A Reminder on "Should" from the past.
Thursday, October 25, 2018
Using the word "should" is a judgment. If you say you 'should' do something or 'should' have done something, you have judged yourself. If you tell someone else they 'should' do something, you have judged the situation and put them under condemnation unless they do what you think they 'should' do. It is a subtle form of control.
I realized I do this a lot -- to me and to others. I need to remember what a teacher taught me. She said say, "If I were you, I would do this. You do whatever you want to."
We are the only ones walking in our shoes. We are the best ones to know what we can do.
"I would if I could, but I can't so I won't." We know what we 'can' do. So, today, I am making a commitment to stop "should-ing" myself and others. How about you?
Have a great day!