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How to move beyond the pain

Tuesday, October 23, 2018

"I look inward for the strength and wisdom that I need and I move beyond the pain that I experience from the challenges in my life."

If anyone has had challenges in their life in the past two years it has been me. I try to overcome them but when it comes times for an anniversary of losing a loved one; well I lose it too! This past two years I have lost my mom, my sister, my brother-in-law, my ex-husband, and 2 cousins. The latter three all in the past 3 weeks. One year ago today I spoke to my sister Connie for the last time. She was in the hospital. They couldn't get her blood pressure regulated. She was a diabetic and had kidney issues. After I spoke to her they moved her to ICU and she died the next morning. I love that I was able to speak to her one last time and that we told each other that we love the other, but the loss, the emptiness still stays with me and even as I write this now the tears are still flowing. I've always been told that I wear my emotions on my sleeve; I can say for sure that is true.

Many of the rest of us suffer loss as well; I know I'm not the only one. How are you dealing with it? How are you getting beyond the grief you feel? I'm so happy to have ways to remember my mom and my sister Connie by going to singsnap I can listen to them sing anytime I want to. It's amazing that one can do that. Their sites and names will be remembered forever on a memory wall there. But the biggest memories are the ones that I hold in my heart. Ones that no one can take away. Sometimes I wonder if that's what makes this grief journey so hard. I have such good memories of all of my family members. We rarely said a cross word to each other we were a family that got along and always saw the best in each other.

One thing I said I would do because of Connie's untimely death was to get healthier for myself. I've accomplished somethings like getting off of most of my medicine. My average blood sugar these past couple of months has been between 125 - 130. And although I'm dealing with sciatic nerve pain I still try to do some form of exercise everyday just to keep moving.

This is my blog for today....moving on from pain whether it be emotional, physical or mental is an individual journey. There is no size fits all in any of these categories. Everyone's journey is unique to themselves, but, sometimes hearing what helps others can in turn help you. Open your heart to those around you. Tell those around you that you love them. If there's a relationship that needs mending, fix it. Time is short. We are not even given a number other than God knows our days. He knows when it's time to bring his children home to him. Are you ready? Has everything you needed to accomplish been completed? I know mine hasn't. I still work on this journey everyday.

With that being said I wish you all a good day. Enjoy the fall weather. It's been pretty nippy here in OH in the morning anywhere between 35 - 45.

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    360 days ago
    Life is so short, and our loved are gone in the blink of an eye. I lost my mom a year ago, and it's hard not having her here, but the memories do help. Thank you so much for this blog, and may God bless you!!!
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    360 days ago
    You're in my thoughts & prayers Donna..........life is very fragile, indeed. Your family members will live forever in your heart. May they all rest in peace.
    361 days ago
    Indeed, telling loved ones bye is one of the hardest things we do. They are always a part of us. With great pain, there is great love. emoticon emoticon
    361 days ago
    You encourage all of us on our individual journeys through grief and pain by sharing your feelings and insights. Thank you for sharing your experiences and daily thoughts with our friendly community. Take care!
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    361 days ago
  • no profile photo CHAYOR73
    I believe talking about our pain helps and time will heal. emoticon
    361 days ago
    Thank you for sharing your memories of your lost loved ones its useful in many ways
    362 days ago
  • READY201811
    Keep writing keep blogging keep Sharing Nothings wrong with memories of the ones we’ve lost
    362 days ago
    I can't tell you how to move thru the grief because it's different for each. All I can tell you is FEEL it, don't suppress it. I journal and I talk to my loved ones every day in my own way. I love Dad in Aug. 2017, my fur baby 9 days later, my brother's MIL 3 days later, and my Mom in Nov. 2017.

    One thing my Dad said to me before he passed away was "Don't grieve for me. Fill that hole in your heart w/good memories.". Well, for sure no way could I not grieve ... I still do, but daily I try to fill that gaping hole w/good memories of all my lost loved ones.

    All the firsts have been tough. Mom's 1 yr. anniversary is on 02 November. We'll honor her memory.

    HUGS, Donna. It's tough.
    362 days ago
    One day@ a time,Donna.Cherish the memories!
    You are so right Life is so short! emoticon
    362 days ago
    Great blog! Thanks for sharing!
    362 days ago
    you are a very strong Lady and you have been threw so much
    you keep going strong and doing your best I admire you

    you inspire me to keep my head held hi and to keep doing my best
    362 days ago
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  • LINDA058
    Thanks for sharing
    362 days ago
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