress of all. Not resolvable. But you did an amazing job of problem solving in just five weeks. I sincerely hope you are able to find comfort outside food which only adds to our problems. I think it is fair to say now that you have attended to the physical needs of your sis that you are entitled to attend to the problem of how to comfort and care for yourself in a way that will satisfy you and strengthen you and keep you healthy and fit. I hope being back in your home will be a boost. I believe there are support groups for care givers, even some for those dealing with cancer. And if ever there was a time to make a list of the things that give you comfort and help you to escape reality for a little while this is the time. You may have to dig deep. When I am faced with stress of grief I can't even concentrate on rereading old favorite books which is usually my go to escape. Sometimes the only thing I can manage is sudoku or crossword puzzles. This terrible time will pass. And you will have a normal life again. Wouldn't it be splendid if when life gets so hard we got comfort from diet and exercise? I bet there are people who do. I hope that turns out to be true for you
    989 days ago
    So sorry to hear about your sister--sending prayers to you and your family. I just took things day by day. Very Bad days sometimes it was 15 minutes at a time. I kept time for tracking--it was one thing I could keep control over; at least that was how I looked at it at the time and it was helpful. God Bless.
    990 days ago
    Oh I'm sorry for the serious illness of your sister. It is so nice of you to take care of her!
    It is understandable that emotional eating got to you - great job you are getting back on track!

    990 days ago
    Cont... uprooted and you don't iniw what each day will bring. Stress is difficult on the body along with having a loved one sick. Be patient with your self. Prayers to you and your family.
    990 days ago
    This is most definitely appropriate for this site. We emotiotionally eat for many reasons. You have a sick family member with no real hope sadly of a full recovery, you have been traveling, out of your normal routine etc. Your whole life has been ..
    990 days ago
    emoticon All I can offer is my prayers for you and your family as I have no advice to offer. emoticon
    990 days ago
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