Sunday, July 29, 2018
This isn't your normal 'stuck' blog. Unfortunately, this has more to do with my home life than my weight loss, which is going great but I think my stress is probably contributing to it.
I have been with my daughters father since I was 21. So it's been 13 years. When we first met, he was sociable, likable, the guy people would gravitate to, and just an all around fun guy to be around. Within the last 3 - 5 years he has completely changed. He's been dealing with some issues (he has a severe dry eye condition that causes buildup in the corner of his eye). He has become so self-conscious and has so much anxiety about this (because he thinks people avoid him because of it or jump to conclusions, or even talk about him behind his back). He passed up a job because of it. So, he has basically went from this guy who was so likable to secluding himself. He goes down to the basement and spends little to no time with me or our daughter.
I recently told him that he has to get help and speak to someone about his issue (he has anxiety and I believe he is depressed) and let him know that if he cannot do this, then I will have to leave. As hard as that is, and I love him more than anything but at the end of the day, this behavior is detrimental to him, to me, and most importantly to our daughter. It's important for me to show her that a relationship should not be one sided BUT it's also important that se sees her parents happy.
I really am conflicted about this ultimatum because I've stood by him for 13 years and I am his biggest support. He doesn't speak to anyone but I cannot be the only one to feel the weight of his issues. :( I wish there was a handbook for this. Any advice or support would be great.
Thanks for listening if you got this far!