Monday, October 15, 2018
I logged in today to delete my account since I haven't used it much the last couple years. Life has been a string of challenges: heart failure likely caused by a virus, implantation of a mechanical heart pump, need for a heart transplant, brain hemorrhage, several hospitalizations, broken ankle requiring surgical repair, deaths of three dear friends (in their 60s), moving mom to an apartment and dad to a nursing home, Listing everything, I realize that's a lot. It's been tough on my husband too dealing with all this, with me, and doing all the driving for 10 months meaning 100+ mile round trips 2-3 times a week for stroke rehab, physical therapy, and other appointments. We live 30 miles from most things and 60 from anything more.
Being unable to walk for 10 weeks certainly gave me a greater appreciation for the issues my friend with MS had. Some places claiming to be wheelchair friendly aren't. It's a joy when you enounter the ones that are. My confinement was a good lesson. What kept her going was the love and devotion of her husband, family, friends and the help of a good medical team. Her husband was equally as amazing as she. When she was cranky, which was often, he'd call her on it in a reasonable way, and he didn't complain about all he had to cope with or the years he cared for her with no help. She once said he was the epitome of patience, and that's why their marriage survived. I've never known anyone like them though suspect there are a good number of other inspiring people out there.
I'm always amazed by the challenges people endure and survive both now and through the centuries. We are a resilient species. I'm not deleting my account, at least not today. My husband will ride his bike and I a recumbent trike as we continue despite everything on this gloriously sunny fall day. We will soak it in and smile.